# Ask the "Other Woman"

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-other-woman/526831>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [January 29, 2010, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-other-woman/526831 "2010-01-29T01:05:30Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\
**Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-other-woman/526831/141 "2010-02-03T03:11:27Z")

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We do not look kindly upon willful rules violations, MPB. Again, take your insults to the Pit. Do not voice them in MPSIMS where, it has been noted, insults are not allowed.

**Ellen Cherry  
Mod**

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**Author:** ![MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MPB_in_Salt_Lake)\
**Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-other-woman/526831/142 "2010-02-03T03:12:45Z")

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> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#):
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> We do not look kindly upon willful rules violations, MPB. Again, take your insults to the Pit. Do not voice them in MPSIMS where, it has been noted, insults are not allowed.
> 
> **Ellen Cherry  
> Mod**

???

This I don’t understand—There are no insults in my last post.

ETA—the Deadhead line was in reference to Muffin’s post (#137), which I am sure was in reference to MY tastes in music and having nothing to do with the OP…

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**Author:** ![PotLuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@PotLuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PotLuck)\
**Post date:** [February 5, 2010, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-other-woman/526831/143 "2010-02-05T00:32:04Z")

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> [@miamouse](#):
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> I keep seeing references to “sexual predator” in this thread in regards towards the other woman/man. It irks me greatly. It says to me “the cheating spouse can’t be at fault because he was incapable of making a decision or forced into it”

I can see where you’re coming from, but I don’t agree. “Sexual predator” says to me, “She knew he was married and not only was she okay with it, it was a major factor in pursuing him”. But no matter who chases who, the cheater must take responsibility for cheating.

(Please note that I’m not calling the OP a sexual predator. My opinion is based on watching someone repeatedly “find” herself in relationships with “practically divorced” men too many times to think that it’s simply a coincidence.)

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