# Are you aware of any networks for people shut in their home? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 13, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073 "2016-01-13T21:35:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/121 "2016-01-18T01:26:19Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > So none of the suggestions below were friend-making websites? 1. I will investigate both Bridge at Bridgebase Online 2. I have several Reddit accounts 3. I will register at OKCupid ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/122 "2016-01-18T01:26:27Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I took my therapist’s advice to finish my PhD in Math. Maybe one day I will become an actuary. > > Decisions requiring effort can be taken very rarely. 1- well, it doesnt take much effort to stop posting in red 2- i meant, had you taken any advice from anyone here 3- honestly, if you are not going to take advice, why ask for help ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/123 "2016-01-18T01:28:49Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > 1- well, it doesnt take much effort to stop posting in red > 2- i meant, had you taken any advice from anyone here > 3- honestly, if you are not going to take advice, why ask for help I am sorry – I have to express myself. I guess I do take lots of advice not requiring effort. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/124 "2016-01-18T01:33:56Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am sorry – I have to express myself. > > I guess I do take lots of advice not requiring effort. Are you one of those “glass half full” guys? I’m a “glass half empty guy” and I would restate your sentence as “I don’t take any advice requiring any effort.” ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/125 "2016-01-18T01:36:03Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Are you one of those “glass half full” guys? > > I’m a “glass half empty guy” and I would restate your sentence as “I don’t take any advice requiring any effort.” Yes. If you are nice to people they will tread on you. Once I was an emperor on [Tribal Wars](https://www.tribalwars.net/). I kept loyalty to my allies and they did not help me as my neighbors conquered all the cities I have built. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/126 "2016-01-18T01:40:26Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am sorry – I have to express myself. > > I guess I do take lots of advice not requiring effort. Well, quite honestly, one small thing you could do is stop coloring your posts. I know it is important to you but you’ve gotten a lot of feedback that people don’t like it. What about the suggestion to get a drivers licence? What about a part time job or starting to do more tasks to prepare for the future? ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/127 "2016-01-18T01:42:46Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Yes. If you are nice to people they will tread on you. Once I was an emperor on [Tribal Wars](https://www.tribalwars.net/). > > I kept loyalty to my allies and they did not help me as my neighbors conquered all the cities I have built. This, my friend, is not true. Perhaps it is a function of being on the autistic spectrum, but, relationships are not complicated or nefarious or complex. Well, they can be. But not with people who are friendly and open minded. Some people here have been rude to you, and, some have been helpful. Learning to learn how to trust and when/how to do that is another skill to work on… ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/128 "2016-01-18T01:47:01Z")
I’m pretty sure **CCitizen** is just lonely and wants the interaction that comes from starting threads. He has no actual interest in the details of what anyone has to say, he just enjoys anyone giving him attention. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/129 "2016-01-18T01:50:09Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I’m pretty sure **CCitizen** is just lonely and wants the interaction that comes from starting threads. He has no actual interest in the details of what anyone has to say, he just enjoys anyone giving him attention. This may be true. My level of depression fluctuates. At times I am “trapped” at home. If some element of this (above) is true **CCitizen** , perhaps you could post on topics that interest you but do not have to do with your own personal difficulties. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/130 "2016-01-18T01:51:40Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I’m pretty sure **CCitizen** is just lonely and wants the interaction that comes from starting threads. He has no actual interest in the details of what anyone has to say, he just enjoys anyone giving him attention. OK. I will not be doing that anymore for the fear of ban. I am starting a [VLOG](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCilK33tXZbGh3r6BfV-_z2g) – and I will need to ask questions about copyright. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/131 "2016-01-18T01:53:10Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > If some element of this (above) is true **CCitizen** , perhaps you could post on topics that interest you but do not have to do with your own personal difficulties. Everyone posts about life as they experience it. My life is different – not better and not worse but different. Thus my topics seem odd. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/132 "2016-01-18T02:00:39Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Everyone posts about life as they experience it. My life is different – not better and not worse but different. Thus my topics seem odd. You are not understanding. People are not mad/frustrated because your topics are “odd”. They are mad/frustrated that they have compassion for you, concern for a stranger, and that you take all of our advice and say, no thanks, that may take 5% of my effort, therefor I’m not interested. Furthermore, I doubt a VLOG about an unemployed person who lives with their parents and has no desire to make any changes is going to be read/followed by very many people… ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/133 "2016-01-18T02:01:54Z")
Have you considered interacting with a community – any community, not just this one – with positive intent? As I mentioned before, your contributions seem heavily skewed toward the negative. What you dislike, what you are not interested in, what is out-of-bounds, conversationally…what are you INTO? What do you actually like? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/134 "2016-01-18T02:04:36Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > People are not mad/frustrated because your topics are “odd”. They are mad/frustrated that they have compassion for you, concern for a stranger, and that you take all of our advice and say, no thanks, that may take 5% of my effort, therefor I’m not interested. > > Furthermore, I doubt a VLOG about an unemployed person who lives with their parents and has no desire to make any changes is going to be read/followed by very many people… I am sorry. I will have my VLOG on different social and political issues. YouTube is a place where I should not present myself as a weak and troubled person. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/135 "2016-01-18T02:04:56Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Everyone posts about life as they experience it. My life is different – not better and not worse but different. Thus my topics seem odd. EVERYONE’s life is different. That is what makes us all individuals and not products of a hive mind. You say you’re different, an exceptionally special snowflake, but the only things i have seen you post on have been negatives. Even when you appear to be asking for advice or suggestions, what you are actually looking for is another opportunity to say “No, that won’t work for me. No, that won’t happen. No, I won’t discuss that.” Or at least it appears to me. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/136 "2016-01-18T02:05:13Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > OK. I will not be doing that anymore for the fear of ban. I am starting a [VLOG](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCilK33tXZbGh3r6BfV-_z2g) – and I will need to ask questions about copyright. Actually this VLOG is quite good. I have a suggestion, you may not like it, but it is based on your video about cyberlangauge. What about a VLOG about/for people on the Autistic spectrum? I know you would prefer a “nomral” VLOG but I - strongly - suggest you concentrate your efforts in an area where you will be compatible to the audience. The video about motorcycles is good… but I think it best to narrow your focus where it will be most effective. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/137 "2016-01-18T02:07:36Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > I am sorry. I will have my VLOG on different social and political issues. > > YouTube is a place where I should not present myself as a weak and troubled person. Yes, but, no offense, you are a “weak and troubled person”. An audience that is on the spectrum will be much more accommodating and forgiving. You have stated before that almost every internet site or game site you go to, with “normal” people, you wind up feeling frustrated and don’t fit in… ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/138 "2016-01-18T02:08:28Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > Actually this VLOG is quite good. > > I have a suggestion, you may not like it, but it is based on your video about cyberlangauge. What about a VLOG about/for people on the Autistic spectrum? Thank you. I will discuss several different topics. I do not know what will get most audience. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/139 "2016-01-18T02:09:58Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > EVERYONE’s life is different. That is what makes us all individuals and not products of a hive mind. You say you’re different, an exceptionally special snowflake, but the only things i have seen you post on have been negatives. Many artists and musicians produce popular art out of negative feelings and experiences. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/140 "2016-01-18T02:13:22Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Thank you. I will discuss several different topics. I do not know what will get most audience. agh… you’re not really listening. I am not trying to be rude, I promise I am not. Well, when I say this specific statement I am not trying to be rude at this specific moment: I think you do not want to have a website that is dedicated to Autistic issues or join a forum for the same, or go to a brick and mortar support group for the same… because if you do, it will solidify the reality that you have a disability. You much rather, I think, try to get along with “normal” people. But, my friend, can you not see that trying to interact with “normal” people is not working out well for you? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=8)