# Are you happily married? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 25, 2014, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630 "2014-06-25T18:17:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/61 "2014-06-26T17:07:20Z")
> [@jabiru](#): > > I think I can confidently say I would **never** be in another relationship again. My husband likes to point out that I said on this board that I would not only never marry again after my first marriage ended but that I’d never even date. SDMB karma likes to mock us. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Exapno\_Mapcase](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/exapno_mapcase/32/1051_2.png) [@Exapno\_Mapcase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exapno_Mapcase)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/62 "2014-06-26T17:08:24Z")
Just celebrated our 41st with a fantastic dinner. Never happier or better. Long term outlook: rosy. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/63 "2014-06-26T17:26:56Z")
> [@drewtwo99](#): > > _Hands aruvqan a flame shield_ > > You’re going to need that after that superfluous r you stuck near the end of the word sherbet. One thing I have learned from this thread: pedantic attention to spelling is not one of the keys to a long-lasting and happy marriage. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/64 "2014-06-26T17:56:47Z")
It’s complicated. We are both divorced. I sold my house and moved in with her 5ish years ago. We plan to be together till death. We have discussed marriage, but never seem to have the time, plus it won’t really change anything. Two weeks ago at a marina party she was a bit drunk and introduced me as her husband. I played along. It’s easier than explaining our relationship, and sounds better than SO, mate, BF, GF, etc. So for now we are telling all new acquaintances that we are married. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/65 "2014-06-26T18:00:25Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > It’s complicated. We are both divorced. I sold my house and moved in with her 5ish years ago. We plan to be together till death. We have discussed marriage, but never seem to have the time, plus it won’t really change anything. > > Two weeks ago at a marina party she was a bit drunk and introduced me as her husband. I played along. It’s easier than explaining our relationship, and sounds better than SO, mate, BF, GF, etc. So for now we are telling all new acquaintances that we are married. Depending on the law of where you live, you may in fact be married. > **[Common-law marriage](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage)** > > Common-law marriage, also known as non-ceremonial marriage, sui iuris marriage, informal marriage, de facto marriage, more uxorio or marriage by habit and repute, is a marriage that results from the parties' agreement to consider themselves married, followed by cohabitation, rather than through a statutorily defined process. Not all jurisdictions permit common law marriage, but will typically respect the validity of such a marriage lawfully entered in another state or country. > The original conce... ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/66 "2014-06-26T18:37:26Z")
> [@Malthus](#): > > Depending on the law of where you live, you may in fact be married. > > [Common-law marriage - Wikipedia](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage) PA got rid of common-law marriage in 2004. If it were possible to be common law married, we’d be happy to do it. AFAICT we are not breaking any laws by presenting ourselves as married. We file singly with the IRS (and even there…I do not remember when I _was_ married ever having to prove it to the IRS). ---
**Author:** ![Kalea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b487fb/32.png) [@Kalea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalea)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/67 "2014-06-26T19:40:57Z")
12 years 9 months+, and the honeymoon isn’t really over yet - our friends still need insulin sometimes. Husbandito tells me he can’t imagine life without me, so I take that as happy. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/68 "2014-06-26T20:16:25Z")
Skald, knock of the making me THINK about things! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/69 "2014-06-26T20:19:10Z")
I’ve been married more than 20 years, and I’m happy about it. My wife and I were married in a little Vermont Episcopal church 24 years ago this August. We have our ups and downs, and neither of us is or ever has been perfect, but I’m a very lucky guy. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/70 "2014-06-26T20:33:30Z")
Sherbet? Even though we are very happy together and spend our lives together we are not married. So I didn’t vote but I still want my sherbet. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/71 "2014-06-26T21:39:33Z")
Married 25 years last week, not happy. In fact, the divorce will be final on December 31st. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/72 "2014-06-26T21:42:10Z")
Where the $%^&\*( sherbert? ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/73 "2014-06-26T23:00:39Z")
Been divorced for coming up 20 years and very happy. Still single and staying that way.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2014, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/74 "2014-06-26T23:29:15Z")
Just had our 20th this year. First 5 years very happy. Next 5 years some troubles but OK. The last 10 years not happy. ---
**Author:** ![jabiru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@jabiru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jabiru)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/75 "2014-06-27T00:33:39Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > My husband likes to point out that I said on this board that I would not only never marry again after my first marriage ended but that I’d never even date. > > SDMB karma likes to mock us. 😃 Oh, I’ve been mocked by all kinds of karma. How old were you when your first marriage ended? If I’d been young enough, I could see the possibility of another relationship (maybe) but not now. Too old. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/76 "2014-06-27T01:36:03Z")
> [@jabiru](#): > > Oh, I’ve been mocked by all kinds of karma. How old were you when your first marriage ended? If I’d been young enough, I could see the possibility of another relationship (maybe) but not now. Too old. I was 37, so yeah. My statements were probably really silly, even if they hadn’t turned out to be so wrong. ---
**Author:** ![jabiru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@jabiru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jabiru)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/77 "2014-06-27T02:04:35Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > I was 37, so yeah. My statements were probably really silly, even if they hadn’t turned out to be so wrong. Not at all. I would probably have made the same ‘never again’ declaration at 37. And I’d most likely have been wrong as well. ---
**Author:** ![sangfroid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@sangfroid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sangfroid)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/78 "2014-06-27T03:35:27Z")
Thank you, SDMB. I _finally_ got that perky, damn cursed-to hell-for-all-eternity Pharrell Williams song out of my head, and then I go ahead and click this link… Damn, damn, damn… :smack: _The Straight Dope Message Board - Installing Earworms Since 1999_ That said, very contentedly married for 15 years; together for 25. The Lady sangfroid is a goddess on earth, and I frequently remind her of that. We are very well suited to each other, and are fortunate to have complementary behaviors. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/79 "2014-06-27T05:55:35Z")
15 years, and very happy. ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2014, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630/80 "2014-06-27T06:18:04Z")
Married 44 years, very happy. We’re still each others’ best friends. Had a rough couple of years about ten years in, eventually made it through closer than ever. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-happily-married/691630.md?page=5)