# Argument over selling "family heirlooms" **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 21, 2019, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768 "2019-11-21T13:54:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Zyada](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zyada/32/3028_2.png) [@Zyada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zyada)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/21 "2019-11-21T22:23:05Z")
When my mother passes away (assuming she doesn’t outlive us all!), I suspect any arguments will be of the “You take it”“No, you take it!” variety. ---
**Author:** ![Fotheringay-Phipps](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d9b06d/32.png) [@Fotheringay-Phipps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fotheringay-Phipps)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/22 "2019-11-21T23:23:05Z")
Issues I’ve encountered have frequently revolved around “gendered” stuff, mostly jewelry and the like. What happens is that there’s a son and a daughter and the son puts in a claim for his mother’s jewelry, but the one who ends up wearing it is his wife, the daughter-in-law. Sometimes the daughters resent that. ---
**Author:** ![River\_Hippie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/river_hippie/32/26_2.png) [@River\_Hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/River_Hippie)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/23 "2019-11-22T01:47:45Z")
When the widow had the offer from the pawnshop it would have been nice of her to give family a chance to match that offer. Best case scenario but ultimately, the widows choice. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/24 "2019-11-22T13:55:51Z")
> [@River\_Hippie](#): > > When the widow had the offer from the pawnshop it would have been nice of her to give family a chance to match that offer. Best case scenario but ultimately, the widows choice. Sister, not widow, but I agree. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/25 "2019-11-22T14:53:44Z")
> [@Zyada](#): > > When my mother passes away (assuming she doesn’t outlive us all!), I suspect any arguments will be of the “You take it”“No, you take it!” variety. I was just thinking the same thing! 😃 I do worry about what will happen to my husband’s stuff when he dies. I expect his kids will be contentious. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/26 "2019-11-22T21:39:43Z")
I have only one child, my daughter. I have one nephew, to whom I am pretty close. There isn’t anybody else who matters and is also likely to live long enough to bury me. My daughter is already beneficiary of my pension and will collect a couple grand a month for the rest of her life when I take the dirt nap. The guns and other tchotchkes around here will be hers as my next of kin. She is pretty close to her cousin; if he wants anything of mine, she will likely give it to him. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/27 "2019-11-22T22:09:08Z")
Imo: Shari didn’t do anything _wrong_, but it would have been nice of her to offer Jack’s former possessions to his family. ---
**Author:** ![Mundane\_Super\_Hero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mundane_super_hero/32/6304_2.png) [@Mundane\_Super\_Hero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mundane_Super_Hero)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2019, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768/28 "2019-11-23T02:07:07Z")
Umm… these are hand guns. My father had two handguns… and in my state it takes almost 18 months to clear a license to get even one handgun. It’s why my BIL got them. He lives in Seattle and was dead-heading on some acquaintance jet. Since WA has no such laws… and since I couldn’t legally take possession of them, he packed them in his bags, flew them to WA, and that was the last I ever saw of them. Sure, I was pissed… they were to go to me. But… as it was explained… the law is the law. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/argument-over-selling-family-heirlooms/843768.md?page=1)