# Ask a black gay guy! **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [January 30, 2005, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469 "2005-01-30T20:13:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/1 "2005-01-30T20:13:26Z")
C’mon, be brave, ask me anything. 😃 - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![kezami](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eb8c5e/32.png) [@kezami](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kezami)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/2 "2005-01-30T20:18:02Z")
Have you always been black? ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/3 "2005-01-30T20:26:10Z")
> [@kezami](#): > > Have you always been black? [Yep](http://www.geocities.com/miloubrae/brian02.jpg). - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![kezami](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eb8c5e/32.png) [@kezami](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kezami)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/4 "2005-01-30T20:30:56Z")
Cool ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/5 "2005-01-30T20:40:34Z")
Do your parents know you’re black? ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/6 "2005-01-30T20:42:32Z")
How come I’m not rich? ---
**Author:** ![BytopianDream](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9de0a6/32.png) [@BytopianDream](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BytopianDream)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/7 "2005-01-30T20:43:33Z")
You’ve been on the boards for nearly 5 years and only 120 something posts? What’s up with that? You dang lurker! I hates me some lurkers! Also, you know of any hot sisters down in the Atlanta area that might give a poor white man a chance to get his jungle fever on? ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/8 "2005-01-30T20:43:44Z")
So does the phrase “on the down-low” (black slang for gay but closeted) have any meaning? I’ve heard it on a few _Law & Order_ episodes. ---
**Author:** ![ninetypercent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9de0a6/32.png) [@ninetypercent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ninetypercent)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/9 "2005-01-30T20:50:24Z")
Don’t you ever get sick of rap music? Don’t you think that much sugar in your Kool-Aid is unhealthy? ---
**Author:** ![CynicalGabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@CynicalGabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CynicalGabe)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/10 "2005-01-30T20:51:56Z")
Serious question: How is the AIDS crises affecting the black homosexual community? The last information I had on the matter was that AIDS was afflicting that demographic group harder than any other in the US. Is this still the case? ---
**Author:** ![Windwalker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/5e9695/32.png) [@Windwalker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Windwalker)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/12 "2005-01-30T21:59:27Z")
Have you ever been been discriminated against on the basis of skin color or sexual orientation? If so, which is more common or annoying? Has the combination caused any sort of hybrid discrimination or abuse? Also, to get a better frame of reference, where do you live? And finally, do you believe in the existence of extra-terrestrials? ---
**Author:** ![Roland\_Orzabal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c2a13f/32.png) [@Roland\_Orzabal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roland_Orzabal)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/13 "2005-01-30T22:02:49Z")
Hypothetically, if some wiseasses on an internet message board asked you a bunch of questions about various ethnic stereotypes, would you be annoyed by that? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![SteveG1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@SteveG1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SteveG1)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/14 "2005-01-30T22:04:07Z")
To plagiarize a little bit from the previous post, Have you ever been been discriminated against on the basis of skin color within the gay “community”? Some areas/towns seem to be all about “the look”. The West Hollywood clone look, the “rugged outdoors” look, things like that. ---
**Author:** ![Malodorous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47774/32.png) [@Malodorous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malodorous)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/15 "2005-01-30T22:21:18Z")
Have you ever considered converting to Judaism in order to gain the coveted American Minority Status Triple Crown. ---
**Author:** ![FisherQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/58f4c7/32.png) [@FisherQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FisherQueen)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/16 "2005-01-30T22:42:35Z")
Do you agree with me that Usher is hot? What did you have for supper? ---
**Author:** ![Bangiadore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5a626/32.png) [@Bangiadore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bangiadore)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/17 "2005-01-30T23:01:40Z")
:::gazes at picture::: So…how _ **you** _ doin’? ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/18 "2005-01-30T23:42:01Z")
> [@Revtim](#): > > Do your parents know you’re black? Yes. - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![CBCD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc348/32.png) [@CBCD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CBCD)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/19 "2005-01-30T23:45:01Z")
Do you have to be black to be a black gay guy? Or gay? or a guy? Can I be a white straight woman and still be a black gay guy? How does it work? ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/20 "2005-01-30T23:52:19Z")
Is there still construction on I-94? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2005, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/21 "2005-01-30T23:52:18Z")
> [@Bryan Ekers](#): > > So does the phrase “on the down-low” (black slang for gay but closeted) have any meaning? I’ve heard it on a few _Law & Order_ episodes. Yep. It refers to men, usually very straight-acting, married black men, who have sex with other men. It is fair to note that “masculine” and DL are not interchangeable. In chatrooms, especially black gay chatrooms, this is abbreviated as simply: DL. I believe On the Down Low originated from Tevin Campbell’s [album](http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B0001FVEVS/qid=1107129732/sr=2-3/ref=pd_ka_b_2_3/104-3917710-7354310) by, linguistically speaking, the same title. Ironically, Tevin Campbell was arrested in 1999 for soliciting sex from an undercover gigalo. - Honesty [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469.md?page=2)