# Are you aware of any networks for people shut in their home? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 13, 2016, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073 "2016-01-13T21:35:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/141 "2016-01-18T02:19:25Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > But, my friend, can you not see that trying to interact with “normal” people is not working out well for you? Definitely some of my videos will be about autism. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/142 "2016-01-18T02:20:10Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Many artists and musicians produce popular art out of negative feelings and experiences. Do you think that human interaction, through the medium of a forum post, conversation, if you will, is “art?” ETA Do you consider this interaction, this one here, to be a form of art, to be created and defined out of solely negativity? AGAIN, what actually interests you? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/143 "2016-01-18T02:21:39Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > agh… you’re not really listening Why the hell are you expecting him to listen? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/144 "2016-01-18T02:22:37Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > Do you think that human interaction, through the medium of a forum post, conversation, if you will, is “art?” No – maybe my VLOG will be. PS. I am deeply indebted to my adviser in terms of very very late work. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/145 "2016-01-18T02:28:38Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Definitely some of my videos will be about autism. The video on motorcycles and safety is EXCELLENT. You’ve said that you have a PhD in math and that “most” statistics is at a high school level. Maybe that is true. But you have a GIFT for explaining things using statistics. Of explaining things succinctly but including all the proper details. Of taking a complex issues, and, using stats, and explaining it. I encourage you to take that VLOG about motorcycles, post it as an individual thread and let other people comment. I think you are great at explaining statistics. You could definitely have a job or a YouTube channel about statistics aimed at the “average” person. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/146 "2016-01-18T02:34:26Z")
Thank you very much. I will continue my VLOG. Now I will finish some of the work I must do for my (mostly) unpaid internship adviser. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/147 "2016-01-18T02:35:55Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Thank you very much. I will continue my VLOG. Now I will finish some of the work I must do for my (mostly) unpaid internship adviser. Ok but i seriously, seriously suggest you start a thread (later) from the motorcycle VLOG ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/148 "2016-01-18T02:37:05Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Many artists and musicians produce popular art out of negative feelings and experiences. > [@raventhief](#): > > Do you think that human interaction, through the medium of a forum post, conversation, if you will, is “art?” > > ETA Do you consider this interaction, this one here, to be a form of art, to be created and defined out of solely negativity? > > AGAIN, what actually interests you? > [@CCitizen](#): > > No – maybe my VLOG will be. > > PS. I am deeply indebted to my adviser in terms of very very late work. So your interaction here …why so negative? If you seek human interaction, what actually interests you? What is positive or even interesting in your life? It’s not art here right? So what does it matter if art is created from pain? ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/149 "2016-01-18T03:55:56Z")
I suspect this article might be useful to you — “6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person” > **[6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person](https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person)** > > You're going to hate hearing this. My only defense is that this is what I wish somebody had said to me around 1995 or so. > [@](#): > > So here is my terrible truth about the adult world … > > If you want to know why society seems to shun you, or why you seem to get no respect, it’s because society is full of people who need things. They need houses built, they need food to eat, they need entertainment, they need fulfilling sexual relationships. … the moment you came into the world, you became part of a system designed purely to see to people’s needs. > > Either you will go about the task of seeing to those needs by learning a unique set of skills, or the world will reject you, no matter how kind, giving, and polite you are. You will be poor, you will be alone, you will be left out in the cold. > > … > > … your “job” and your means of employment might not be the same thing, but in both cases you are nothing more than the sum total of your useful skills. For instance, being a good mother is a job that requires a skill. It’s something a person can do that is useful to other members of society. But make no mistake: Your “job” – the useful thing you do for other people – is all you are. > > … > > … I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy – that’s the bare minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/150 "2016-01-18T04:37:58Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > Life insurance money, obvs. Or disability. I’m actually surprised he’s not on it now. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/151 "2016-01-18T14:20:44Z")
The secret is to break down any goal you want to achieve into smaller steps that require hardly any effort. Then you do the smaller steps one at a time. For instance, you probably want a driver’s license in order to be able to get out and do stuff. So you break down the process. Go to [this website](http://www.dmv.org/drivers-permits.php), click on your state, and find out the requirements to get a learner’s permit. That’s it. Do that, and you have your first success. You don’t need to be overwhelmed, or even to think about anything else. You will know what is needed to get a learner’s permit, and that’s enough for one day. Then you say “OK, I need to pass the written test”. Also a small and easy step. There are lots of free practice test sites, and anyone with a Ph.D. can pass it. You take a few practice exams. Again, you’re done for the day. Etc. Set a small goal, and achieve it. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/152 "2016-01-18T16:36:38Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > The secret is to break down any goal you want to achieve into smaller steps that require hardly any effort. Then you do the smaller steps one at a time. > > For instance, you probably want a driver’s license in order to be able to get out and do stuff. So you break down the process. > > Go to [this website](http://www.dmv.org/drivers-permits.php), click on your state, and find out the requirements to get a learner’s permit. That’s it. Do that, and you have your first success. > > You don’t need to be overwhelmed, or even to think about anything else. You will know what is needed to get a learner’s permit, and that’s enough for one day. > > Then you say “OK, I need to pass the written test”. Also a small and easy step. There are lots of free practice test sites, and anyone with a Ph.D. can pass it. You take a few practice exams. Again, you’re done for the day. > > Etc. Set a small goal, and achieve it. > > Regards, > Shodan Great advice Shodan! ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/153 "2016-01-18T21:34:44Z")
I’m wondering how CCitizen got a Ph.D. when he doesn’t drive, has no social contacts, rarely leaves his house, etc. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/154 "2016-01-18T22:09:51Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > I’m wondering how CCitizen got a Ph.D. when he doesn’t drive, has no social contacts, rarely leaves his house, etc. My parents drove me to University every day. Doing the PhD was a paid work I have performed for my parents. They wanted me to do the PhD and offered to support me and give me a good allowance. I agreed and did my job. I do not see anything to be ashamed of – for either myself or my parents. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/155 "2016-01-18T22:10:51Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > The secret is to break down any goal you want to achieve into smaller steps that require hardly any effort. Then you do the smaller steps one at a time. > > For instance, you probably want a driver’s license in order to be able to get out and do stuff. So you break down the process. > > Go to [this website](http://www.dmv.org/drivers-permits.php), click on your state, and find out the requirements to get a learner’s permit. That’s it. Do that, and you have your first success. > > You don’t need to be overwhelmed, or even to think about anything else. You will know what is needed to get a learner’s permit, and that’s enough for one day. > > Then you say “OK, I need to pass the written test”. Also a small and easy step. There are lots of free practice test sites, and anyone with a Ph.D. can pass it. You take a few practice exams. Again, you’re done for the day. > > Etc. Set a small goal, and achieve it. > > Regards, > Shodan Thank you. If I become an Actuary I will learn to drive. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/156 "2016-01-18T22:19:18Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Thank you. If I become an Actuary I will learn to drive. If you want to be miserable keep making excuses as to why you don’t need to do anything. If you want to get better, then take some advice. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/157 "2016-01-18T22:25:06Z")
OK, I definitely should become an Actuary, but it will take some time. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2016, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/158 "2016-01-18T22:27:01Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > OK, I definitely should become an Actuary, but it will take some time. no. the point was you should get the licence even if you don’t become an actuary. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/159 "2016-01-19T00:45:08Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > My parents drove me to University every day. Doing the PhD was a paid work I have performed for my parents. They wanted me to do the PhD and offered to support me and give me a good allowance. I agreed and did my job. > > I do not see anything to be ashamed of – for either myself or my parents. Why did your parents want you to earn your PhD? Just for shits and giggles? They’re happy with a degree that is never put to any use? What’s the point? Don’t they want you to take the next step on the path that you started by earning your degree, which would be finding employment? It sounds like you aren’t the only one with issues here. This whole thing seems like a co-dependent nightmare. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2016, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073/160 "2016-01-19T01:00:44Z")
So they can start conversations with “My son the doctor…” while leaving out the 'is over 40, grossly overweight, lives in our basement, and doesn’t drive" part? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-aware-of-any-networks-for-people-shut-in-their-home/743073.md?page=9)