# Ask the Aspie Teenage Girl **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 7, 2013, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314 "2013-11-07T06:25:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/21 "2013-11-07T18:49:58Z")
Hello guys! Thanks for all the wonderful questions! I am doing homework, but I will be answering these questions very very soon! **DrFidelius** , I believe i was executing the human practice known as sleep. Indeed, even teenagers sleep. Shocker, right?? ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/22 "2013-11-07T19:19:27Z")
Why do people with autism have trouble looking others in their eye? Do you have that problem? And what if someone moved into your eye line while you stared straight ahead? Could you look them in the eyes then? ---
**Author:** ![Tethered\_Kite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a5b964/32.png) [@Tethered\_Kite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tethered_Kite)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/23 "2013-11-07T19:25:14Z")
What would you like to do after you graduate? ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/24 "2013-11-07T22:24:42Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > Do you think homework is dumb Uhh… Duh! What high school student wouldn’t think homework is dumb? [del]I actually know a few, please don’t sue me[/del] 😛 > [@Blackberry](#): > > What is your social life like? I spend most of my time on the computer. Mostly, because my social abilities don’t hinder me while talking through text, since I usually stutter over words and say “UMM” a lot. As for the social life I do have, I usually tend to hang around the little kids (from infants to 5 or 6 years of age) because I find children fascinating, and come on, they’re _adorable_, OR around the adults. I never really hang out with kids my age due to the fact that they are usually bratty and can’t deal with my loud and obnoxious voice, as well as stuttering. Only the very very few true friends I have are my age, and they’re a lot like me. I’m grateful for what friends I do have. 🙂 > [@Malacandra](#): > > It’s a reasonable question, assuming **Ambi** isn’t asking it as a prelude to a pick-up line. Many people on the autistic spectrum have problems relating to the opposite sex (or their own, for that matter) and have stories to tell about it. No, I don’t have a boyfriend, however I have been in a serious relationship with a girl. I am Pansexual. > [@Senegoid](#): > > Are you self-diagnosed (as **JLRogers** asked, several posts above)? If you follow the Aspie message boards (do you?), it seems that a great many posters there are self-diagnosed, and a great many seem desperate to get an official diagnosis. > > Do you think there is any particular value or advantage in having an official diagnosis? > > If so, how do you deal with the fact that _Asperger’s Syndrome doesn’t officially exist any more?_ – The recently-released DSM V officially did away with it. > > What diagnosis now exists for those who were diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome under DSM IV? Whatever value that diagnosis had then, is there a new diagnosis for those same people now, and does it have the same usefulness? > > Are you aware of Aspie message boards like The Aspie Hangout? (You can google that.) Am I self-diagnosed? No. I was diagnosed by a doctor. The fact that Aspergers technically doesn’t exist anymore makes me a bit upset. It may be a high functioning mental disorder, but that makes it no less important in my eyes. I’m just happy people are more aware of it and continue to treat people with Aspergers with respect. I have heard of the boards, but never looked at them. I should give them a look-see sometime! Thank you for letting me know! > [@Senegoid](#): > > There has been a general understanding that many (most?) Aspies have a hard time with social relationships, _especially_ with romantic relationships with the opposite data type. > > But it also a general understanding that men’s/boy’s problems with women/girls is very different than the kind of problems women/girls have with men/boys. > > **Purin血** at age 15 might be just at the very beginning of getting into these matters. > > **Purin血** , do you have any experiences/problems/observations/whatever to say about this, from a teenage girl’s point of view? As far as romantic relationships go, I have only been in a serious one with another girl as stated above. I have had been in a relationship with boys before, but they don’t count because it was more like middle school puppy love than a serious relationship, so I don’t really have the personal opinion about that yet. > [@Senegoid](#): > > Maybe we should start with a much more basic question about social experience: > > Aspies commonly have a very hard time dealing with any kind of social relationships > > Purin血, how does that work for you? > > BUT, it turns out, _some_ Aspies seem to be perfectly content with that, and have little or no interest in dealing with other people. > > Other Aspies, on the other hand, are horribly lonely, depressed, and distraught at their inability to manage satisfactory social relations. > > What is your take on this? > > And okay, I’ll bite. What’s your favorite color? Please write a 300-word essay explaining why. 😛 I suppose I have saved how social interactions make me feel for this one, since I have answered a bit of this above. I can and will get anxiety over going to new places, or meeting new people, depending on their status, such as a celebrity. But that’s another story for another time… 😉 I take medication to help my anxiety and also to help me sleep. And hahaha! My favorite color is purple. Why? Well… …Because I like the color purple! Some people may have explanations on why they have their favorite colors, but I don’t. I always stuck with purple since I was a kid. But lately, i’ve been getting the bullshit answer of, “I liek all hte colors!!! Rainbwos!!! :D” Bull. When I was 6, I was expected to give a color. Not the whole damn rainbow, haha. > [@Senegoid](#): > > Does it take one to know one? > > Do you think you can easily recognize other Aspies when you encounter them? > > Do you think other Aspies can easily recognize that you’re one, when they encounter you? > > Have you spent much time on very many message boards? Do you think message boards have lots of Aspies? > > Have you lurked much, right here on The Straight Dope Message Board, before you began posting? Do you think THIS message board is full of Aspies? It does take one to know one! Yes, actually. Sometimes I will notice traits among a person and I can immediately tell if they have Aspergers, or at the very least, a mental disorder, which is odd, since people with Aspergers usually don’t pay attention to detail or facial expression. Other people noticing that I have Aspergers? It has been the case before. However, I have had people from my age and older talk to me and say they would never have known I had anything wrong with me if i had not told them about my Aspergers (I tell people I do to try and prevent any bad triggers for me, and make sure I don’t go into aspie mode and have people thinking i’m odd), and I have to admit, I feel proud of myself when people say that, because it proves to me that I have been really been doing a great job on improving how I talk. I was _that_ bad, once. This is not my first message board, however, I have only been on a few other than this. The only lurking I have done here is watching over my father’s back (as I have stated who that was in [my introduction thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=707058)) And i’m certain there are many aspies here! [Some of the smartest people in history](http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/publish/article_2086.shtml) have Aspergers! > [@Bumbershoot](#): > > First, I think you’re very brave to start this thread. Now, on to my question(s): > > You mentioned in [your “Introduction” thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=707058) that you are home-schooled. Is that because of/related to the Aspberger’s? Did you ever attend public school? Thanks so much. I am glad to answer these questions! Ah, here we are. I knew this question was going to appear here sooner or later! I am homeschooled, and yes, it’s because of my Aspergers. I had gone to public school up until the 6th grade. Bullying was a large problem for me, whether it was verbal to physical abuse. I have been cussed at, shoved up against lockers, rumors spread about me, and all that _lovely_ stuff. The Special ED class in my middle school didn’t help at all. I was diagnosed that year, and taken out of the school to be homeschooled. 6th and 7th grade was the toughest years of my life. I had a big breakdown, and basically everything was a mess. But I have greatly improved since then, and everything’s great now! 😃 > [@YogSosoth](#): > > Why do people with autism have trouble looking others in their eye? Do you have that problem? And what if someone moved into your eye line while you stared straight ahead? Could you look them in the eyes then? Aspergers is different for everybody. Some may have some traits, while others may not. Looking people in the eyes is one of those traits that I don’t have. I can look people square in the eye without a problem. Same if someone moved into my field of vision. If I didn’t know the person and they were staring straight at me, I would look somewhere else. Most people do that anyways! It’s not my Aspergers doing that if I ever do. > [@Tethered\_Kite](#): > > What would you like to do after you graduate? I don’t plan on going to college, but when I graduate high school, i’m going to keep working on my Japanese. For all who didn’t know, I am currently learning Japanese as a second language. Once I know it very well, it is my goal to live in Japan for a few years, and teach advanced English to Japanese students. Of course, you must learn it, but i’m talking about learning English enough to have it be a true second language, just like what i’m trying to do with Japanese now. Languages of all types have fascinated me, and even if it’s not Japanese, I can (on most occasions) identify someone speaking a language either around me, or in a video somewhere on the internet. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/25 "2013-11-07T22:44:34Z")
1. Do you go to anime conventions? 2. If yes, how do you handle the crowds? ---
**Author:** ![Ranger\_Jeff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranger_jeff/32/2065_2.png) [@Ranger\_Jeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranger_Jeff)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/26 "2013-11-07T22:55:31Z")
How can purple be your favorite color? It should be blue. ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2013, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/27 "2013-11-07T23:45:03Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > 1. Do you go to anime conventions? > 2. If yes, how do you handle the crowds? Yes, i’ve only been to 2 though, and they were very small (sadly). However, i’m planning to go to one in January! I cosplay too. 😉 Ugh. Amazing merch! Why are you so goddamn expensive?! Loud noises and flashing lights (at the same time) are triggers for me, but that doesn’t mean medication can’t take care of it! Like stated, I have medicine to help my anxiety, and I have been to very loud concerts and other fun hotspots! 🆒 > [@Ranger\_Jeff](#): > > How can purple be your favorite color? It should be blue. Blue is _sooooooooooooo_ overrated. Anyone I ask that don’t answer “all colors” say red, green, or blue. But, if it’s any consolation, the specific shade I like is blue-purple. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![ThreadPirateRoberts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a9a28c/32.png) [@ThreadPirateRoberts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThreadPirateRoberts)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/28 "2013-11-08T01:26:41Z")
My fiance’e is an aspie and I was curious, do you struggle with making phone calls or sending emails? He can’t hardly even bring himself to check facebook. Do you have any of these symptoms? ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/29 "2013-11-08T01:59:42Z")
> [@ThreadPirateRoberts](#): > > My fiance’e is an aspie and I was curious, do you struggle with making phone calls or sending emails? He can’t hardly even bring himself to check facebook. Do you have any of these symptoms? Answering messages on a website or sending emails is a problem I don’t have, but I _do_ have troubles with phone calls. I never talk on the phone for too long, I get embarrassed because of my stuttering and sometimes, my brain can’t seem to push words out of my own mouth. I also get distracted easily, so I would be silent for a while, and possibly miss a whole piece of information someone was telling me. Phone calls are tedious. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/30 "2013-11-08T02:11:59Z")
You mentioned about having a loud voice (and stuttering). I once had an aspie in a math course. He talked in disjointed words. HE. TALKED. LIKE. THIS. (No, he didn’t stutter at least not so as I noticed.) It was maximally unpleasant to deal with him and any request he made was usually assented to in order to avoid further conversation with him. He aced all the exams, however and easily earned an A. A number of years later I met his mother. She just started talking to me in a supermarket one day and it turned out she was his mother. She told me had gotten a job writing computer programs and thanked God for that since she couldn’t imagine his getting any other kind of job. Does any of this story resonate with you. A second question. If you have trouble communicating, as you describe, how effective an ESL teacher can you be? Do you see that as a problem? And what is the last character of your UID? ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/31 "2013-11-08T02:23:08Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > You mentioned about having a loud voice (and stuttering). I once had an aspie in a math course. He talked in disjointed words. HE. TALKED. LIKE. THIS. (No, he didn’t stutter at least not so as I noticed.) It was maximally unpleasant to deal with him and any request he made was usually assented to in order to avoid further conversation with him. He aced all the exams, however and easily earned an A. A number of years later I met his mother. She just started talking to me in a supermarket one day and it turned out she was his mother. She told me had gotten a job writing computer programs and thanked God for that since she couldn’t imagine his getting any other kind of job. Does any of this story resonate with you. > > A second question. If you have trouble communicating, as you describe, how effective an ESL teacher can you be? Do you see that as a problem? > > And what is the last character of your UID? My voice isn’t as loud as this man seemed to be, I just have an unusually loud voice, and my laugh is too, admittedly. It just seems over the top at times. Any person with autism of any kind can have a louder voice, and talk like how you describe. I know for a fact that my communication skills can still be worked and improved on. Hopefully, I will get it to the point where my stuttering is at a minimum. I have no trouble with talking like this and trying to teach, it’s not to any point where I can’t be understood. My last character of my UID is pronounced “chi”. It is the japanese kanji for ‘blood’. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/32 "2013-11-08T02:37:40Z")
How long have you been a Pokémon player? ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/33 "2013-11-08T02:54:03Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > How long have you been a Pokémon player? Not long! I was 12 I think when I got my first pokemon game, SoulSilver. And ever since, I have grown to adore the franchise! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/34 "2013-11-08T04:35:33Z")
When did you become self aware that you’re wired differently? And when did you understand you were an Aspie? How many kanji can you write? (I assume you know both hiragana and katakana, correct?) ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/35 "2013-11-08T04:41:49Z")
> [@China\_Guy](#): > > When did you become self aware that you’re wired differently? And when did you understand you were an Aspie? > > How many kanji can you write? (I assume you know both hiragana and katakana, correct?) I never realized until I was diagnosed and my mother explained to me what was going on. My little ‘specialty’ was unrecognizing people’s facial expressions. I would talk and talk and talk, and not pick up any bored or uninterested looks. I’m much, _much_ better now. It’s funny, because in 5th grade, our class helped the Special Ed kids in my elementary, and I actually thought to myself, “Huh, how weird would it be if I were autistic?” Although most of them were low functioning. Hahah, I know how to recognize and write Hiragana. I can recognize and write a few Katakana, and as for Kanji, I have learned none yet, but there are a group of them I can see and recognize. I have only been studying for 2 years, and I have just decided this year to study it well so I can learn it. ---
**Author:** ![Terr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/839c29/32.png) [@Terr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terr)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/36 "2013-11-08T04:52:12Z")
> [@Purin](#): > > My voice isn’t as loud as this man seemed to be, I just have an unusually loud voice, and my laugh is too, admittedly. It just seems over the top at times. Any person with autism of any kind can have a louder voice, and talk like how you describe. Ok, this always interested me - if a person with Asperger’s (or autism, or any other disorder) is aware of his own too-loud voice or some other social faux pas, is it possible to self-regulate, that is, talk quieter on purpose, in order to “fit in”? I know it’s a drag to watch yourself constantly, but if it pays off, it’s worth it? Example: I was brought up in a culture (Russian) where eye contact during a conversation is considered rude. In the US it’s almost the opposite - if you avoid eye contact, that’s suspicious. So often I have to force myself (and that’s after 30+ years outside of Russia) to do the eye contact thing periodically when I talk to people, especially in business conversations. I am asking because I have a 10-yo with ASD (not as high-functioning as Aspies are) and there are some things that he does that I try to explain to him are inappropriate and although I understand that that’s how he is, he should curb them to fit in. The explanations haven’t worked very well - yet. Hopefully it will sink in. ---
**Author:** ![Ranger\_Jeff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranger_jeff/32/2065_2.png) [@Ranger\_Jeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranger_Jeff)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/37 "2013-11-08T12:27:51Z")
> [@Purin](#): > > Blue is _sooooooooooooo_ overrated. Anyone I ask that don’t answer “all colors” say red, green, or blue. But, if it’s any consolation, the specific shade I like is blue-purple. 😛 Well, that’s a relief. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Purin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Purin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/38 "2013-11-08T16:46:33Z")
> [@Terr](#): > > Ok, this always interested me - if a person with Asperger’s (or autism, or any other disorder) is aware of his own too-loud voice or some other social faux pas, is it possible to self-regulate, that is, talk quieter on purpose, in order to “fit in”? I know it’s a drag to watch yourself constantly, but if it pays off, it’s worth it? > > Example: I was brought up in a culture (Russian) where eye contact during a conversation is considered rude. In the US it’s almost the opposite - if you avoid eye contact, that’s suspicious. So often I have to force myself (and that’s after 30+ years outside of Russia) to do the eye contact thing periodically when I talk to people, especially in business conversations. > > I am asking because I have a 10-yo with ASD (not as high-functioning as Aspies are) and there are some things that he does that I try to explain to him are inappropriate and although I understand that that’s how he is, he should curb them to fit in. The explanations haven’t worked very well - yet. Hopefully it will sink in. It depends on the case, and what your child is doing that is so inappropriate, but usually, I don’t notice myself talking loudly, so I won’t quiet down unless someone tells me that i’m getting loud. The more low functioning a person is with autism, the harder it will be to control such things. There are some kids who simply can’t control themselves, and can’t stop because it’s compulsive, and if that’s the case, then you just have to let it be. I wouldn’t advise telling someone to try and ‘fit in’, if they aren’t capable of pulling off the task. But if it’s not tedious or a pain in the ass to do, i’m sure they can try, at least. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/39 "2013-11-08T19:10:47Z")
Heh, the coincidences are piling up: my daughter is also 15, has the same diagnosis, lives on the computer, hates using the phone, loves anime and cosplay, and has only had a relationship with a girl. There are lots of differences too - she identifies as asexual rather than pansexual, but she does use that term a lot. And she’s not homeschooled. Or American. So, phew, you are not her. Do you know any other people with Asperger’s? If so, do you get on well with them? My daughter seems to get on better with people who are, well, a little odd (but in a nice way), but not Asperger’s; the mutual communication differences make interaction difficult. In real life, at least - I think it might be different online. She does have real-life friends her own age. > [@Senegoid](#): > > Are you self-diagnosed (as **JLRogers** asked, several posts above)? If you follow the Aspie message boards (do you?), it seems that a great many posters there are self-diagnosed, and a great many seem desperate to get an official diagnosis. > > Do you think there is any particular value or advantage in having an official diagnosis? > > If so, how do you deal with the fact that _Asperger’s Syndrome doesn’t officially exist any more?_ – The recently-released DSM V officially did away with it. > > What diagnosis now exists for those who were diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome under DSM IV? Whatever value that diagnosis had then, is there a new diagnosis for those same people now, and does it have the same usefulness? > > Are you aware of Aspie message boards like The Aspie Hangout? (You can google that.) The diagnosis doesn’t go away, it’s simply relabelled high-functioning ASD (autistic spectrum disorder). I think the OP’s phrasing makes it pretty clear she was diagnosed by a medical doctor (she was very young and she says “was diagnosed.”) Not everyone with Asperger’s is self-diagnosed and it’s a little odd to assume they are. For my daughter, the main advantage of an official diagnosis is getting extra help at school. It also helps other people understand her a little better, I think. Plus, of course, it helps with self-understanding. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2013, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314/40 "2013-11-08T19:12:54Z")
> [@Purin](#): > > Yes, i’ve only been to 2 though, and they were very small (sadly). However, i’m planning to go to one in January! I cosplay too. 😉 > Ugh. Amazing merch! Why are you so goddamn expensive?! > > Loud noises and flashing lights (at the same time) are triggers for me, but that doesn’t mean medication can’t take care of it! Like stated, I have medicine to help my anxiety, and I have been to very loud concerts and other fun hotspots! :cool You might want to go to [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=658994) and put in your two cents worth. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-aspie-teenage-girl/673314.md?page=3)