What a coincidence! She sounds fun.
I do have friends that have Aspergers! We’re great pals. Sometimes it would get a bit awkward, but it would get resolved and we were back to being our crazy aspie selves! Haha! Other than close friends, I know people with Aspergers.
I have to warn you though, extra help at school may or may not help. Trying to get help at school was a disaster, and my classmates seemed to not give one fuck about my Aspergers. However, it could be the opposite case for someone else!
Already did. All of the anime I had to offer as a suggestion were already talked about! :smack: although I probably should go back anyways. Thanks for the heads up, though!
For my daughter, her diagnosis mandated certain things: extra time in exams, which are to be taken in a separate room, and a full-time teaching assistant. Plus several other things which are sometimes useful, sometimes not.
I’ve had to fight on her behalf to get the teaching assistant to actually help her rather than just being a general class assistant. The assistant’s pay is funded by the education authority due to my daughter’s diagnosis and her “statement of special educational needs” is very clear that he is not to be used as a general assistant. Problems still arise a hell of a lot, but it’s better than having no help.
Having the diagnosis means that she’s also eligible for certain govt benefits providing she actually needs them. For example, all kids get free bus travel in London, so this is not an issue, but when she turns 18 she will probably still be able to get it because there is no way she’d be allowed a driving licence (bear in mind that UK driving licence rules are stricter than in the US).
Do you get any practical benefits from your diagnosis?
The only types of benefits I get is being allowed to sit or go where no one else would be allowed, for example, I went to a concert with my mother. We got to sit down on a floor above the crowd, since there was a balcony of sorts. It’s because of the loudness and claustrophobic tightness that my mother asked. She made a good decision, as we saw people were practically standing shoulder to shoulder, it was packed! No other people other than the light and sound guys were up there. And I ended up having the time of my life, it was great! So, in a way, yes, but as for public things like bus travel or insurance or anything else, i’m not sure about.
You are a lucky person to still have this opinion. Yes, not everyone is self-diagnosed, but there are a lot of people with poor social skills who have latched onto Asperger’s as an excuse when they are usually just lazy manchildren (or whatever the female equivalent is) who would rather sponge off their parents and watch japanese cartoons all day. The fascination with “Japanese culture” (i.e., anime) seems to be closely associated with self-diagnosed AS.
Since you repeatedly use the word yourself I’m going to assume the answer is already no but, do you think the word aspie cold be used derogatorily like spaz or spastic are sometimes used.
Just because it seems to be closely associated with self-diagnosed AS doesn’t mean it’s true. Personally, I would say that the fascination with “Japanese culture” has to do with lazy manchildren (or whatever the female equivalent is) who would rather sponge off their parents and watch japanese cartoons all day. I feel badly for all people diagnosed with Aspergers who use their diagnosis to explain problems and behaviors, but are only accused of using it as an excuse.
Me? Yes, I have Aspergers, yes, I was diagnosed by a doctor, and Japanese is not only an interest of mine, but a passion. It’s not an excuse to mooch off anybody, or sit watching japanese cartoons all day. Some people who are like me, including me, have a life. I don’t sit around watching japanese cartoons all day. My friends who have Aspergers don’t sit around and watch japanese cartoons all day.
Before you accuse someone of just using the term “Aspergers” to be a dickhead, look into it further if you can, some people don’t mind sharing their story. It’s not hard. And if they don’t, leave them alone. What business is it to you that they mooch, if they do? Granted, if said person is a family member of yours, it is your business, but then you should have no trouble learning about why they call themselves an aspie.
Why Aspies may seem to like japanese culture? Well, I know for a fact that some use the computer a lot, like me. If I hadn’t become attached to the internet, there is no chance I would be into Japanese culture as much as I am today. To many, a different culture is new, exciting, and simply fascinating.
[del] Disclaimer: This rant wasn’t focused at anyone in particular, so don’t think that. This is focused at the douchebags who think Aspergers is just an excuse, why are you even reading this, enjoy the thread you handsome bastard[/del]
No, unless someone uses the term “Aspie” as an insult and it becomes popular. Just like most other words that have become insults.
Welcome Purin! I love this kid already. (gives you all the Pocky, due to lack of pie)
I’m a female Aspie myself, diagnosed only this year - I suspected I had it, but it took me a long time just to ask to be tested, because of my advanced age (early 40s) and the feeling it wouldn’t help. I’m so glad you were properly diagnosed and are getting the support you need.
I promised myself to stay out of her thread, but the kid eats pocky like I eat Doritos, so that’s saying a lot.
She was eating some mochi ice cream the other night as we were watching a movie, and they looked so good, so I asked for one. As I bit into its gelatinous, doughy outer albumen I knew then that this was an alien treat reserved for those with seven stomachs.
I did what I could do to choke it down, gaged a few times and apologized for wasting one of those devil balls after my light-headedness wore off.
That is my story on frozen Japanese delights. Thanks to Purin血.
Well, i’m glad you were tested, and I admire your bravery! It’s not easy to ask to be tested for something like Aspergers. It makes some anxiety bubble in my stomach thinking about it, even. Things will be better for you, i’m sure!
It’s true! But my question was how could he*/not/* love ice cream mochi? Preposterous! I guess I was wrong, haha!
Purin血 and Lucky 13, how exactly do they test for Asperger’s anyway? It’s not like they can just take a blood sample and send it to the lab. Do they use a Klingon Mind Probe? Do they interview you just once, or a whole bunch of times? Do they give you a written multiple-choice test like the MMPI or something?
Back in the day, when Asperger’s was a recognized diagnosis, DSM IV has a list of specific symptoms, several of which had to be seen in order to make the Dx. But now that DSM V has eliminated that Dx, does that mean they’ve also eliminated the criteria by which to diagnose it?
So what exactly do they diagnose now, and what are the criteria for making that Dx?
You should stop compromising. Own up to your values! Don’t let yourself be bullied by blue-lovers!
Do not be ashamed, go all the way to deep purple. It’s not as difficult as they want you to believe, and you know deep inside that it’s what you really want.
Nothing, at least not legally. Individual cases on the autism spectrum may be unable to drive but as a whole the condition does not prevent one from obtaining a drivers license.
My kid is in love with those things too, and that soda that comes in a glass bottle with a marble thing at the top that you have to push into the bottle to open it. I forget what it’s called.
I’m not sure. I’m not a doctor. I don’t really see any doctors. All I remember about them diagnosing me, is they asked me a bunch of questions, like an interview. They gave me some words, and asked how I would describe them. I had to complete a list of simple math questions. I don’t really remember much.
…You’re right. I must keep my love for purple out of such foolish arguments!
But blue lovers, don’t say I didn’t do anything for you!! :mad:
Ramune!! I chug more Ramune than Pocky. I keep the bottles, and put them on the back of my bedrest. I think I have 28 or so of them up there!
I can’t speak to how others get tested, personally. I can say that for me, I had a sort of interview and a written test that came in sections, measuring my level of anxiety in social situations, and asking whether or not I disagreed with various statements such as “I have trouble looking people in the eye” and “I always know the right thing to say at social gatherings,” for example. The psychologist did say later that I didn’t seem to have much trouble conversing with him. It’s just that I have trained myself, over the years, to seem less awkward, and to not blurt out whatever’s on my mind, but it’s still a struggle for me sometimes.
Note my last sentence - I wasn’t talking about the US. In the UK, if you have an asperger’s or autism diagnosis, your doctor has to confirm if you’d be safe to drive and they’re not obliged to say you are if you’re but really want to drive.
The same goes for many other “notifiable conditions.” You don’t automatically get a provisional licence (for learning to drive) like people with no notifiable conditions do.
Of course, if you got a diagnosis after you got your full licence, then they just won’t know unless you tell them, and I doubt many people do.
