# As a Cold Wind blows through my heart...... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 22, 2000, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894 "2000-12-22T19:27:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/1 "2000-12-22T19:27:30Z")
Neither mundane, nor pointless. Still, this is home for us, of sorts. So, here goes. Forgive the terseness, please. My dear, beloved hubby, **MrBear** and I are having some problems. Partially due I think to the fact that he’s half a world away from us. No, I can’t share any details now. Maybe not ever. But this wind is freezing my heart, and his, and I know I can count on my online family here to offer some warm thoughts, prayers, wishes, hugs, a fire to cuddle up to to keep the ice at bay. This is partly why I haven’t been posting much either. Too wrapped up in my own Dark Valley I guess. Know that I come when I can, and I love you all, and I miss you too. \ ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/2 "2000-12-22T19:31:55Z")
_gives PB a big hug and kiss from him and PD_ _starts fire for PB’s eyes_ ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/3 "2000-12-22T19:35:49Z")
{{{{{purplebear}}}}} It hate so to see you hurting, sweetie. You have such a kind, loving, giving heart, you should never have to feel such pain. If I could somehow take it away, I would gladly do it, in a heartbeat. All I can offer is my sincere wishes and hopes that things get better. I hope it helps you to know that I am thinking of you, and I will offer up a prayer for you and Mr Bear. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/4 "2000-12-22T19:43:50Z")
PB - Here’s a Christmas box for you, gaily wrapped in colorful paper (teddy bear angels print, just for you) and covered by the biggest, brightest, gaudiest bow you’ve ever seen. Open it now. Don’t wait until Christmas Day. You’ll find lots of warm thoughts, prayers, _best_ wishes (picked 'em fresh just now), and hugs - just like you asked for. I took the liberty of packing in some genuine concern, sincere respect, and gratitude for all you do here. I wish I could do more. You’re one of the relatively few people for whom “I wish they’d get exactly what they deserve!” would be a _good_ thing. ---
**Author:** ![Spider\_Woman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cdc98d/32.png) [@Spider\_Woman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spider_Woman)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/5 "2000-12-22T20:40:38Z")
> [@](#): > > Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. John Lennon, from “Beautiful Boy” I hope your hearts can weather this freeze without breaking. My hearts goes out to you both. Warm hugs and wishes. ----:(/ ----///\\ ---
**Author:** ![Wicked\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@Wicked\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wicked_Blue)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/6 "2000-12-22T20:59:48Z")
{{{{{purplebear}}}}}} Like Geobabe said, you are one of the nicest, most good hearted posters on this board. I hate to think that you’re sad. I sincerely hope things get better for you, and that you feel better soon. Rose ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/7 "2000-12-22T21:14:27Z")
Someone as nice as you shouldn’t have to go through this sort of crap. Hang in there and let your light shine! ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/8 "2000-12-22T21:18:54Z")
Icicles thawing some. Thank you all, especially Paddy, Geobabe, Dr J, Wicked Blue \ and Zen. I don’t have the words for what your kindness means to me. {{{{{{{{Dopers}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/9 "2000-12-22T21:23:02Z")
PB, You know I’ve been through some tough times, and you were there for me. Feel free to call me whenever you need to talk. If you don’t have my number, email me and I’ll get it to you. {{{{{purplebear}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/10 "2000-12-22T21:49:44Z")
Hon, you KNOW I’m thinking of both of you. If you need to, call or email me, okay? _hugs purplebear hard_ ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/11 "2000-12-22T21:54:35Z")
Dearest purplebear~ My heart and prayers go with you through this dark valley. You are special to me, and I am here for you. If you want to email me, my address is [Scotticher@aol.com](mailto:Scotticher@aol.com) and I WANT to help if I can. In the meantime, ((((((purplebear))))) Cheri ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/12 "2000-12-22T22:16:24Z")
Normally, **even I** would have classed this whole thing as “none of my business,” but you brought it up, so here goes. Separation, even voluntary, job-related, separation is always hard on a relationship, as is totally obvious. I don’t know why **MrBrear** ’s job takes him halfway around the world for months at a time–in my profession I can do that and make INSANE money, but I don’t know about you. But can you make a living while living at home? Maybe doing something different, but related (like using those skills you teach). There comes a point when you have to ask, “Are we (you are a team, after all) better off if I continue doing this? Is it worth the risk?” Maybe think about it. For now, c’mere, you big dummies! {{{{{purplebear & mrbear}}}}} Oh, and **mrbear** , if you want to gripe while the missus is griping to **Scotti** , the address is in the profile. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/13 "2000-12-22T22:29:43Z")
Hang in there, PB. Stay strong, and keep putting things in perspective - you’ll end up a stronger person. And I know all that crap doesn’t matter one bit right now. I’m sorry these are the circumstances under which you’re entering the Holiday Season, dear. Here’s hoping 2001 will be better. ---
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/14 "2000-12-22T22:35:33Z")
purplebear, I haven’t spoken with you, but I’ve read a lot of your posts, and you seem like a caring person. I hate to see anybody going through these things, especially during the holiday season. I know it’s a cliche (but what advice for this situation isn’t?), but everything will work out in the end. Until then, my best wishes. {{{{purplebear}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/15 "2000-12-22T22:47:12Z")
My very own **purplebear**! I will hug you and squeeze you and call you George! And then I’ll uproot trees and put them back in the ground upside down for you! …sigh… ☹ Hang in there, **pb**. Everyone here is rooting for you two. Keep the fire burning. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2000, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/16 "2000-12-22T23:25:05Z")
purple bear, i’ve missed you. i’m sorry to hear that you’re troubled. if there is anyone who deserves happiness and light it is you. i hope you can feel the many hands reaching out to you through modems around the world. take heart. ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2000, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/17 "2000-12-23T00:06:00Z")
What can I say? I don’t know you well, but from what I do know, you’re a person who cares above and beyond the call of duty…and this is no emotion for the holiday season. (((((purplebear))))) ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecccb3/32.png) [@Lord\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Jim)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2000, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/18 "2000-12-23T00:39:00Z")
Hey, **PurpleBear** , the holidays are tough when you are not with the one you want to be with. So much you want to share and no one to share it with. It’s easy to let loneliness turn to anger (Why am I alone?) and then turn toward your SO (Why is he/she leaving me alone?). Don’t let it get to you. Don’t let it damage the relationship that is the very reason you are feeling this way. If it weren’t so important, you wouldn’t miss it so much. I know Loneliness. He’s not a welcome friend, but he is faithful. He’ll always be there when no one else is. Come to Dallas next week and get some real hugs from some of your real Doper friends. And hang in there. You’ll be back together in a month or so. I’m hoping the you and **Mr.Bear** can hang on and get thru these tough times. Always here, Jim ---
**Author:** ![lurkernomore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@lurkernomore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lurkernomore)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2000, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/19 "2000-12-23T01:11:08Z")
Lord, PB, I am sorry to hear this. I hope once Mr Bear gets home everything thaws out. I’m glad at least Maidenunicorn will be down there for you so you’re not alone. ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2000, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894/20 "2000-12-23T05:13:42Z")
Ron, Amy, you’re always there when I need you. Thank you for that. Cheri, you are one of the reasons I stick around this board, you too have such a warm heart. Drop, thank you. Don’t worry, we’ve already decided it’s not worth it, he won’t renew his contract, and will be home for good around the 21st of Jan, 2001. This separation is only a part of the story, but at least with him home, we’ll have a real chance to work on the rest. Thank you so much for your words this morning, Coldy. Your heart is a big as you are cute. It did help. woodstockbirdybird, hello, and thank you for your kind words and hugs. Ogre, my pal. You knew just what to post, didn’t you? You gave me the first smile that’s been natural for several days. See? 🙂 You’re a dear, if somewhat goofy ogre. Just don’t squeeze all the stuffing out of me, please. And, put those trees back!! _wink_ rocking chair, I do, indeed feel the caring and warmth here. I’ve missed seeing your posts as well. Nocturne, thank you, and nice to meet you. I’ve been hearing your sweetie gush about you a lot lately. Thank you for making him happy. Jim, thanks. Yes, you’re right, and that’s part of my problem too, this time of year is harder alone. I’ll be coming up to Dallas, along with maidenunicorn, and I’ll gladly accept and return any and all hugs. Thank you, Ed, I’m very glad too. She’s been a dear friend to me, calling me to check up on me, even while on her trip. {{{{{{{all Dopers}}}}}}} To give you a slight update, this afternoon while I was at the store, one dozen deep red roses in a beautiful glass vase, were delivered here. Our daughter got so excited that she called me to tell me they were here, so I tried to rush home to see them. The note, from my dear hubby, quoted I Corinthians 13. I told him that each petal was saying “I love you” to me. I don’t know yet how, or when, but I do know that we will weather this storm, as we have weathered others together. This gorgeous bouquet, and the warmth and caring here, have brightened considerably these otherwise bleak few days. Thank you, with all my heart. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/as-a-cold-wind-blows-through-my-heart/46894.md?page=2)