# Are you aware of any networks for people shut in their home? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 13, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073 "2016-01-13T21:35:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/181 "2016-01-19T04:53:26Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > I’ve noticed a pattern: > > You complain about your parents, being unemployed, living at home, having no drivers licence, etc etc, and then, when people start to criticize you, \ suddenly all of these are not problems anymore and we “don’t understand”, all of a sudden its completely acceptable to you to have these “problems”. I am sorry – I honestly do not know if these issues are problems or not. My life could be better or it could be worse. Many people are much happier then me, many others are much unhappier. I want everything to be better, but I must appreciate everything I have. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/182 "2016-01-19T04:54:27Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > So, why do you even WANT any kind of companionship? Of people not overcritical of me. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/183 "2016-01-19T04:57:32Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > > [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > > > You are unnecessarily cagey at times; you’re not being asked to reveal state secrets. All you need to say is that you have discussed (with your parents, therapist, lawyer, etc.) the issue of how you’ll lived independently and you have a plan in place. You need not share details beyond that. > > In 1992 I was 22, I had many good friends. And for $10 from my allowance (smaller then) I bought a super tape by [Damn Yankees](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyzmfoSNTks). > > One phrase I remember very well – if you are nice to people they will tread on you! Why are so many of your posts (such as this one) completely unrelated to that which you’re responding to? ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/184 "2016-01-19T04:57:53Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > \ suddenly all of these are not problems anymore and we “don’t understand”, all of a sudden its completely acceptable to you to have these “problems”. What does \ mean? ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/185 "2016-01-19T04:58:33Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am sorry – I honestly do not know if these issues are problems or not. My life could be better or it could be worse. Many people are much happier then me, many others are much unhappier. I want everything to be better, but I must appreciate everything I have. 1- you really need to stop changing the size of your words, people are going to get tired of it quickly, and it is not going to work out well for you. 2- your written skills are fine, you do not need to change the color or size of your font 3- i think you know these topics are problems, otherwise, you wouldn’t complain. but you get feedback, realize it will take work to change, and then you want to pretend like there is no problem. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/186 "2016-01-19T04:59:06Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Of people not overcritical of me. So your plan is to… refuse to be nice, and you expect people to not be critical of you? Good luck with that. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/187 "2016-01-19T05:00:03Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > What does \ mean? synonym for abracadabra ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/188 "2016-01-19T05:00:24Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > i think you know these topics are problems, otherwise, you wouldn’t complain. but you get feedback, realize it will take work to change, and then you want to pretend like there is no problem. I guess these are problems, but if the solution involves lots of work, then it’s not worth trying. These are problems I can tolerate. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/189 "2016-01-19T05:06:12Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I guess these are problems, but if the solution involves lots of work, then it’s not worth trying. These are problems I can tolerate. really? so after multiple threads/topics on your various problems, people spending days at a time helping you, your response is if it takes lots of work, you don’t want to hear about it? the only thing that is going to take lots of work is changing your attitude you can have a better life… you really can. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/190 "2016-01-19T05:10:23Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > really? > > so after multiple threads/topics on your various problems, people spending days at a time helping you, your response is if it takes lots of work, you don’t want to hear about it? > > the only thing that is going to take lots of work > > is changing your attitude > > you can have a better life… you really can. I am sorry. I am not talking about problems, but about my life – which is very much different then that of an average American. Does not every one here talk mostly about their experience? My life has advantages and disadvantages. I have much less freedom but also much less responsibility and workload then most Americans. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/191 "2016-01-19T05:16:44Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am sorry. I am not talking about problems, but about my life – which is very much different then that of an average American. Does not every one here talk mostly about their experience? > > My life has advantages and disadvantages. I have much less freedom but also much less responsibility and workload then most Americans. Me too. That is one advantage of being unemployed or working part time. You have freedom. Lots of people on this site have psychological or psychiatric problems or have some other issue of a personal nature. Most of us… we don’t start threads about it specifically, or, do so rarely. Most of us, we mention it in small ways as we go about posting on SDMB. But when/if we do make a thread complaining or asking for advice: we listen to the advice. ---
**Author:** ![Reluctant\_A](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/839c29/32.png) [@Reluctant\_A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reluctant_A)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/192 "2016-01-19T05:17:35Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Why are so many of your posts (such as this one) completely unrelated to that which you’re responding to? I, too, would be interested in the answer to this question. Many of **CCitizen’s** responses to this thread have seemed like Non-Sequitur Theater. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/193 "2016-01-19T05:19:16Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > Me too. > > That is one advantage of being unemployed or working part time. You have freedom. > > Lots of people on this site have psychological or psychiatric problems or have some other issue of a personal nature. Most of us… we don’t start threads about it specifically, or, do so rarely. Most of us, we mention it in small ways as we go about posting on SDMB. But when/if we do make a thread complaining or asking for advice: we listen to the advice. Thank you for sharing – even if I was 100% independent from my parents but worked 40 hours a week I would not be free! If only more people talked about their problems, the World would be a much better place. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/194 "2016-01-19T05:22:23Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Thank you for sharing – even if I was 100% independent from my parents but worked 40 hours a week I would not be free! If only more people talked about their problems, the World would be a much better place. Actually, no, you want to vent your problems on strangers, you want us to listen, but you don’t want to change. The world would be a lot worse, actually, if people complained all the time but never changed. I recognize it takes courage for you to talk about these things. You need to take one more step: action. (even a small step) ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/195 "2016-01-19T05:26:55Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > Actually, no, you want to vent your problems on strangers, you want us to listen, but you don’t want to change. I am not sure I need any major changes. Maybe minor changes. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/196 "2016-01-19T05:31:37Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am not sure I need any major changes. Maybe minor changes. ok tell me one minor change you’ve made from a suggestion you got here except for trying new software ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/197 "2016-01-19T06:04:52Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I guess these are problems, but if the solution involves lots of work, then it’s not worth trying. These are problems I can tolerate. Then stop whining and asking strangers for advice you never had any intention of taking. Tolerating is not whining. > [@CCitizen](#): > > I am not sure I need any major changes. Maybe minor changes. Minor changes won’t win you friends. Either you sincerely want friends, or you want to avoid major changes and have everything remain just as it is, friendless and all. You can’t have it both ways, SO PICK ONE. It is literally that simple. Make your choice. Friends or status quo? ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/198 "2016-01-19T07:58:24Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > 1- you really need to stop changing the size of your words, people are going to get tired of it quickly, and it is not going to work out well for you. > > 2- your written skills are fine, you do not need to change the color or size of your font > > 3- i think you know these topics are problems, otherwise, you wouldn’t complain. but you get feedback, realize it will take work to change, and then you want to pretend like there is no problem. Many ARE tired already. It won’t happen, but just once I would like to see a thread started by CCitizen go **completely unanswered**. I find the infinite patience that many of you have with him really intriguing. And I suppose somewhat heartwarming too. He doesn’t really want to follow any advice; in spite of how sound and solid it is, he dismisses most of it, if not all. And he flip-flops on what he needs and wants constantly. I’ve been following this thread (while gnashing my teeth), but I can’t give him any advice or suggestions because it is quite obvious to me that when he’s reading responses he’s probably chanting: “Yeah yeah…yada yada yada…” while loving the attention. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/199 "2016-01-19T09:00:38Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > What does \ mean? > [@Robert163](#): > > synonym for abracadabra The word you meant, Robert, was _voila_. It’s French. Please don’t ever type “Whala” again. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/200 "2016-01-19T12:52:42Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > synonym for abracadabra As noted above, it’s “voila.” And it’s not a synonym for “abracadabra.” “Abracadabra” is a magic word that is supposed to trigger some magical transformation. “Voila” means “see it!” And it’s what you say to show that the magic has been completed. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=9) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=11)