# Are you OK with porn stars as neighbors, friends, teachers & babysitters? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 19, 2015, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954 "2015-06-19T16:41:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/41 "2015-06-20T20:56:28Z")
They could come in handy. Say you had mislaid your hammer. You could use the porn star’s rock hard penis to drive nails. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/42 "2015-06-20T20:57:42Z")
Or if your vacuum cleaner was on the fritz… ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/43 "2015-06-20T23:10:22Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Scaled pricing, maybe. Nah - just inner-city. Since the invention of crack you can get some real bargains (and some diseases they haven’t named yet) if you know where to look. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/44 "2015-06-21T20:09:41Z")
wish someone would bump the MikeSouth thread mentioned here to before maybe it’ll be me; but another thread that is… it’s not the job, so much as the behavior as a neighbor, keep it peaceful and myob. Not my babysitter, and some people have poor boundaries, pornists pushing the boundaries would exclude them from caretaking positions of the vulnerable, including animals. ---
**Author:** ![Sr\_Siete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6de8d8/32.png) [@Sr\_Siete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sr_Siete)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/45 "2015-06-21T22:26:31Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > Well, my point is that I don’t see much difference between a man who likes to hit women and a woman who likes to be hit. Consent? ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/46 "2015-06-21T23:23:53Z")
> [@Ranger\_Jeff](#): > > A friend of mine lives in an area of LA where some porn actresses live and he’s friendly with some of them. He says that even the ones he’s friends with carry a bit more baggage with them than he wants to get even peripherally involved in. Cause it gets tiring listening to someone continually complain about the same poor decisions or repeating the same sort of mistakes. This. Some are most definitely my neighbors in this apt complex, and every year brings a fresh group. They’re nice enough people, but the booze and drugs, the relationship drama, the fear and desperation, are good things to avoid. ---
**Author:** ![sparky\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@sparky\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sparky_1)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/47 "2015-06-21T23:27:39Z")
Yes ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/48 "2015-06-21T23:45:01Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > I fail to see how a kindergartener would know who Tracy Lords was … Probably wouldn’t be an issue anyway. Most porn stars don’t use their real names for their performances. So you might not realize that the [Michelle Chapman](http://ak-hdl.buzzfed.com/static/2014-07/28/13/enhanced/webdr08/grid-cell-1185-1406568023-4.jpg) you see at PTA meetings (she’s married and has two children) is also making x-rated movies under the name [Tori Black](http://www4.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/Tori+Black+2015+AVN+Adult+Entertainment+Expo+maEaHSJWJ6jl.jpg). ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/49 "2015-06-22T02:04:07Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > I fail to see how a kindergartener would know who Tracy Lords was … [OK, Hyapatia Lee? I don’t really know more than a couple names of 70s vintage porn actresses, mainly from threads here =)] > > This. > > This. I would have serious issues with some damned biblepounder trying to turn my kid into a prejudiced, ill educated kneejerk reactionary following a book written thousands of years ago as the only true source of wisdom. Someone with a previously odd career/habit choice? I am more than certain that there are more closet ‘freaks’ with sexual choices that are just as excessive but not commercially profitable around us and we know absolutely nothing about it. If you are not in my circle of personal friends, you would not know anything about me - I might have a lover in 30 different states and have monthly orgies as I visit each of them in turn, or I might be monogamistically happily married. I could tell you that I have a dungeon in my barn and currently have 3 guys hanging there waiting to service me [heh] But unless/until you are a personal friend and in my circle, you have absolutely no idea what the truth is. I have a friend who was a foster care caseworker in the pre-internet days, and one thing she’s never gotten over was how much those kids knew about drug paraphernalia, sex toys…and pornography. They would talk about porno actors the way other kids talk about “regular” actors. ☹ As for living next door to a fundie, I’m Christian myself, and I wouldn’t want a neighbor like the one you describe either. Never had children, but parents draw the line regarding boundaries, and if I had a neighbor who kept inviting me to church, told me I belonged to the “wrong” religion, etc. I’d tell them to MYOB. I do have some Mormon friends who, when they lived here, would occasionally say, “If you ever decide to switch churches, you are welcome at ours any time” and I would reply in kind, WRT my Episcopalian congregation. 🙂 And as for living near or working with them? Who knows - maybe I have and don’t know it. Like other posters have said, it’s a safe bet that people who have done commercial porn have, or had, serious problems with drugs, unresolved abuse issues, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Calatin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Calatin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calatin)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/50 "2015-06-22T16:33:52Z")
One of my friends is a gay porn actor. He’s very open about what he does, almost embarrassingly so. I don’t have any issues with his profession, but I will say that, he fashions himself to be much smarter than he is, and has the habit of making pseudo-intellectual posts about politics, religion, etc. He’ll get a lot of support, comments, likes, etc., regardless of how inane his statements are, all because those people believe that, by agreeing with him, they have a chance to get in his pants. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/51 "2015-06-22T16:44:10Z")
I have no problems with porn stars, ex or current. Its a job and I’m not prudish. Hell, I’d probably prefer to have a porn star teach my kids about sex ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/52 "2015-06-22T16:57:53Z")
> [@Projammer](#): > > Friends, neighbors, and baby sitter would pose no problem at all. My only objection to having one as a teacher would be the distraction to the class if/when their past became common knowledge. You’d think it would simplify the bejesus out of Sex Ed, though… If we’re not going to let people change to a new career based on what their previous job was? Congratulations! You’ve reinvented the caste system! I’ve known plenty of damaged people, and none of them have done porn. One of the college professors my parents hung out with when I was growing up put himself through college working as a prostitute, and he turned out fine. No, I’m not conflating porn with prostitution, but it sounds like a lot of people are. > [@dracoi](#): > > Well, my point is that I don’t see much difference between a man who likes to hit women and a woman who likes to be hit. I think Newton had something to say about that… or Nietzsche… one of those guys. ---
**Author:** ![Grrlbrarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrlbrarian/32/4048_2.png) [@Grrlbrarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrlbrarian)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/53 "2015-06-22T17:29:05Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > You are not going to get a good sample of what they deal with by polling the SD population. A lot of this girls retire and go back to their rural midwestern bible belt towns and then wonder why they get treated like pariahs in a conservative shithole. Oh, I live in one of those conservative Midwestern sh\*tholes, and I absolutely don’t give a monkey’s so long as it was just the porn the person did. I’m not going to fuss about drug use in someone’s past either as long as it is clearly that: in the past. But I’m probably something of an exception in my town of 16,400 souls; there are conservative parents here who would be horrified at the notion of a former porn actress teaching their kids in school. Not really sure what the reaction would be if it were a guy, but probably more accepting unless it was gay porn. That might raise a few eyebrows and hackles, unfair as that extra level of discrimination is. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/54 "2015-06-22T18:29:51Z")
> [@Sr\_Siete](#): > > Consent? Porn is presumably all between consenting adults. In reality, I’m sure that a non-zero percentage are coerced… but then they wouldn’t like it, would they? ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/55 "2015-06-22T19:02:42Z")
> [@Projammer](#): > > Friends, neighbors, and baby sitter would pose no problem at all. My only objection to having one as a teacher would be the distraction to the class if/when their past became common knowledge. ^^This^^, though it would be more of an issue for someone teaching in a high school teacher than an elementary school. > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Scaled pricing, maybe. It’s supposed to have scales??:eek: Mine has feathers. Does that make me more evolved? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/56 "2015-06-22T20:42:03Z")
After my Brother divorced, he took up with a woman in porn. My Mother refused to see that woman, receive her at her table for the Holidays, or even to meet her. So, that. ---
**Author:** ![Doyle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doyle/32/439_2.png) [@Doyle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doyle)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/57 "2015-06-22T21:04:41Z")
The thought of seeing my wife and her friends hanging around a former porn star is unfathomable. Of course, they rarely drink or swear. Unless she was now a converted Christian, but that would still be a stretch. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/58 "2015-06-22T21:22:11Z")
I can picture my neighbor as a porn star. \*\*In the morning I realize I’ve run out of sugar, and I knock on my neighbors door, empty sugar bowl in hand. Her door opens, an a vision of flesh, Spandex and stiletto heels appears before me. “Yes?”, she asked in sultry voice. \*\* Well, it goes on from there. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/59 "2015-06-22T22:02:42Z")
Oh, are you there to fix the cable in return for borrowing the sugar? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/60 "2015-06-22T22:10:10Z")
“Normal” porn stars? Maybe. Japanese porn stars? Probably not. German porn stars? No fucking way! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954.md?page=4)