# Are you disgusted by the thought of kissing a person not of your preferred gender?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [April 4, 2016, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189 "2016-04-04T18:47:04Z")
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### Author:  [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/1 "2016-04-04T18:47:04Z")
To be clear, I’m talking about a deep, visceral repulsion at the prospect, not simply disinterest, dislike, or dismay. By way of parallel: I don’t like collard greens, but I am not disgusted by them. If I’m extremely hungry I’ll eat them; likewise if doing so is necessary to be polite. By contrast, the thought of eating, oh, raw kitten meat is disgusting; you’ll have to put a gun to my head to make it happen, and I may well vomit afterward.
And yes, I realize that bisexuals are probably eliminated from answering this question. So what?
And of course I mean kissing on the lips.
To answer my own question: no. I have no special desire to kiss any man (nor even a beautiful woman other than my wife), but the prospect of doing so is no more distressing than eating collard greens. I kissed a dude in college to win a bet, and while it wasn’t exciting, it wasn’t terrible. Just blah.
But that’s just me. Anybody else?
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### Author:  [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/2 "2016-04-04T18:51:58Z")
I’m a woman. I have kissed several other women while at parties, just because, you know, people were paying attention to me and it was fun. So I have absolutely nothing against kissing women as part of the whole party atmosphere.
But the thought of kissing a woman privately, in an actual meaningful sort of way, does squick me out.
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### Author:  [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/3 "2016-04-04T18:52:05Z")
I guess it depends on how attractive they are.
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### Author:  [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/4 "2016-04-04T18:56:47Z")
> [@Mangetout](#):
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> I guess it depends on how attractive they are.
Let’s assume the person in question is not otherwise repellent.
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### Author:  [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/5 "2016-04-04T19:01:00Z")
Nope. In fact, I kiss girls all the time. When I was much younger me and my girlfriends would mouth kiss each other to get rid of creepy guys. We found this strategy worked well in discos but terribly in bars. The only thing that kept creepy guys in bars away was a quick stab in the eye with those tiny plastic swords they’d put in your drink back in those days. You know, they’d have an olive or a pineapple piece stuck on them-- manly drinks had them instead of umbrellas. . . Wait, what were we talking about again?
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### Author:  [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/6 "2016-04-04T19:02:29Z")
Yup. I’m straight. I’m not locking lips with a guy. It would be highly distressing.
I’ll leave that experience to others that enjoy a alternate lifestyle. Have fun and stay safe. 😉
My extended family rarely shows affection. No pecks on the cheek. Very few hugs. A firm handshake and a warm verbal greeting works fine.
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### Author:  [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/7 "2016-04-04T19:02:29Z")
Disgusted is a little strong. I certainly don’t find the thought pleasant. I would be a little edgy about kissing a woman I didn’t know as well. I think this is just cultural.
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### Author:  [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/8 "2016-04-04T19:03:31Z")
It does bother me when I see two men kissing on TV shows for instance. I don’t have aproblem with it but I just am not comfortable watching it. It bothers me less to see two women kissing but still bothers me some. No I am not a homophobe and I don’t even know why it bothers me.
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### Author:  [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/9 "2016-04-04T19:08:29Z")
I’ve never had the opportunity, but it wouldn’t bother me at all to kiss another woman on the lips.
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### Author:  [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/10 "2016-04-04T19:22:51Z")
Male, and yes the idea creeps me out. I’m finicky about being touched, and I find images of men kissing _anything_ unpleasant, including women and puppies. I find men in general physically rather repellent, actually.
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### Author:  [@Sampsiceramos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampsiceramos)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/11 "2016-04-04T19:23:58Z")
Out of curiosity, **Skald** , where on the Kinsey scale would you draw the line for the purposes of your question?
I ask because I’m personally a rough 1.5-2 on said scale, in the sense that I am a practicing heterosexual and do not engage in intimate relations (beyond kissing with tongue, anyway, which I have done once or twice out of idle curiosity) with other men, but occasionally fantasize about my own gender and could be talked into various intimate situations involving other men at the behest of a female partner with very little resistance; I wonder if perhaps this disqualifies me?
At any rate, assuming it doesn’t - I don’t find the idea revolting per se, in that I don’t find men inherently unattractive - but I would really rather prefer he were either clean-shaven or committed to a beard. I _loathe_ (and I speak from experience, as previously noted, here) stubble.
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### Author:  [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/12 "2016-04-04T19:27:24Z")
Nope.
I don’t get turned off until people’s “underwear areas” are exposed. Then I’m out.
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### Author:  [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/13 "2016-04-04T19:33:22Z")
It’s an entirely distasteful idea to me.
Hetero-male; 0 on the Kinsey scale\*.
\*[I had me tested.](http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/)🙂
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### Author:  [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/14 "2016-04-04T19:36:08Z")
> [@Sampsiceramos](#):
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> Out of curiosity, **Skald** , where on the Kinsey scale would you draw the line for the purposes of your question?
Nowhere. I don’t draw lines; I only draw sidearms.
Both straight and gay persons are welcome to answer, and the definition of both is self-identification.
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### Author:  [@stillownedbysetters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stillownedbysetters)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/15 "2016-04-04T19:37:40Z")
I’m female and I agree that women can be attractive and sensual, but I have no interest in kissing one.
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### Author:  [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/16 "2016-04-04T19:39:34Z")
Yeah generally just squicks me out.
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### Author:  [@Chihuahua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chihuahua)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/17 "2016-04-04T19:50:51Z")
Yeah, it pretty much grosses me out.
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### Author:  [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/18 "2016-04-04T19:54:42Z")
If he looks like a young Cary Grant and smells like 4711, I’m game. In other words: No, I am not disgusted at the thought of kissing a man. Post-coital cuddling? Now yer talking disgusting…
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### Author:  [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/19 "2016-04-04T19:55:07Z")
No, not disgusted. Nor am I intrigued. I can (and do) imagine enjoying a hot, make-out session with several of the ladies I’ve known/met, but not with any guy. Not once, not ever. I can appreciate how hot a dude is; attractive, confident, etc. But I still don’t consider kissing him. Though I’m not disgusted by it.
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### Author:  [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)
#### Post date: [April 4, 2016, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/20 "2016-04-04T19:56:16Z")
Hey, if you’re into that, more power to you. But for me - thinking about it grosses me out. Way more than collard greens, which are not bad if you know how to prepare them. In fact I’d take a second look at the raw kitten meat before kissing a guy.
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