# Are you aware of any networks for people shut in their home? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 13, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073 "2016-01-13T21:35:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2016, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/101 "2016-01-17T21:59:43Z")
> [@ddsun](#): > > What is your plan for taking care of yourself when your parents are not able to do so? > > It seems a good idea to start working on skills now that will allow you to survive later. Employment, cooking, transportation are all examples of things you will need to manage on your own. I am sorry NFPD – Not For Public Discourse. I have a therapist. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2016, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/102 "2016-01-17T23:15:02Z")
Life insurance money, obvs. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2016, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/103 "2016-01-17T23:47:02Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > Life insurance money, obvs. That was uncalled for. I love my parents. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/104 "2016-01-18T00:05:44Z")
And? You’re not going to become a productive member of society overnight when your parents aren’t around/able to take care of you. Unless you think the currently nonexistent friends you have (which you don’t seem very motivated to make, based on your dismissal of almost every suggestion here) are going to take you in and let you mooch off them for the second half of your life, then your only other option is… life insurance. True might suck, but that doesn’t make it any less the truth. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/105 "2016-01-18T00:19:26Z")
CCitizen, I would encourage you to listen to people. Even the people who are being rude to you. You do need to prepare for the future. Hopefully your parents will live a long time. And, even if you inherit the house you live in, you need to prepare now to live on your own when they are gone. I had this same conversation at my last visit to my psychiatrist. And, you really need to understand that when you complain (for lack of a better word) and then are given 37 suggestions of how to improve/fix things… and you come up with 37 reasons why you can’t improve… people loose patience with you. In this forum, it is not a good place to complain or ask for advice if you are not willing to at least try to improve. I think your first/most important step is getting a drivers licence. You may be afraid to drive but you are, I believe, physically capable. It is possible to get around the mental block/fear. Not easy, but possible. On the other side of things, I don’t think people are making enough allowance for how hard it is for someone with aspergers to change. I hope you can change CCitizen. But it’s not going to be easy. You have the intelligence to change. I hope, somehow, you can find a way to make more improvements. It will be hard, yes, but it is your life. It can get better. But it takes work. And pushing through fear. ---
**Author:** ![Spud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spud/32/347_2.png) [@Spud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spud)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/106 "2016-01-18T00:25:36Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > That was uncalled for. I love my parents. Why is this offensive? You have sponged off of your parents your entire life and have admitted you have no intention of stopping. I assume they paid for your education, are paying for your therapy are providing you room, board, and clothing and for some reason give you an additional $30 per week (I would be so ashamed to admit I got an allowance from my parents if I was in my 40’s)… do you do any “chores” for this allowance?. Knowing this, why is is a stretch to assume you expect them to continue to support you after they have passed (inheritance and/or life insurance)? ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/107 "2016-01-18T00:26:41Z")
Just out of curiosity, what are you actually interested in? You have told us things you refuse to discuss, like your plans when your parents no longer support you, and things you hate (math) and things you are not interested in (suggestions for changes you consider major, sports, cars, etc.). You want telephone friends, but what do you want to actually discuss on the phone with these theoretical friends? Runescape will not a conversation topic for very long for most people, and the majority of things you have said here seem skewed toward the negative. \*Hey man, you like sports? No. Cars? No. What do you want to be when you grow up? What do you plan to do a few years? What kind of work do you want to do? NFPD. Ok, well…thanks for calling, guy. click. \* ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/108 "2016-01-18T00:33:50Z")
All my job plans are between me and my therapist. Maybe with my PhD I can be an Actuary. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/109 "2016-01-18T00:35:47Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > On the other side of things, I don’t think people are making enough allowance for how hard it is for someone with Asperger’s to change. I hope you can change CCitizen. But it’s not going to be easy. You have the intelligence to change. I hope, somehow, you can find a way to make more improvements. It will be hard, yes, but it is your life. It can get better. But it takes work. And pushing through fear. Thank you very much. I hope I will change. I will work toward becoming self sufficient. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/110 "2016-01-18T00:39:52Z")
The sad fact of cyberlife is that any admission of weakness is an invitation to abuse. Technical advice given to me here has been great, but I have already revealed too much about myself – even though I have nothing to be ashamed of. Note to Self: Cyberadmission of weakness is an invitation to cyberabuse –\> do not make that mistake on Youtube. I have an interesting video on [motorcycles](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oI33EF5c04). ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/111 "2016-01-18T00:41:57Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > The sad fact of cyberlife is that any admission of weakness is an invitation to abuse. > > Technical advice given to me here has been great, but I have already revealed too much about myself – even though I have nothing to be ashamed of. If you feel that you have revealed too much, why create a thread asking for rather personal input (social networks)? Did you think it would be more like technical advice (go to this website, or call this number)? What are you actually interested in? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/112 "2016-01-18T00:45:44Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > Did you think it would be more like technical advice (go to this website, or call this number)? I learned that friend – making websites similar to dating websites do not exist. And I learn from mistakes. ---
**Author:** ![Spud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spud/32/347_2.png) [@Spud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spud)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/113 "2016-01-18T00:48:23Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > even though I have nothing to be ashamed of. You need a better therapist. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/114 "2016-01-18T00:56:58Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I learned that friend – making websites similar to dating websites do not exist. And I learn from mistakes. Just now, in this thread,you learned that? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/115 "2016-01-18T01:04:29Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > Just now, in this thread,you learned that? Over several threads. In any case I made mistakes on SDMB and I learned from them. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/116 "2016-01-18T01:10:56Z")
So what were you hoping to accomplish in this thread? I am not being snarky, I am honestly trying to understand what your goal was. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/117 "2016-01-18T01:13:45Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > So what were you hoping to accomplish in this thread? I am not being snarky, I am honestly trying to understand what your goal was. If such networks existed, I would have been given their address. In a thread I started about Internet viruses I was given [Sandboxie](http://www.sandboxie.com/). In another thread I was given valuable information on Copyright Laws for my Youtube videos. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/118 "2016-01-18T01:22:12Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > If such networks existed, I would have been given their address. > > In a thread I started about Internet viruses I was given [Sandboxie](http://www.sandboxie.com/). In another thread I was given valuable information on Copyright Laws for my Youtube videos. Yes, but it takes no real effort to try a new piece of software. Well, minimum. Have you taken anyone’s suggestions for (1) something that actually took significant effort (2) or some other category besides a new website/new software. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/119 "2016-01-18T01:23:35Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I learned that friend – making websites similar to dating websites do not exist. And I learn from mistakes. So none of the suggestions below were friend-making websites? > [@Quartz](#): > > You’re no recluse. But look at Facebook. Try social online games like Bridge at Bridgebase Online. > [@Robert163](#): > > did you try reddit? > [@Sage\_Rat](#): > > It should be possible to make real friends in World of Warcraft. If you haven’t, I might suggest that the problem isn’t the medium. > > But maybe try one of the dating websites and specify that you’re looking for phone friends. I think that OKCupid has quite a number of people who aren’t looking to date, just to make friends and take the tests. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/120 "2016-01-18T01:24:30Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > Yes, but it takes no real effort to try a new piece of software. Well, minimum. Have you taken anyone’s suggestions for (1) something that actually took significant effort (2) or some other category besides a new website/new software. I took my therapist’s advice to finish my PhD in Math. Maybe one day I will become an actuary. Decisions requiring effort can be taken very rarely. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=7)