# Ask the single-sex high school girl! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 8, 2003, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307 "2003-01-08T15:26:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 6:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/41 "2003-01-09T06:53:31Z")
Is there a webcam anywhere in the vicinity? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![erislover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/71e660/32.png) [@erislover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erislover)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/42 "2003-01-09T07:19:56Z")
Good god people. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/43 "2003-01-09T12:35:00Z")
Uh, this question goes out to the people posting: How old are most of you? I’m 24. (I’m hoping I’m not the oldest person here…) ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Mapp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miss_mapp/32/369_2.png) [@Miss\_Mapp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Mapp)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/44 "2003-01-09T12:49:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by erislover \* > \*\*Good god people. \*\* Tell me about it. It’s like trying to hold a conversation in a room full of howling Tex Avery wolves. My girls’ school info is a bit out of date, but anyway: As I said above, we had a dress code, but no uniforms. Meeting boys. I was a day student and didn’t live on campus, so my social life outside school was probably no different from any other kid growing up in suburban Ohio in the late '70’s. Also, I was a somewhat backwards and geeky girl, so boys weren’t really an issue until after I left Andrews. I didn’t have my first real date until I was 16, with quite literally the boy next door, whom I had known for ages. There were male teachers. My algebra teacher, I remember, was a man–middle-aged and not at all crushable. But the drama teacher’s husband was hunky. 🙂 Overall, I think the education I got at Andrews was better than I got at the public high school I went to afterwards. The classes were smaller, and the teachers were more willing to help out if you were having trouble in a particular subject. The play we did for 9th grade was _The Children’s Hour_. I was Peggy. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Mapp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miss_mapp/32/369_2.png) [@Miss\_Mapp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Mapp)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/45 "2003-01-09T12:51:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Meatros \* > \*\*Uh, this question goes out to the people posting: > > How old are most of you? > > I’m 24. > > (I’m hoping I’m not the oldest person here…) \*\* Not even close. I’m 38. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/46 "2003-01-09T12:55:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Miss Mapp \* > \*\*Not even close. I’m 38. \*\* I have a question: What is the official policy for boys? I mean is it looked down upon by the staff to date boys? ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/47 "2003-01-09T13:01:29Z")
I’m 28, but actually have my libido firmly in… uh… hand. So this is my first post. How well do alumni, if you’ve gotten the chance to find out, do in the real world? Also, if you know, how common are ‘relationships’ between girls there? I’m actually interested from a clinical viewpoint, if the sorts of things that the greeks had going for them were endemic of greek culture or just ‘what happens’ when you have a bunch of hormonal same sex teens around each other all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/48 "2003-01-09T14:48:14Z")
What do you want to be when you grow up? Do you have any sisters in school too? Do you have any brothers at the all-boys school? Have you experienced _Menstrual Syncronicity_ ? ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/49 "2003-01-09T15:02:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mirror Image egamI rorriM \* > \*\*…and in gym we were graded on how well we could shoot baskets, or hit a volleyball, instead of how much we tried. I got a D, because I’m simply awful at sports. \*\* Just curious – how would you have felt if someone had turned in an English paper full of misspellings, poor grammar, and generally terrible composition, or submitted an algebra test with every answer wrong, and gotten an A+ on it because they tried hard? - Rick ---
**Author:** ![Merla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de0a6/32.png) [@Merla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merla)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/50 "2003-01-09T15:31:58Z")
Wow, I totally forgot I had linked to my website- time to take that down, I think I’m a senior at Andrews, which means I’m 17 (ALMOST 18) I don’t have a sister or any relative that goes here. I don’t think we’re all on the same cycle, I think that’s more common with college girls since they are in the same room and the hormones are closer, But I can say that basically everyone knows when every girls “time” is- not to get into this gross subject too much, but when you’re a bunch of girls with each other all the time, you sort of develop a 6th sense about these things. Even the teachers often times know, since we give off subtle and not so sublte clues, heh. Probably about a fourth of the girls here have steady boyfriends. It’s pretty hard to find them, and keep them when you’re generally away from boys. The staff has no problems that I know of about dating boys, but then again I don’t live in the dorm. If you board, your boyfriend is not allowed to pick you up, you must meet him somewhere. He can come to school to visit, but not come in your dorm room. We absolutely do not get graded on ‘effort’. This is a college prep school and sometimes it is HARD. Ok, gym and dance is just effort, but nothing else. Because we are supposed to grow up to be ‘working women’ there are no cooking or sewing classes here (I personally think there should be, everyone should know some of that). I know of about 5 or 6 girls that are lesbians, but not many others. Despite popular relief, we never get so desperate that we start pawing over each other. Nobody I know has ‘turned’ lesbian because there are no boys around. I only care for males, myself, and always will. Please don’t believe those awful porn movies about all-girl schools. We do have a webcam, one for the entranceway and one on the barn, but they are both broken. Too bad! That’s what you people get for being perverted! As for what I want to do when I’m an ‘adult’, I hope to conduct scientific research on manatees. But please don’t assume that all girls are like me, most aren’t. We are not the typical “love furry animals” group of girls. I also hope to do some extensive work with snakes. Merla ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/51 "2003-01-09T16:14:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Merla \* > **We absolutely do not get graded on ‘effort’. This is a college prep school and sometimes it is HARD. Ok, gym and dance is just effort, but nothing else. Because we are supposed to grow up to be ‘working women’ there are no cooking or sewing classes here (I personally think there should be, everyone should know some of that).** Not to belabor this point – but what, in your view, is the basis for distinguishing between gym and dance, and the rest of the subject matter? In other words, is it appropriate to grade dance and gym on the basis of effort, but not algebra and composition? - Rick ---
**Author:** ![Mullinator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@Mullinator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mullinator)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/52 "2003-01-09T17:18:07Z")
**Merla said** > [@](#): > > Please don’t believe those awful porn movies about all-girl schools. Wait, those are fiction? That may explain my dating difficulties. It is also at this point that I realize, no matter how well I post from here on out, no matter that most of my posts on this board are meant to do nothing but get a laugh from some soul reading them, my utter smarminess and perversion regarding an all girls school has probably made me dead to Merla’s eyes from this point on. That being said…mmmmm, lonely experimental females. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/53 "2003-01-09T19:36:17Z")
I have rarely seen a thread take a more disturbing turn. If people want to leer at schoolgirls I’m sure there are other places on the Internet devoted to that sort of thing. I think we’re all aware that many creepy grown men have perverted fantasies about underaged schoolgirls, but you could at least have the decency to keep them to yourself on the SDMB, or if that is just too difficult then limit them to the “What’s your sexual fantasy?” type threads. In response to one of the few serious questions that hasn’t been answered yet: > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by fusoya \* > \*\*Is your school’s faculty completely female as well? One of my ex’s went to an all female college, and I was surprised how most of the adults, even in positions such as the therapists, were male. \*\* In the US, schools are not allowed to discriminate on the basis of sex when it comes to hiring faculty and staff. The term “single-sex” school applies only to the students. ---
**Author:** ![\_etalhea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/779978/32.png) [@\_etalhea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_etalhea)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2003, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/54 "2003-01-09T22:54:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Merla \* > \*\*I also hope to do some extensive work with snakes. > \*\* …Ok, now you’re just deliberately baiting us! ---
**Author:** ![Rockford](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ac8455/32.png) [@Rockford](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rockford)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/55 "2003-01-10T00:10:02Z")
\*\*//\etalhea|) \*\*, maybe you should have read Lamia’s post. ---
**Author:** ![erislover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/71e660/32.png) [@erislover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erislover)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/56 "2003-01-10T00:15:27Z")
No fair, I don’t get to agree with **Lamia** about young people and sexuality! :pouts: ---
**Author:** ![Merla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de0a6/32.png) [@Merla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merla)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/57 "2003-01-10T02:52:05Z")
Maybe you missed it where I answered that question about faculty. The male/female ratio of faculty is about 60/40, I believe, so pretty even nonetheless. Eh, I barely even bat an eye at all the advances and gross things I hear from guys- comes with the territory of all-girls schools. Of course I still take offense, but I don’t get furious. Even some local radio stations call us “Andrews school for lesbians”. I don’t have to tell you how offensive that is- and I am not a lesbian, that’s for sure!! And I’m NOT baiting you- I find all reptiles terribly fascinating. You can’t grade dance and gym on anything BIT effort; it’s not fair to grade on someone’s ability. I don’t want to get into this too much, since I feel that some academics are graded a little bit on ability and it isn’t fair, but I can’t make 2 points at once. Let’s just say that here, most of the time academic subjects are graded on both effort and how much you put into it, and of course mostly on the grades you recieve. You’d be surprised how many guys just leer and make fun of us, and don’t ask us for dates because they assume we’re gay. We get plenty of attention from guys, but not the kind we want!! Merla ---
**Author:** ![\_etalhea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/779978/32.png) [@\_etalhea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_etalhea)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/58 "2003-01-10T03:09:15Z")
I’m sorry. This thread (this board in general) has kind of humorous undercurrent to it. I was just being funny. I didn’t mean to _seriously_ offend anyone, especially the OP. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/59 "2003-01-10T03:40:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shirley Ujest \* > \*\*Have you experienced _Menstrual Syncronicity_ ? \*\* God, I love that album. Sting sings like nobody’s business and Andy Summer? That make swings a mean ax. What??? 😃 😃 😃 Okay, on topic? I lived more or less on campus at Sarah Lawrence College for a year. They imported fellows in for dances. Odd, since SLC is co-ed. Infer what you may from this situation. Me, I had a blast. I was hanging out on g.f.'s floor, surrounded by interesting unspeakably intelligent mostly screwed up 19 year olds. Made some good friends hanging out there, actually… Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2003, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307/60 "2003-01-10T03:56:38Z")
We have a girl’s HS down in Panama where I live. My wife has always advocated the experience for our (non-existant) daughter. She maintains the all-girl school allows the students to have leadership experiences that they would never get in a coed school. Waddya think? would you send your daughter to an all-girl school? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ask-the-single-sex-high-school-girl/147307.md?page=4)