# Ask the quiet gal! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 6, 2001, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837 "2001-10-06T22:17:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Anubis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@Anubis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anubis)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2001, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/1 "2001-10-06T22:17:03Z")
I hate to talk. Any questions? ---
**Author:** ![furryman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/furryman/32/99_2.png) [@furryman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furryman)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2001, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/2 "2001-10-06T23:47:50Z")
Do people consantly say “Boy you’re quiet.” to you? They say that to me all the time. ---
**Author:** ![fish\_in\_the\_sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7ba0ec/32.png) [@fish\_in\_the\_sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fish_in_the_sky)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/3 "2001-10-07T00:01:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by furryman \* > \*\*Do people consantly say “Boy you’re quiet.” to you? They say that to me all the time. \*\* (Ugh. me too.) Do people think that you are aloof & concieted? Or that you’re bored & miserable & hate everybody? I get that one, too, with distressing regularity… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Anubis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@Anubis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anubis)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/4 "2001-10-07T00:04:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lunatic13 \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by furryman \* > > \*\*Do people consantly say “Boy you’re quiet.” to you? They say that to me all the time. \*\* > > (Ugh. me too.) > > Do people think that you are aloof & concieted? Or that you’re bored & miserable & hate everybody? I get that one, too, with distressing regularity… ☹ \*\* Yes and Yes. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/5 "2001-10-07T00:38:04Z")
Are you _stealthy_ and quiet or merely quiet when not moving? Can you move like a hushed whisper, noiselessly slinking through the night on little cat’s feet or do you clunk around like a giant killer robot when in motion? In all honestly if someone is _too_ quiet opinion will often go from merely shy to “not that bright” or “nothing to say” to… well “differently abled”. Have you lost any potential desired relationship opportunities because of your reticence? ---
**Author:** ![WiredGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/91b2a8/32.png) [@WiredGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WiredGuy)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/6 "2001-10-07T00:45:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bobevilsquid \* > \*\*I hate to talk. Any questions? \*\* Then why did you start a conversation? Obviously don’t hate to talk that much. ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/7 "2001-10-07T01:16:34Z")
Why don’t you just shut up already?!?! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![quietgirldownthehall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/839c29/32.png) [@quietgirldownthehall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/quietgirldownthehall)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/8 "2001-10-07T04:52:20Z")
I’m quieter than you are. 😉 quietgirl ---
**Author:** ![tobytobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b3f665/32.png) [@tobytobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tobytobe)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/9 "2001-10-07T05:10:41Z")
do you have social anxiety??? ---
**Author:** ![Spydergirl\_87](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@Spydergirl\_87](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spydergirl_87)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/10 "2001-10-07T06:26:21Z")
People always think that I’m aloof or miserable and hate everybody. I get that all the time. It bugs me. Thankfully most of my friends are “talkers”. God, are they talkers. But–get a few drinks in me and I turn into a standup comedian. Go figure. ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 10:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/11 "2001-10-07T10:58:41Z")
Alcohol’s my truth serum. Get me drunk and start a conversation with me about anything, and I’ll say out loud pretty much everything that pops into my mind. Ordinarily, you’d have to resort to tickle-torture to get more than five words out of me. (You’d never guess that based on this or any other of my posts. :p) **tobytobe** , for me, it’s not social anxiety; it’s simply a matter of preferring to keep my thoughts to myself and letting others do the talking while I listen. I teach classes, so I assure you, when I want to, I can be a competent, almost animated speaker. My question: what’s the best comeback/reply you’ve ever given to someone who asked or made remarks about your quietness? ---
**Author:** ![Anubis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@Anubis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anubis)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/12 "2001-10-07T13:07:22Z")
Ummmmm… > [@](#): > > **Are you stealthy and quiet or merely quiet when not moving? Can you move like a hushed whisper,noiselessly slinking through the night on little cat’s feet,** Probably > [@](#): > > \*\* or do you clunk around like a giant killer robot when in motion? \*\*No, but everyone around me does. > [@](#): > > **In all honestly if someone is too quiet opinion will often go from merely shy to “not that bright” or “nothing to say” to… well “differently abled”.** Everyone I know knows that I am smarter than they are(no, I am not self-centered) > [@](#): > > \*\* Have you lost any potential desired relationship opportunities because of your reticence?\*\* No. I think the reason I don’t like to talk is that I just don’t see a point in talking unless absolutley nessecary. > [@](#): > > **do you have social anxiety???** Nope. > [@](#): > > **My question: what’s the best comeback/reply you’ve ever given to someone who asked or made remarks about your quietness?** I haven’t had that much of a problem with that, but I’d have to say: “I’m quiet, so what? At least I haven’t been held back. You have… How many times?” > [@](#): > > **I’m quieter than you are.** How do you know that? I pretty much never talk. > [@](#): > > **Then why did you start a conversation? Obviously don’t hate to talk that much.** This isn’t a conversation, now is it? > [@](#): > > **People always think that I’m aloof or miserable and hate everybody. I get that all the time. It bugs me.** Me too. > [@](#): > > \*\* Thankfully most of my friends are “talkers”. God, are they talkers.\*\* Mine too. > [@](#): > > **But–get a few drinks in me and I turn into a standup comedian. Go figure.** I hate alcohol. > [@](#): > > **Why don’t you just shut up already?!?!** Most people would be amazed if I talked and would want me to go on, so I will. > [@](#): > > **Ordinarily, you’d have to resort to tickle-torture to get more than five words out of me.** Me too. ---
**Author:** ![Neidhart](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Neidhart](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neidhart)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/13 "2001-10-07T15:34:58Z")
With a name like **bobevilsquid,** I thought you were a guy! ---
**Author:** ![HairyPotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/3ab097/32.png) [@HairyPotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HairyPotter)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/14 "2001-10-07T15:40:31Z")
Why did you start this OP? ---
**Author:** ![ozonebaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/eb8c5e/32.png) [@ozonebaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ozonebaby)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/15 "2001-10-07T16:35:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by quietgirldownthehall \* > \*\*I’m quieter than you are. > 😉 > quietgirl \*\* I don’t know about that. I have to almost forcably open her mouth to get her to say anything at all and when she does say something it’s usually “meh.” “In all honestly if someone is too quiet opinion will often go from merely shy to “not that bright” or “nothing to say” to… well “differently abled”.” She’d fit in the “not that bright” catagory, I’m sure.🙂 “Everyone I know knows that I am smarter than they are(no, I am not self-centered)” Yes you are self-centered and you are definently not smarter than “everyone.” 😃 I also want to say I didn’t feel like using the quote button so I didn’t, even though that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic.🆒 ---
**Author:** ![ozonebaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/eb8c5e/32.png) [@ozonebaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ozonebaby)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/16 "2001-10-07T16:36:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Neidhart \* > \*\*With a name like **bobevilsquid,** I thought you were a guy! \*\* I would have thought the same thing.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Anubis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@Anubis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anubis)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/17 "2001-10-07T17:37:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by da’ cook \* > \*\* > She’d fit in the “not that bright” catagory, I’m sure.🙂 > > “Everyone I know knows that I am smarter than they are(no, I am not self-centered)” > > Yes you are self-centered and you are definently not smarter than “everyone.” :D\*\* That’s not nice or true. I meant in my class, save for Robin. ---
**Author:** ![Anubis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@Anubis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anubis)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/18 "2001-10-07T17:39:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by HairyPotter \* > \*\*Why did you start this OP? \*\* I don’t really know. I was bored when I did, that might be it. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/19 "2001-10-07T17:49:50Z")
[Have you seen my post?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=91429) 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Cap\_n\_Crude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Cap\_n\_Crude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap_n_Crude)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837/20 "2001-10-07T18:45:56Z")
Are you _always_ quiet? I mean are you a gasper, a grunter, a moaner, or a shrieker? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-quiet-gal/85837.md?page=2)