# Ask the Aspie Teenage Girl **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 7, 2013, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314 "2013-11-07T06:25:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/1 "2013-11-07T06:25:57Z")
Aspergers is a type of autism. On the spectrum, it is usually on the higher end. Most people with Aspergers are men, and only a fraction of the diagnosed are women. I was diagnosed with high-functioning Aspergers syndrome in the 6th grade. I’m in 10th grade now, i’m 15 years old. It has been a struggle to get where I am now. If you would like, you could ask me a question, and i’ll certainly do my best to answer it! Whether it be about my personal experiences, to advice, to asking what my favorite color is, or even explaining further on Aspergers itself, i’ll answer! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/2 "2013-11-07T06:27:09Z")
Do you think homework is dumb ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/3 "2013-11-07T06:31:47Z")
What is your social life like? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/4 "2013-11-07T06:51:08Z")
Do you have a boyfriend? ---
**Author:** ![JLRogers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce73a5/32.png) [@JLRogers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JLRogers)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/5 "2013-11-07T06:59:31Z")
Are you self-diagnosed? Did the person who diagnosed you have a valid license to practice medicine? ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/6 "2013-11-07T07:03:08Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Do you have a boyfriend? Dude. We all knew this was gonna go off the rails. This early though? ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/7 "2013-11-07T07:42:26Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > Dude. > > We all knew this was gonna go off the rails. > > This early though? It’s a reasonable question, assuming **Ambi** isn’t asking it as a prelude to a pick-up line. Many people on the autistic spectrum have problems relating to the opposite sex (or their own, for that matter) and have stories to tell about it. ---
**Author:** ![JLRogers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce73a5/32.png) [@JLRogers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JLRogers)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/8 "2013-11-07T07:55:34Z")
Pretty sure that was a joke, Malacandra. Have you had yourself tested for Asperger’s? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/9 "2013-11-07T08:24:58Z")
Are you self-diagnosed (as **JLRogers** asked, several posts above)? If you follow the Aspie message boards (do you?), it seems that a great many posters there are self-diagnosed, and a great many seem desperate to get an official diagnosis. Do you think there is any particular value or advantage in having an official diagnosis? If so, how do you deal with the fact that _Asperger’s Syndrome doesn’t officially exist any more?_ – The recently-released DSM V officially did away with it. What diagnosis now exists for those who were diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome under DSM IV? Whatever value that diagnosis had then, is there a new diagnosis for those same people now, and does it have the same usefulness? Are you aware of Aspie message boards like The Aspie Hangout? (You can google that.) ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/10 "2013-11-07T08:31:07Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > It’s a reasonable question, assuming **Ambi** isn’t asking it as a prelude to a pick-up line. Many people on the autistic spectrum have problems relating to the opposite sex (or their own, for that matter) and have stories to tell about it. There has been a general understanding that many (most?) Aspies have a hard time with social relationships, _especially_ with romantic relationships with the opposite data type. But it also a general understanding that men’s/boy’s problems with women/girls is very different than the kind of problems women/girls have with men/boys. **Purin血** at age 15 might be just at the very beginning of getting into these matters. **Purin血** , do you have any experiences/problems/observations/whatever to say about this, from a teenage girl’s point of view? ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 8:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/11 "2013-11-07T08:50:09Z")
Maybe we should start with a much more basic question about social experience: Aspies commonly have a very hard time dealing with any kind of social relationships Purin血, how does that work for you? BUT, it turns out, _some_ Aspies seem to be perfectly content with that, and have little or no interest in dealing with other people. Other Aspies, on the other hand, are horribly lonely, depressed, and distraught at their inability to manage satisfactory social relations. What is your take on this? And okay, I’ll bite. What’s your favorite color? Please write a 300-word essay explaining why. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 9:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/12 "2013-11-07T09:08:21Z")
Does it take one to know one? Do you think you can easily recognize other Aspies when you encounter them? Do you think other Aspies can easily recognize that you’re one, when they encounter you? Have you spent much time on very many message boards? Do you think message boards have lots of Aspies? Have you lurked much, right here on The Straight Dope Message Board, before you began posting? Do you think THIS message board is full of Aspies? ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/13 "2013-11-07T09:23:37Z")
> [@JLRogers](#): > > Pretty sure that was a joke, Malacandra. Have you had yourself tested for Asperger’s? 😛 No, but the doctor who tested my son ten years ago gave me some knowing looks when I talked about my early-life issues, and someone on the behavioural unit back when I was a T.A. flat-out asked if I was autistic. 😛 backatcha ---
**Author:** ![JLRogers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce73a5/32.png) [@JLRogers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JLRogers)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 9:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/14 "2013-11-07T09:42:49Z")
Ha! No, I’m just a jerk. No ASD here as far as I know. ---
**Author:** ![Bumbershoot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbershoot/32/3428_2.png) [@Bumbershoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbershoot)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/15 "2013-11-07T10:55:47Z")
First, I think you’re very brave to start this thread. Now, on to my question(s): You mentioned in [your “Introduction” thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=707058) that you are home-schooled. Is that because of/related to the Aspberger’s? Did you ever attend public school? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/16 "2013-11-07T12:47:52Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > Dude. > > We all knew this was gonna go off the rails. > > This early though? Give me a break. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![JLRogers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce73a5/32.png) [@JLRogers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JLRogers)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/17 "2013-11-07T13:00:04Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Give me a break. :dubious: I think we all saw the subtext. Where do you appear in [this video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tLPZmPaHme0), Mr. “Ambivalid,” if that is your real name? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/18 "2013-11-07T13:09:52Z")
Is one of the signs of Aspergers when somebody invites questions and then leaves? ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/19 "2013-11-07T13:27:51Z")
> [@DrFidelius](#): > > Is one of the signs of Aspergers when somebody invites questions and then leaves? It’s a sign of humanity to go to sleep at night. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/20 "2013-11-07T13:32:50Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > It’s a sign of humanity to go to sleep at night. For a teenager? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314.md?page=2)