# asexual? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 1, 2019, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866 "2019-04-01T15:35:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2019, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/21 "2019-04-01T18:18:05Z")
I just would like someone to go to dinner and a show with, and since this is the Pit, I’ll add goddammit! ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2019, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/22 "2019-04-01T18:24:45Z")
> [@Knowed\_Out](#): > > Just go with “the heart wants what the heart wants” and stop trying to analyze it. Passion or lack thereof does not follow logic. Arguing about why other people want what they want is kinda silly anyway. 1. Who the fuck are (generic) you that other people need to explain themselves to you? It’s kinda vain to think (generic) you have that right. 2. (Generic) You might look as well try to explain your own wants using only logic and see how well that goes. I bet part of your logic is “well, I want this, so it is logical”. Which kinda answers the whole thing. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2019, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/23 "2019-04-01T20:37:30Z")
Wanting a romantic relationship without the sex makes perfect sense to me. It makes just as much sense as wanting sex without any of the romance stuff. I don’t know why this is confusing that it would warrant any kind of conversation. Sent from my SPH-L710 using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2019, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/24 "2019-04-01T21:21:20Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > There are non-sexual relationships. I don’t think an asexual person wants no relationships, just not sexual ones. May not be easy to find an SO who wants a sexless relationship. The only one I know of is a disabled woman who married and supports a man who takes care of her. But there could be a lot of such relationships and people don’t talk about it. I’ve known two elderly couples where the man could no longer have sex who married for companionship rather than sex. For the couple I knew best, the woman no longer wanted to have sex with anyone so marrying a man who couldn’t worked out well for them. So these things certainly do happen. It’s not for everyone, but for those for whom it works out - hey, it beats being lonely, right? You can have a best friend/roommate/other relationship without having sex involved. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2019, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/25 "2019-04-02T13:38:43Z")
As Thomas Tryon put it in his book “Lady”\_ Who knows what it takes to make another person happy? ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2019, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/26 "2019-04-04T01:24:31Z")
Wow I didn’t expect to see something like this in the pit. I’ve been asexual for 49 years. I’d be happy to answer any questions you have. A lot of people lately feel the need to announce their orientation and be out and proud. Asexuals are no exception and really, why should we be? It’s time for people to understand a person does not NEED to be sexually attracted to anyone. We don’t need to be analyzed any closer than bisexuals or heterosexuals do we? We can still desire affection and close bonding relationships. I’m in a group of people from all over the world who are looking or have found love without sexual attraction. Some aren’t even looking for that. I’m not really. I’m pretty happy just being me and hanging with my friends and family. I’ve been “pretty desperate” in my past to find a loving relationship. I’ve even been in love. Been married twice. I’ve had lots of sex. I have never, ever, even once, been sexually attracted to anyone though. It’s always been a bit of a task, like something you do for someone as a kindness (or even as barter!). When I was younger I won’t say I didn’t sometimes enjoy the act, especially the attention and the physical release but it’s been years since I even enjoyed that. My last partner was over ten years ago and I haven’t looked since. I’m not interested in compromise. I won’t have sex with someone just to have some companionship like I did when I was younger. I don’t know why I’m like this. We no longer hint that maybe gay people were molested or have something physically wrong with them so why do people think it needs to be questioned for asexuals? ---
**Author:** ![adhemar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@adhemar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/adhemar)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2019, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/asexual/831866/27 "2019-04-04T15:31:09Z")
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