# Ask the gay guy **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 7, 2006, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728 "2006-08-07T18:08:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728/121 "2006-08-10T22:01:04Z")
[QUOTE=matt\_mcl] The question “does this make me gay” is always sticky. For one thing, it assumes a single incident of sex with a person of the same gender (however defined) means that one is gay, which I think is questionable - if I had sex with a woman, would that make me straight? It’s been put to me that if I had (and presumably enjoyed) sex with a woman, I’d be bisexual - or that “everyone is partly bisexual” - but IMHO that stretches labels out to the point of worthlessness. I seem to recall statistics that said that something like 60% of self-identifying gay men and 90% of self-identifying lesbians had had straight sex at some point. But they refer to themselves as gay men or lesbians - why? presumably because they are interested in people of the same gender to the point that they don’t care to let opposite-gender people know they have a chance. This is part of the reason why best practice is to accept people’s labels for themselves. Presumably they have a reason for identifying as they do; it’s not up to me to inform you as to your sexual orientation. I would therefore argue that if you were to have sex with a trans person at any point on the transition plane, and you felt honest in continuing to identify as straight, that would be your prerogative. [/QUOTE] In general I would agree with you. But he did ask my viewpoint, so I gave it. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728/122 "2006-08-10T22:23:37Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] In general I would agree with you. But he did ask my viewpoint, so I gave it. [/QUOTE] Well, likewise. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728/123 "2006-08-10T23:58:10Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] Yes, it’s a sterotype on your part. Unless of course you’re refering to runners and cyclists, but then that has nothing to do with them being gay. [/QUOTE] Was there a ‘gay’ fashion for tenis shorts a couple of decades ago, or was that just a phase Freddie Mercury went through? ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728/124 "2006-08-11T02:27:30Z")
[QUOTE=Bippy the Beardless] Was there a ‘gay’ fashion for tenis shorts a couple of decades ago, or was that just a phase Freddie Mercury went through? [/QUOTE] I’m not really old enough to recall, but wasn’t there a more general shortish shorts thing in the 70’s ish? ---
**Author:** ![supervenusfreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@supervenusfreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supervenusfreak)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728/125 "2006-08-11T03:16:11Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] I’m not really old enough to recall, but wasn’t there a more general shortish shorts thing in the 70’s ish? [/QUOTE] 70’s and 80’s. Hot pants and Daisy Dukes. That’s about the extent of my fashion knowledge. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-gay-guy/367728.md?page=6)