# Ask a guy who recovered from a terrible limiting belief/insecurity anything. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 25, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921 "2013-06-25T23:06:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/41 "2013-06-27T13:58:05Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > \*\*As for Colander. > > What you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul. > > \*\* Hey, it’s fine if she’s a little meaty. That’s what I like! ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/42 "2013-06-27T14:36:04Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Not really a fetish but a preference that was tough to act on. I had issues attracting White women until I learned that they require more work and just more in general than an Indian woman or a woman that isn’t White. Maybe this isn’t true in other states and countries, but where I live in the USA it is. Plus, most attractive women I run into are White. I don’t know. Giving a white girl’s family a textile plant as part of her dowry doesn’t work? > [@Tracijo67](#): > > Buy yourself a BMW and a rocking pair of aviators. He said Indian, not Persian. ---
**Author:** ![RobDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f07891/32.png) [@RobDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RobDog)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/43 "2013-06-27T14:52:59Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > …I had issues attracting White women until I learned that they require more work and just more in general than an Indian woman or a woman that isn’t White… **Curious Man** , I have this image if you in a shopping mall, covered in pollen, trying to entice White Women towards you with your nectary goodness. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/44 "2013-06-27T14:54:48Z")
> [@RobDog](#): > > **Curious Man** , I have this image if you in a shopping mall, covered in pollen, trying to entice White Women towards you with your nectary goodness. That might be part of the problem. Bees in India are fucking monstrosities! I swear they are as big as a bottle of nailpolish. Anything that gives us flashbacks to those BZZZZZZZZZing monsters is not good. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/45 "2013-06-27T15:41:54Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > \*\*As for Colander. > > What you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul. > > \*\* Curious Man, this is insulting, which is against our rules. If you want to unload on another poster, we have the BBQ Pit forum for your use. Don’t bring the insults here. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/46 "2013-06-27T15:50:32Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > This is true. > > I require daily milk baths to prevent that icky melanin from showing itself. Pasteurized? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/47 "2013-06-27T16:43:15Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Pasteurized? No, just up to her chin. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/48 "2013-06-27T16:47:09Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > \ > He said Indian, not Persian. I can smell the Drakkar Noir from here! ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/49 "2013-06-27T16:52:18Z")
> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#): > > Curious Man, this is insulting, which is against our rules. If you want to unload on another poster, we have the BBQ Pit forum for your use. Don’t bring the insults here. It’s also a stolen passage from a Gawker writer. He didn’t write that. He copied and pasted it. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/50 "2013-06-27T16:55:06Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > It’s also a stolen passage from a Gawker writer. He didn’t write that. He copied and pasted it. Actually from the movie _Billy Madison._ ETA: [Cite](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112508/quotes?item=qt0403070) ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/51 "2013-06-27T17:57:39Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I can smell the Drakkar Noir from here! Oooo, nice one. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/52 "2013-06-27T19:32:55Z")
> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#): > > Curious Man, this is insulting, which is against our rules. If you want to unload on another poster, we have the BBQ Pit forum for your use. Don’t bring the insults here. yet it is okay for him to talk about my mother, you don’t do anything about that? Though I will let loose on the insults, judging by his nasty demeanor I don’t think he gets any for himself, but it is unfair for him to talk about trying to have sex with my mom while you do nothing about it. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/53 "2013-06-27T19:35:29Z")
But on a more serious note, this is about me as an Indian man having success dating White women in the deep south, an area of the US where most White women from my experience do not date out. I am all for questions but I won’t respond to claims telling me to lose my preference. I grew up watching White women on TV and seeing them in magazines, as a result they stuck with me. Indian women are not my preference and I do not care what they had to offer, I would never touch one. As far as I have read on online forums, Asian and Indian men seem to be at the bottom of the ladder for White women in most places so I consider my situation to be good. My girlfriend also knows I find White girls attractive, we have talked about race and I have told her I am just not open to dating Indian girls and I prefer White girls. She kinda brags to her Indian friends about it too lol. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/54 "2013-06-27T19:46:51Z")
Your girlfriend is a lucky lady! ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/55 "2013-06-27T19:50:44Z")
> [@colander](#): > > Hey, it’s fine if she’s a little meaty. That’s what I like! Doesn’t matter what you like, it matters what a woman likes. You like women, women don’t like you. You are worrying about things in life that don’t matter. I too was in your shoes one day but the heavenly father saved me. Use the brain cells you have let to find your place in society and it does not involve sleeping with women. Run back to your shift at 711 and entertain the customers with your Indian accent while real men like me live our lives. Leave my thread because it has no use for you. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/56 "2013-06-27T19:55:35Z")
Well, I was hoping this thread would help people and let them know that whatever limiting belief you have, you can recover from and live a good life when you do recover from it but apparently this forum has the bitterness syndrome. I have to now deal with forum members who hate the fact that I like White women, am dating one, and not giving other races a chance. These people hate the fact that I live my life and want me to be one of those Indians that has to beg his parents for an arranged marriage. Goes back to my point that most people don’t want to see you succeed. I have run into a woman on here that has an issue with me liking White girls and dating one. I ran into a few racist guys who hate the fact I am dating one. I even ran into some other Indian (FOB most likely) who is being disrespectful and talking about wanting to sleep with my family members while the mod doesn’t do shit about it. Guess he has never been out in the real world against actual men who would beat the living Curry out of him and have him begging for mercy in his Indian accent as they rip his 70s mustache right off his face. Guess most people on here are too miserable to see anyone happy and learn from them. Anyways, I don’t think I am going to help anyone on here or provide inspiration. SO nice knowing you guys. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/57 "2013-06-27T19:56:59Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Run back to your shift at 711 and entertain the customers with your Indian accent while real men like me live our lives. Leave my thread because it has no use for you. Someone has some serious self-hating going on! ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/58 "2013-06-27T19:58:01Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Anyways, I don’t think I am going to help anyone on here or provide inspiration. SO nice knowing you guys. LOL! Pretty sure you won’t be providing any inspiration. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/59 "2013-06-27T20:03:26Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Anyways, I don’t think I am going to help anyone on here or provide inspiration. You were never going to anyway. Your “limiting belief” was that you were unable to sufficiently objectify women. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921/60 "2013-06-27T20:25:06Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > oh and of course, as with any interracial relationship, the hate shall come > > but the hate I have gotten has not really been as much from the White crowd, more from other Indian guys who were jealous, funny how it works: > > “hay, how did u pick up white girl?” > > Me: Nonresponsive > > “OH FUCK U IDIOT!” > > Let the hate begin. You have been told about these threads before CuriousMan…[here.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=16275947&postcount=8) This is now a warning for you. Do NOT post about this subject again, Curious Man, or you may lose your posting privileges. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-a-guy-who-recovered-from-a-terrible-limiting-belief-insecurity-anything/661921.md?page=4)