# Ask the guy with a really small dick **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 23, 2004, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601 "2004-04-23T08:26:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![WILLASS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/54ee81/32.png) [@WILLASS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WILLASS)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 12:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/41 "2004-04-24T12:19:36Z")
> [@Anahita](#): > > Ok, TMI alert. > > So, once a woman has a vaginal delivery, she’s rather, um, to put it directly, stretched out down there. > > If you are or have been with a woman who has had a child, did you find sexual intercourse less pleasurable after she gave birth? Did she notice a difference? > > I’m only asking hypothetically, of course, as my partner is MASSIVE!! > > (Hee, hee, just in case he reads this!) Is this actually true? I haven’t noticed any difference in the tightness of pre-birth and post-birth vaginas; in fact one woman I slept with who had had two children had an exceptionally tight vagina. I think it may have something to do with keeping up you pelvic floor exercises but as IANAG I don’t know exactly. ---
**Author:** ![Loopydude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e56c9b/32.png) [@Loopydude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loopydude)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/42 "2004-04-24T16:54:42Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I dated a guy like this, and it really was that small. I’m ashamed to admit that it was a bit of a turn-off - I mean, not a deal breaker or anything - we still dated and still had sex and that’s not why we broke up - I just sometimes thought it would be nice if there was a bit more there to play with, so to speak. > > However, 4 inches is plenty - particularly if you have other skillz as well. > > Finally, **Loopydude** - 8" can actually be rather uncomfortable for many women, myself included. I guess, despite my height (I’m 5’8") I have a short vagina - trust me - a penis bashing against one’s cervex doesn’t really spell romance. Somewhere between about 4 and 6 inches is perfect for my particular kootchie. > > I bet that’s way more than any of you actually wanted to know about me. Nope! In fact, you just made my freakin’ day! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![BoringDad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ad7895/32.png) [@BoringDad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoringDad)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/43 "2004-04-24T17:27:47Z")
> [@Anahita](#): > > So, once a woman has a vaginal delivery, she’s rather, um, to put it directly, stretched out down there. > [@WILLASS](#): > > Is this actually true? I haven’t noticed any difference in the tightness of pre-birth and post-birth vaginas; in fact one woman I slept with who had had two children had an exceptionally tight vagina. I think it may have something to do with keeping up you pelvic floor exercises but as IANAG I don’t know exactly. I do not believe that most men notice any difference pre or post child bearing. I didn’t. However, I am now wondering who would supply a grant to test this hypothesis, and what you would use as objective measurements? I’d bet it was the first paper presented at a medical conference funded by Vivid Video. ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/44 "2004-04-24T18:08:28Z")
So, you say when it’s flaccid it’s almost non-existent? Is that like an inch, or shorter? I’m a bit above the averages everyone cites when erect, but when it’s flaccid I look like a newborn. Hence, displaying it in it’s flaccid form is out of the question, and forget about it when it’s cold. I heard some girl mention “showers” and “growers” (they rhyme) once, is than a common thing? ---
**Author:** ![helieo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/82dd89/32.png) [@helieo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/helieo)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/45 "2004-04-24T18:32:43Z")
> [@alphaFemale](#): > > ladies (or gentlemen, if you swing that way), i pose a question: if you’re like me, when you meet a guy - any guy - the question of his size creeps into your mind at some point. How is your accuracy in guessing size? I’m not talking a quanitiative assessments here (_i guess he’s 5.75"_), just general guesses. > > I’d say I have a 80-90% accuracy in guessing whether he’s ‘big’ or not. i don’t know how that is, but that’s been my experience so far. Something in the personality and confidence levels i think…? I had one boyfriend that I was shocked by, he was average looking, thin, average height, but boy did he have a massive schlong. Must have been 9" long and about 5" girth. The first time I saw it I was like “_Whoa_”. He was good with it too, although I always thought he probably never had a decent blow job in his life as only the top third of it would fit. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/46 "2004-04-24T20:07:42Z")
> [@friedo](#): > > About one inch long when flaccid, or four when erect. If it’s cold out, the thing nearly disapears amongst scrotal folds. Then how the hell do you hold the steering wheel when driving your car? > [@friedo](#): > > I don’t have a car. I take the subway. Wise decision. ---
**Author:** ![fruitbat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/58f4c7/32.png) [@fruitbat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fruitbat)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/47 "2004-04-24T21:23:55Z")
**Friedo** , I must admit I was hoping someone would be brave. You are to be commended. I am happy to be proven wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Chairman\_Pow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/838e76/32.png) [@Chairman\_Pow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chairman_Pow)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2004, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/48 "2004-04-24T23:43:30Z")
> [@Tir Tinuviel](#): > > He must have really been trying hard to get his point noticed! > 😃 With a point that small he has to…oh, uh… ---
**Author:** ![Melandry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Melandry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melandry)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/49 "2004-04-25T00:19:14Z")
This may be outside your expertise since you seem quite comfortable with your penis size, but do you have any tips for increasing the confidence of a guy with a small penis? My bf (of 2+ years) has a penis that is on the small side (~4 inches erect) and he absolutely WILL NOT let me see it flaccid. I mean, logically, I know how big his penis is, it’s been two years, I wouldn’t dump him because of how big/small it looks flaccid. It’s not that I’m dying to see his non-erect penis, but I wish I could help him gain more confidence about the whole issue. Does anyone have advice? ---
**Author:** ![friedo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8edcca/32.png) [@friedo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/friedo)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/50 "2004-04-25T03:21:15Z")
I don’t think there are any tips or tricks. Most people are ashamed of some feature of their bodies and embarassed to let anyone see them naked. I got over a lot of that by simply becoming more confident about myself and recognizing that it’s mostly irrelevent. There’s no trick for that, it just took some time and introspection. ---
**Author:** ![legion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/838e76/32.png) [@legion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/legion)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/51 "2004-04-25T04:21:25Z")
I’ll see your small dick and raise you my fat gut! ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Serpentine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@Silver\_Serpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Serpentine)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/52 "2004-04-25T10:56:53Z")
I’m well aware of the “showers and growers” thing. And I haven’t met any people in my age range who don’t. So you know. ---
**Author:** ![CairaJade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f04885/32.png) [@CairaJade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairaJade)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/53 "2004-04-25T15:46:56Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally Posted by **alice\_in\_wonderland** > 8" can actually be rather uncomfortable for many women, myself included. I guess, despite my height (I’m 5’8") I have a short vagina - trust me - a penis bashing against one’s cervex doesn’t really spell romance. Somewhere between about 4 and 6 inches is perfect for my particular kootchie. I second this. My first was rather large, 8" or so, and deeper postions were so uncomfortable that they were almost impossible. I’m much happier with my SO’s average endowment, and we can now enjoy many more positions. ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/54 "2004-04-25T16:16:49Z")
4" is considered “really small”? Shit! I no one told me! 😃 You kinda got me curious so I checked…yep, 4" exactly and I ain’t fat. I am Asian though. 4" isn’t too small as to have any trouble in the sex department so I don’t sweat it. My GF gets off just fine and I can “go deep” without fear of slamming into her cervix and pausing good sex 😃 All positions seem to work with 4" as well. Plus my GF is able to take me completely in her mouth which is really nice! ---
**Author:** ![WILLASS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/54ee81/32.png) [@WILLASS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WILLASS)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/55 "2004-04-25T16:33:36Z")
My girlfriend can only get the end in her mouth! But thats because she has a small mouth… ---
**Author:** ![Eleusis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Eleusis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eleusis)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/56 "2004-04-25T22:32:32Z")
> [@WILLASS](#): > > Is this actually true? I haven’t noticed any difference in the tightness of pre-birth and post-birth vaginas; in fact one woman I slept with who had had two children had an exceptionally tight vagina. I think it may have something to do with keeping up you pelvic floor exercises but as IANAG I don’t know exactly. Well, there is the joke about slipping the doc a $50 “for an extra stitch” after your wife’s episiotomy 😛 **friedo** , have you ever tried (or been tempted to try) any of the various “enlargement products” that flood our email? Pumps, weights, pills, stretching excercises, etc Ever been to a nude beach or resort? If not, would penis size be a factor in your decision not to attend? ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2004, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/57 "2004-04-25T22:51:49Z")
> [@WILLASS](#): > > My girlfriend can only get the end in her mouth! > > But thats because she has a small mouth… My large breasted cousin Cindy can fit her whole fist in her mouth. Plus, she can put both feet behind her head. Damn. ---
**Author:** ![MannyL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@MannyL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MannyL)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/58 "2004-04-26T01:09:51Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > My large breasted cousin Cindy can fit her whole fist in her mouth. Plus, she can put both feet behind her head. > > Damn. Bet you wish you were from the south 😃 ---
**Author:** ![friedo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8edcca/32.png) [@friedo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/friedo)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/59 "2004-04-26T01:33:37Z")
> [@Eleusis](#): > > **friedo** , have you ever tried (or been tempted to try) any of the various “enlargement products” that flood our email? Pumps, weights, pills, stretching excercises, etc Never. > [@](#): > > Ever been to a nude beach or resort? If not, would penis size be a factor in your decision not to attend? Aren’t most of those places just full of old shriveled naked men looking for naked women? I’d rather go to a strip joint. ---
**Author:** ![Chairman\_Pow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/838e76/32.png) [@Chairman\_Pow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chairman_Pow)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601/60 "2004-04-26T02:31:07Z")
> [@friedo](#): > > Aren’t most of those places just full of old shriveled naked men looking for naked women? I’d rather go to a strip joint. Why, they got ones with shriveled naked men closer to your house? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-guy-with-a-really-small-dick/241601.md?page=4)