# Are you OK with porn stars as neighbors, friends, teachers & babysitters? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 19, 2015, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954 "2015-06-19T16:41:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/61 "2015-06-22T22:44:54Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Oh, are you there to fix the cable in return for borrowing the sugar? How bout I clean your pipes? ---
**Author:** ![CaptainAmerica\_1987](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/49beb7/32.png) [@CaptainAmerica\_1987](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaptainAmerica_1987)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2015, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/62 "2015-06-23T01:51:00Z")
In our world today we all have way more important issues to deal with so I say who cares what they have done. I think as over the next generation or two it will be much less of an issue. ---
**Author:** ![foolsguinea](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foolsguinea/32/14751_2.png) [@foolsguinea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foolsguinea)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2015, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/63 "2015-06-25T02:59:44Z")
About a year old, a apt and short Cracked article: [4 Reasons Porn Stars Are Nothing Like You Think](http://www.cracked.com/blog/4-reasons-porn-stars-are-nothing-like-you-think/) One reason is in the vein of, “They’re not actually all dysfunctional alcoholics,” and another is, “They get treated like crap for their job.” ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2015, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/64 "2015-06-25T03:16:12Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > Well, my point is that I don’t see much difference between a man who likes to hit women and a woman who likes to be hit. > > Which is not to say that people who like violent sex are bad, but it is to say that I still think people who are going to do that on camera have made some poor choices. If violent porn is a poor choice for a man, it’s a poor choice for a woman too. And his point is that the people who want to hurt people are the more dangerous of the pair. It being a poor choice is not his primary concern. He’s worried they don’t have the proper boundaries on committing violence. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2015, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/65 "2015-06-25T06:15:35Z")
I would have no problem with it, but I can’t imagine male porn stars have it any easier. They get paid less, actually have to perform, and if they carve out long careers they are probably more likely to end up in $50 gang bangs and bukkake shoots than be one of the handful of guys who get paid a grand a scene and work 20 days a month. The only time I ever hear about a male porn star after he’s done is when he commits suicide, dies of a drug overdose, moves into his mom’s basement, someone sees him working as bouncer somewhere, someone tries to raise money for some medical treatment, etc. I have read some blogs and things by guys who are trying more regular careers (usually guys who actually had college degrees and jobs before they got in), and they always fear being recognized and losing their jobs. In fact, it seems like all kinds of legendary guys who did thousands of movies and owned their own lines and studios and stuff endup with pretty meager retirements and existences, probably comparable to someone who works 40 years as a janitor or something. It probably helps that they are less visible/recognizable than the contract star women. But it’s not like all these women who make 6 figures and spend it all on shoes and purses end up jumping off a bridge in 6 months, while all the guys shooting up their dicks are going on to be elected to the U.S. Senate. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2015, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954/66 "2015-06-25T07:22:52Z")
We had a family friend who was a porn star. She’d been over to the house multiple times, but never babysat. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-ok-with-porn-stars-as-neighbors-friends-teachers-babysitters/722954.md?page=3)