# Are you aware of any networks for people shut in their home? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 13, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073 "2016-01-13T21:35:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/41 "2016-01-14T19:14:36Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I will ask my therapist. But then our house costs less then a small apartment in LA. OKcupid is free to use - no need to remortgage for it. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/42 "2016-01-14T20:22:33Z")
Have you considered learning to drive? Does your economic situation allow for a car? ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/43 "2016-01-14T20:42:05Z")
Do your parents drive? Perhaps you can get a ride from them, like when Mom goes to the grocery store or Dad goes to Home Depot? Do they go to a synagogue regularly? If so, you might at least attend and try to make friends there. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/44 "2016-01-14T21:10:23Z")
**CCitizen** , as I see someone else has already noted upthread, you have started similar threads before. [In fact, you have specifically asked about finding telephone friends before.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=767592) I am leaving this thread open for now, but with the instruction that you are not to start any more similar to it. I hope you find what you’re seeking. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/45 "2016-01-14T21:18:45Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > **CCitizen** , as I see someone else has already noted upthread, you have started similar threads before. [In fact, you have specifically asked about finding telephone friends before.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=767592) > > I am leaving this thread open for now, but with the instruction that you are not to start any more similar to it. > > I hope you find what you’re seeking. I apologize – no more similar threads. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/46 "2016-01-14T21:20:24Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Have you considered learning to drive? Does your economic situation allow for a car? No and no. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/47 "2016-01-14T21:21:25Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Do they go to a synagogue regularly? If so, you might at least attend and try to make friends there. The closest Orthodox Synagogue is 100 km away. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/48 "2016-01-14T22:12:32Z")
Is that your way of telling me that your family doesn’t regularly go to a synagogue? Because presumably there are non-Orthodox temples closer than 100km. I get the impression that you really, really don’t want to change anything about your situation despite your multiple threads complaining about it. Because you seem to have a reason why every suggestion made to you won’t work. So in short, you’re fucked. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/49 "2016-01-14T23:38:47Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > I get the impression that you really, really don’t want to change anything about your situation despite your multiple threads complaining about it. Because you seem to have a reason why every suggestion made to you won’t work. I am not looking for major changes. In some ways my life is better then that of most people in other ways it is worse. But I am not looking for major changes. I am looking for minor changes – finding telephone friends, installing new software, etc. Everyone makes minor changes in their life all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2016, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/50 "2016-01-14T23:55:00Z")
One last question; what do your parents think about your situation? Are they happy that their son is in his forties, has no job, no friends and no life? Are they pushing you to make any major changes in your situation? ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/51 "2016-01-15T00:02:49Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > The closest Orthodox Synagogue is 100 km away. What about other synagogues? I’m sure they’d be welcoming, even if there are differences in your beliefs. You could go to a Reform or Conservative synagogue and meet people there. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/52 "2016-01-15T00:05:41Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > One last question; what do your parents think about your situation? Are they happy that their son is in his forties, has no job, no friends and no life? Are they pushing you to make any major changes in your situation? This is between me and my parents. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/53 "2016-01-15T00:06:45Z")
> [@iiandyiiii](#): > > What about other synagogues? I’m sure they’d be welcoming, even if there are differences in your beliefs. You could go to a Reform or Conservative synagogue and meet people there. I prefer not to discuss these issues here. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/54 "2016-01-15T00:10:25Z")
That’s hilarious; a suggestion to visit a synagogue is somehow an “issue.” You deflect any question or suggestion how your situation might improve. Clearly, you’re quite happy as you are and feel no need to change. So please don’t let us trouble you any further. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/55 "2016-01-15T00:10:49Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I prefer not to discuss these issues here. It’s a reasonable suggestion, but okay. Do you like animals? You could volunteer at an animal shelter and meet other animal lovers. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/56 "2016-01-15T00:14:11Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Clearly, you’re quite happy as you are and feel no need to change. So please don’t let us trouble you any further. Maybe. But everyone makes good and bad changes: Bought [ScreenCastoMatic](https://screencast-o-matic.com/home) – very good. Bought Olympus Camera for $170 in 2012 – very good. Bought a small UAV with a camera for $160 in 2014 – bad, waste of money. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/57 "2016-01-15T00:15:12Z")
> [@iiandyiiii](#): > > It’s a reasonable suggestion, but okay. > > Do you like animals? I will probably make some videos of animals when I get to the zoo. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/58 "2016-01-15T00:39:01Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Maybe I should. The problem with Internet is that there is no privacy – everything we say is for our future employers and dislikers. By the way, I also found this hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/59 "2016-01-15T00:40:58Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > By the way, I also found this hilarious. This is our legacy for all of Humankind for Eternity. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2016, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/60 "2016-01-15T00:58:33Z")
Just to get it out there, are you asking if anyone here wants to talk on the phone with you? I ask because you are not accepting any suggestions, but you clearly hope to accomplish something. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=4)