# Ask a guy who recovered from a terrible limiting belief/insecurity anything. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 25, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921 "2013-06-25T23:06:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/1 "2013-06-25T23:06:37Z")
Starting in 2011 I had a huge limiting belief about being Indian and scoring with attractive women outside of my own race. Went on a personal journey. For a long time I worked out, ate right, dressed right, and read books on doing well with women. Despite being decent looking and doing all things right I did have my struggles. Went on internet forums and asked people repeatedly if they have seen Indian men date interracial before since I find my ethnicity was limiting me. In mid to late 2012 I started to see more and more success with women but I still had my insecurity/limiting belief. For the past month, it has pretty much been dead and I just feel like a whole new person. Ask me anything. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2013, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/2 "2013-06-25T23:13:44Z")
“Indian” meaning “from India,” or “native american”? ---
**Author:** ![tralfamidor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/779978/32.png) [@tralfamidor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tralfamidor)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2013, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/3 "2013-06-25T23:19:09Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Ask me anything. Who do you think will win the Super Bowl in 2014? ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/4 "2013-06-26T00:15:14Z")
> [@tralfamidor](#): > > Who do you think will win the Super Bowl in 2014? Tough call. Denver Broncos! ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/5 "2013-06-26T01:25:53Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Starting in 2011 I had a huge limiting belief about being Indian and scoring with attractive women outside of my own race. Went on a personal journey. Did you think you could score with attractive women within your race? Why was it important for you to date women outside your race? Why was it important for you to “score” with “attractive” women? Have you gone on a personal journey to figure out how to have a long and stable relationship with a woman? If not, why was it more important for you to figure out how to score with attractive women rather than to figure out how to have a happy relationship? ---
**Author:** ![sisu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@sisu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sisu)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/6 "2013-06-26T02:14:22Z")
Yeah how do I go about dating an attractive Indian woman as a whiter than casper white boy? ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/7 "2013-06-26T04:00:05Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Starting in 2011 I had a huge limiting belief about being Indian and scoring with attractive women outside of my own race. Went on a personal journey. > > For a long time I worked out, ate right, dressed right, and read books on doing well with women. Despite being decent looking and doing all things right I did have my struggles. > > Went on internet forums and asked people repeatedly if they have seen Indian men date interracial before since I find my ethnicity was limiting me. > > In mid to late 2012 I started to see more and more success with women but I still had my insecurity/limiting belief. > > For the past month, it has pretty much been dead and I just feel like a whole new person. > > Ask me anything. What’s your mom’s phone number? I have a thing for mature Desis. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/8 "2013-06-26T12:25:05Z")
Do the women you date actually like stealth bragging? ---
**Author:** ![Tracijo67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@Tracijo67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracijo67)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/9 "2013-06-26T12:42:43Z")
> [@colander](#): > > What’s your mom’s phone number? I have a thing for mature Desis. If your skin ain’t pale, she’ll say go to hell 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/10 "2013-06-26T13:27:58Z")
Why is dating a white woman such an “accomplishment” for you? ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/11 "2013-06-26T13:34:29Z")
I doubt it was your ethnicity; there are plenty of handsome, in-shape, well dressed guys who don’t regularly score with women of any kind, attractive or not. Sometimes it’s confidence or some other internal thing, but a lot of the time, it’s just not being in the right place with the right people. I never had much luck “scoring” at all, even back when I was actually judged handsome, in-shape and well dressed (ca. 2001 or so), mostly because the crowd of people I hung around with wasn’t into “hooking up” or anything like that. One more thing, if you’re an Indian guy, lose the 1970s porn star mustache. Do they issue those to you guys when you hit puberty or something? ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/12 "2013-06-26T14:41:32Z")
Thinly veiled bragging that you’re shagging a white chick, makes you seem even smarmier than your previous threads did. Quite an accomplishment. Job Well done. ---
**Author:** ![JerrySTL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e274bd/32.png) [@JerrySTL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JerrySTL)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/13 "2013-06-26T14:46:56Z")
I love a good parody post! > **[Have you ever seen or known an Indian (India) guy in an interracial...](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=686671)** > > Basically any guy that is Indian ethnically (whether born in India or born in a Westernized country) that has been in an interracial relationship with a woman outside of his own race before. It is something I have wondered. Currently I am in a small... ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/14 "2013-06-26T14:55:51Z")
> [@JerrySTL](#): > > I love a good parody post! > > [Have you ever seen or known an Indian (India) guy in an interracial relationship before? - In My Humble Opinion - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=686671) It’s the same poster - he’s a little, shall we say, focused on this subject. ---
**Author:** ![Tracijo67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@Tracijo67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracijo67)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/15 "2013-06-26T15:15:50Z")
> [@Icarus](#): > > It’s the same poster - he’s a little, shall we say, focused on this subject. If by focused you mean a 68-post singular and enthusiastically fetishy focus on pursuit of the elusive pale-skin golden hair female to exclusion of all else, then yes, I agree with your definition 😃 Curious Guy, I assume by now you’ve found that her nether regions don’t spray lotus-scented rainbows and that your peers are probably more puzzled by your single-minded focus than enchanted by your newly elevated status as the Indian Who Bagged Him a White Girl. Buy yourself a BMW and a rocking pair of aviators. Or hell, you’re Indian. Get your PhD in rocket science AND microbiotics by the time you’re 25. The ladies will swoooooon, I tells ya. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/16 "2013-06-26T16:51:43Z")
> [@Tracijo67](#): > > … I assume by now you’ve found that her nether regions don’t spray lotus-scented rainbows … I feel the need to thank you for that mental image. For bonus points, I’m seeing it in the style of [The Oatmeal](http://theoatmeal.com/), which works well in this case. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/17 "2013-06-26T17:33:37Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Ask me anything. Have you overcome your terrible limiting belief/insecurity that you are a failure unless you are dating a white woman? ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/18 "2013-06-26T17:48:13Z")
> [@sisu](#): > > Yeah how do I go about dating an attractive Indian woman as a whiter than casper white boy? Go for Indian-origin (i.e., genetically South Asian) women who were not raised in India, nor were their parents. Malaysian Indians could work out well for you, as could Trinidad or Guyana Indians. I’m guessing South African ones as well. Also Mauritius (or is it Reunion? Probably both.) (Also, **Curious Man** is about the least curious Doper I’ve come across. Hope that’s okay to say outside of the Pit.) ---
**Author:** ![Tracijo67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@Tracijo67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracijo67)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/19 "2013-06-26T17:48:25Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > I feel the need to thank you for that mental image. For bonus points, I’m seeing it in the style of [The Oatmeal](http://theoatmeal.com/), which works well in this case. 😃 Yep. My coochy looks EXACTLY like that cartoon mantis shrimp. Pretty sure they all do. Vaginas belonging to proper WHITE women, that is. Lord only knows what those brown girls are packin’. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2013, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/20 "2013-06-26T17:54:28Z")
> [@JKellyMap](#): > > Go for Indian-origin (i.e., genetically South Asian) women who were not raised in India, nor were their parents. Malaysian Indians could work out well for you, as could Trinidad or Guyana Indians. I’m guessing South African ones as well. Also Mauritius (or is it Reunion? Probably both.) And, Fiji. Musn’t forget Fiji. You could honeymoon with your new in-laws! Okay, bad idea. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921.md?page=2)