# Are you disgusted by the thought of kissing a person not of your preferred gender? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 4, 2016, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189 "2016-04-04T18:47:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Macca26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/13edae/32.png) [@Macca26](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Macca26)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/21 "2016-04-04T19:56:32Z")
If it was a peck to a quick smack, I’d be ok with it. If I was expected to put some feeling in it or mack for more than half a second, I think I’d start to get upset about it. Now, if you wanted me to kiss 'em on the neck, that’s something else. It’s not nearly as gooey or emotionally intimate as a lip kiss. And overall, if it’s somebody I don’t know my revulsion factor would be much higher. Can’t trust them. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_fun_ball/32/17664_2.png) [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/22 "2016-04-04T21:01:59Z")
Not disgusted, but definitely not something I would want to do. I did kiss a guy once on a dare and found it not good. Not disgusting, but not good in any sense of the word. Would not do it again. ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/23 "2016-04-04T21:50:23Z")
straight woman here, not disgusted but not interested either. If the other woman was into it and we weren’t just doing it for a dare or a laugh with a bunch of people around, then it does feel kind of yucky (in my imagination). Same feeling as if I man I wasn’t attracted to was kissing me for real. ---
**Author:** ![Fretful\_Porpentine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fretful_porpentine/32/2873_2.png) [@Fretful\_Porpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fretful_Porpentine)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/24 "2016-04-04T22:56:04Z")
Female, have kissed other women a few times in college, not particularly bothered by it and would do it again if the social circumstances seemed to warrant it. (Which, granted, they are unlikely ever to do again, since people my age and upward generally don’t do kissing games or random drunken experimentation.) ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/25 "2016-04-04T22:56:32Z")
I have a couple of close girlfriends I’d definitely swap spit with for the novelty factor, but nothing beyond that. So obviously, it doesn’t squick me out, and to be honest, I’m a little curious (ha!) if there’d be some sort of visceral difference. ---
**Author:** ![Suburban\_Plankton](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suburban_plankton/32/219_2.png) [@Suburban\_Plankton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Suburban_Plankton)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/26 "2016-04-04T22:59:50Z")
Nah, I don’t have a particular issue with it. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/27 "2016-04-04T23:00:18Z")
I’m disgusted by the thought of kissing anyone i am not sexually attracted to, that includes all males and a large amount of females. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/28 "2016-04-04T23:00:36Z")
Not disgusted but not at all interested either. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/29 "2016-04-04T23:11:26Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > I’m disgusted by the thought of kissing anyone i am not sexually attracted to, that includes all males and a large amount of females. I had my own answer in mind but this one works much better for me. Males are not objects of sexual desire in my mind but most females aren’t either. for various reasons. I have a very specific type that I am attracted to and anyone that doesn’t fit it is equally sexually unattractive to me. I can’t even relate to the idea that some men are so ‘hot’ or sexy that they could tempt someone that is normally heterosexual to make an exception. Not in my case. I can’t even tell what men are attractive to anyone because they all fall into the same category unless you include leprosy or something that makes it even worse. The very thought really does make my stomach churn. I could probably make myself pull it off if it would save someone’s life or something but it would be like being on an episode of Fear Factor. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/30 "2016-04-04T23:14:12Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Not disgusted but not at all interested either. Yeah, that’s pretty much how I feel. If it was for a bet, or perhaps even a dare I guess I could do it, and I’m talking peck only. Anything beyond that does venture into the disgusting zone. I scored a 0 in that Kinsey test linked above too. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/31 "2016-04-04T23:16:35Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > … I could probably make myself pull it off if it would save someone’s life or something … Whoa! now we’re venturing into a hole new category. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Sampsiceramos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Sampsiceramos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampsiceramos)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/32 "2016-04-04T23:21:56Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Whoa! now we’re venturing into a hole new category. 😛 _A hole?_ There’s a Freudian slip if ever I saw one! ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/33 "2016-04-04T23:25:31Z")
> [@Sampsiceramos](#): > > _A hole?_ There’s a Freudian slip if ever I saw one! :smack::smack::smack::smack: ---
**Author:** ![\_Raven](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/_raven/32/20435_2.png) [@\_Raven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Raven)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2016, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/34 "2016-04-04T23:29:11Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Are you disgusted by the thought of kissing a person not of your preferred gender? I’ve never considered kissing a _sexual_ act. I was kissed by, and kissed back, my parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends, as a child. My mother’s family was Eastern Orthodox; the “kiss of peace” at Easter (as the present season reminds me) was given among all, no “gender preference”. Even now in my 60s, this is my emotional background; and also to me as a medievalist, Aragorn kissing Boromir’s forehead seems entirely fitting and proper. I know that _romantic_ kissing is a different matter, but you didn’t ask that question. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/35 "2016-04-05T00:04:35Z")
Disgusted is a pretty heavily loaded word. There are few things that would disgust me, and that would not be one of them, although I certainly would not welcome that particular attention. I think my visible coolness to the gesture would be obvious enough to deflect the attention, unless he was drunk, and don’t like kissing drunk women, either. ---
**Author:** ![Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aji_de_gallina/32/260_2.png) [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aji_de_Gallina)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/36 "2016-04-05T00:15:41Z")
Although I’m a solid 0 on the Kinsey test, a quick peck, closed lips, with a friend; maybe a bet or something like, it’d be ok. Anything else, sorry, no go. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/37 "2016-04-05T00:25:29Z")
Have kissed guys a few times. No tounge. Tounge and any kind of sexual connotation would squick me out. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/38 "2016-04-05T00:29:34Z")
> [@Biggirl](#): > > Nope. In fact, I kiss girls all the time. When I was much younger me and my girlfriends would mouth kiss each other to get rid of creepy guys. We found this strategy worked well in discos but terribly in bars. The only thing that kept creepy guys in bars away was a quick stab in the eye with those tiny plastic swords they’d put in your drink back in those days. You know, they’d have an olive or a pineapple piece stuck on them-- manly drinks had them instead of umbrellas. . . Wait, what were we talking about again? Why didn’t I ever get a plastic sword in a drink back in the day?? My friend Laura and I used to bar-hop a lot and if we went in a place that was full of the manly men we would hold hands to fend them off; worked great. I would have kissed her if necessary; not repellent at all. I’m more repelled by the idea of kissing some men. Like those guys who like to wear a lot (LOT) of aftershave. ---
**Author:** ![boytyperanma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/39 "2016-04-05T00:31:12Z")
I’m gay. Kissing women doesn’t bother me. I don’t have any interest in doing so. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2016, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189/40 "2016-04-05T00:40:56Z")
I feel uncomfortable when I see anyone kissing (other than quick pecks). But I don’t feel “deep revulsion.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-disgusted-by-the-thought-of-kissing-a-person-not-of-your-preferred-gender/751189.md?page=3)