# Ask a black gay guy! **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [January 30, 2005, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469 "2005-01-30T20:13:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2005, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/82 "2005-02-03T11:18:02Z")
> [@Magiver](#): > > Does it bother you to hear 2 hetro males kid each other about being gay. > > ex: “I love you man, just not that way”. I don’t understand the constant need to reaffirm someone’s sexuality over and over again - regardless of someone is straight, bisexual, gay, etc. When adult, straight men do this, it is sometimes a bit frustrating. I just unconsciously assume that they are gay themselves and go on my marry way. 😉 - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2005, 11:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/83 "2005-02-03T11:34:33Z")
> [@Merkwurdigliebe](#): > > Okay I have one… > Why are black people so cool? No I’m not into rap, and I don’t even like it, but Black dudes are just so damn smooth! I’ve lived in other parts of the world, and Americans are sort of considered “cool” but that’s only because we have Black people to teach us certain phrases that we repeat for at least 5 years after y’all have moved on to cooler things. And furthermore the use of the word y’all. I mean that was popularized by black people not southerners. Obviously a lot of black people have southern origns, but really. > > I don’t really get into most mainstream aspects of black cultuer, but damn, you are all so cool. > > Also, is it true, the thing about having bigger penises? I don’t know how to respond to your first comment but I’ll try. The black community, in general, feels that whites have “stolen” much of their culture. More and more white kids musicians are sounding “black” everyday. If you take an older song by Justin Timberlake and play it side-by-side by one of his new tracks, you’ll find the difference akin to The [Chordettes](http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B0000032OP/qid=1107430471/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/103-6741380-2466217?v=glance&s=music&n=507846) transforming into [En Vogue](http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000002JP6/qid=1107430499/sr=2-2/ref=pd_ka_b_2_2/103-6741380-2466217). I don’t think this is bad per se, instead, it just shows that cultures are somewhat merging. This merging appears to be parasitic; I don’t think blacks flock (at least not in my mind, but I’m certainly open to be corrected) to see George Carlin. However, if you live on my campus, there seems to be a puzzling fascination with Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle. I’ll never understand why that is. The jokes Chris Rock makes are so culture-specific that I’m shocked that white students here understand them at all. As for your second comment, yes, I’ve found that black penises are bigger than others. From my experiences, black penises tend to range from 8-10, whites, 6-8, and the Asian guy was around 4 or 4 and a half. Keep in mind that I’ve seen less than 10 penises in my life and I urge you not to use my limited experience as a measuring stick :smack:. - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2005, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/84 "2005-02-03T11:35:40Z")
As I reread my post, I want to apologize. I shouldn’t have used the word parasitic. - Honesty ---
**Author:** ![lee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lee/32/7455_2.png) [@lee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lee)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2005, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/85 "2005-02-03T12:24:38Z")
I don’t know, but the word parasitic does not seem too strong for what happens in the music industry, but to think started recently is a mistake. Elvis was in this not so fine tradition, and white rag time musicians before that. I think it is fine for musicians to be influenced by others, but too often pale imitators is an apt description. I saw a pair of film clips of a song. One was Joan Crawford done up in dark makeup singing a song wearing a sarong. She looked like a man in dark drag make up. Another was a naturally dark skinned singer in a similar costume doing the same song in the same costume. There is no way to describe the Joan Crawford version as superior, yet it stayed in the film. Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle are funny. They are also some of the only people talking about race. ---
**Author:** ![lee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lee/32/7455_2.png) [@lee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lee)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2005, 12:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/86 "2005-02-03T12:45:47Z")
That should be some of the only people talking about race to a general audience. How culturally aware do you need to be to laugh at mud butt? It doesn’t feel like Dave Chapelle is hiding from his audiences. dumbing down his act, or “acting white.” Especially because he does act white for comedic effect. When he talked about his neighbors on the daily show and imitated them saying, “Well Dave, Looks like the lawn is getting a little long,” I nearly fell out of my chair. His body language, his accent, his tone of voice were so dead on for middle America! When _The Boondocks_ started in newspapers, and I admitting liking it, some peers accused me of racism. I kept with it and still love it. People complained that if a white person said that it would be racism. Dave Chapelle admits to racism, so the whiny assholes can’t accuse him of hypocrisy. And damn, he is funny. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2005, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469/87 "2005-03-14T06:13:07Z")
Hope you don’t mind the bump, but it’s a cool thread… > [@lee](#): > > Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle are funny. They are also some of the only people talking about race. You’ll never guess who I’m about to tell you talks about race all the time 😉 So **Honesty** , how often do you hear people attempting to encourage homophobia on the basis that homosexuality is a white thing, or the like? I ask because one of our local assholes, Stephen Harper, spent part of last month trying to drum up the support of Canadian immigrant communities for his crusade against same-sex marriage, even intimating that people who were in favour of same-sex marriage were somehow racist, and getting roundly informed by members of these communities that, regardless of their views on same-sex marriage, they did not appreciate his acting as though their views were all identical on SSM, nor his clumsy pandering to them in this way, nor his attempts to turn one oppressed minority on another, nor his attempts to basically shred the Charter of Rights while hiding behind it. I did rather appreciate this. Oh, and please allow me to welcome two new gay guys to the board (including **Bangiadore**!) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-black-gay-guy/287469.md?page=4)