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Thanks, and you’re welcome, Zoggie and Hostile Dialect. It’s fun to be able to share it with people. Only my husband and one of my brothers knows that I’ve had this surgery. I’ll tell people if/when I feel like it. Yeah,** tonedef**, I asked the clinic today to email me my before pics, which they took. They are going to do that Monday. I’ll put those on the blog too. You will definitely see a difference. However, there will, hopefully, be a VERY marked difference in a few months, after the famous “settling.”
That’s basically what I was trying to say, but I was worried about coming off as skeevy.
But since someone has played the hearts card, I’ll come right out and say it: Those are some hot boobies. Congratulations!
I know you can’t see it, but in real life I’m a cute nonthreatening girl, so for me to say how hot new boobs look isn’t as skeevey as it seems. It’s the Sarah Silverman approach to skeeviness.
That’s funny, HD. Thanks.
I didn’t know you were a girl! That’s funny. Uh-oh, now you’re like the skeevy guy in the room, Hostile. OK just kidding, you’re not.
I knew you were a girl, and my image of you is cute and nonthreatening, and I would be circumsized all over again if it meant I could get a chance with Sarah Silverman.
Somebody’s going to have to come dump a bucket of cold water on this thread.
Okay, they do look good and everyone’s being very friendly and supportive, so I’ll just be a bitch…
Your blog makes it sound as if you had trouble reconciling the procedure with your being a feminist. What ultimately made up your mind?
My knee jerk reaction is implants (and most cosmetic surgery) = ‘bad,’ though part of me wonders what I’ll think in 20 years. I also support reconstructive surgery for breast cancer survivors, but why should I if I think there’s something wrong in going under the knife for vanity? The bit about even your husband, your own husband, not ever seeing your ‘real’ breasts makes me sad. I guess part of me thinks ‘They were a burden, now she’s happy, good for her,’ but would you have a problem with them if you didn’t have a fixed idea of the ‘perfect’ breasts?
You thought I was a guy who liked Sex and the City and Tim Gunn’s Guide to Style?! Fair enough.
Awww, I’m sure Sarah is into the non-cut guys. She seems open minded enough.
The wife wants some work done, but I just can’t imagine paying thousands of dollars to see her in pain for … well, for how long does this hurt? Sure I’d probably like the results, but …
If you knew how much it hurt, would you still do it?
A million times yes, I would still do it, and I would probably pay twice what I did for it. I am basically ecstatic, but since the results are not the final ones, I hesitate to sing and dance and stuff, at least in here, because I don’t want people to think I think I look so great. I just am very happy. It hurts WAY less now than it did. The first three days were the absolute worst. I was posting when I was hurting bigtime and wanted to release some of pain out to the universe. When I said “chronicle my suffering” in my post earlier odayI felt a twinge of “OK, now you’re exaggerating” but it sounded good, so I left it there. In reality I feel pretty good.
Catfight, I don’t think you’re being a bitch. I’m in the process of answering your question/s but I keep being too wordy.
Is it a shooting pain or more of an ache? like…I’m trying to wrap my mind around the kind of pain that it is. I do know it’s painful–everything I’ve seen/read says that yes, this is a painful thing. I’ve just had so little experience with any kind of surgery at all at this point.
Notice I said “circumsized all over again”. I’m Jewish, so I’ve already had it done once. 
I just thought it was funny that you brought up my only celebrity crush to describe yourself. 
FTR, I’m normally not a fan of breast enlargement surgery. Just in case anyone tries to come pull my feminist card. But what I’ve seen so far of the OP’s looks great and it’s cool to hear that it’s helping someone feel better. Although I, too, cringed at the part about her husband never having seen her “real” breasts.
Ack! OK I have to respond about the husband part. I was responding to it in my post to Catfight. I may have exaggerated when I said he had NEVER seen them soft. It is true that I usually did my best to make sure they were usually hard when he saw them. First of all, we’ve only been married two months and known each other for seven. (But don’t get nervous, we knew the second day that we wanted to get married. We are as right for each other as I have ever heard about or seen.) So it’s not like this has been years of subterfuge.
However - TMI warning - I remember two times recently (during sex, ironically) where we were pretty hot, temperature-wise (no AC) and my breasts were basically soft, and I was not in a position to make sure they were their perkiest and I realized with happiness that I did not care and better yet, he didn’t either. I thought about this after I read your comments. Also, he just told me that he had seen them soft other times, too, so I guess I wasn’t really all that careful. And he has assured me again and again that he loves them as they are, and I guess he really DID see them as they are. Of course, I think what people cringe is that I didn’t want him to see them in all states…but here is my response to that, if it makes anyone feel better:
I called him in from the other room a couple of days before surgery and I was going to show them to him in their soft (and in my opinion, ugly) state, so I said something like, “Come here, babe, THIS is one of the reasons why I want surgery,” but he just said, “It’s OK, babe, I support you,” meaning that I didn’t need to show him anything or prove to him anything. So I thought, “Cool. No need to burn an image into his brain of what I really don’t like.” So I said, “OK.” But I WAS willing to show them to him exactly as they were and I wasn’t tripping about it.
I just told him what you guys said and he said, “Tell 'em! I’ve seen 'em every way.” And of course he has assured me again and again that he loves them, and me, just as I am/was. As for my “real” breasts: Both hard and soft is "real, isn’t it? So hard is not “fake,” but to me, my “real” breasts were always the hard ones, the ones I identified with, the ones that seemed to belong to me. The soft, weird-looking pointy ones seemed like something that had nothing to DO with me. I would always think, “Where did THOSE come from?” and touch them, even if alone, to make them look “normal,” or rounder and slightly perkier. So to me, my husband was always seeing my “real” breasts. Whew!
I caught that — I was going to say that if somehow Ms. Silverman was a Doper or something and took you up on the offer, it would only be fair if you posted pics of the post-op.
Sorry, I thought you said “real”. Now that you mention it, of course, that doesn’t make sense, but I was trying to quote you.
Glad to hear the situation with your hubby wasn’t what I thought it was, anyway, and that he’s so supportive too.
True, I think I did initially have trouble reconciling the procedure with being a “feminist.” However, I came to have peace with that part of it when I really thought about what being a feminist means to me. If I had to say it in ten words or less, to me it means giving as much respect to women as to men. Therefore, I think everyone should be a feminist. If I had more than ten words, I would say a lot more stuff, which is that I am very grateful that my generation (X, I guess) has the luxury of being feminists without having to divorce ourselves from feminineness. When I was in law school, for instance, one could dress professionally yet still be pretty, still look like a woman, still wear make-up, still be feminine, even slightly sexy, and not risk losing respect or being thought less intelligent. I have heard from many that in the 70’s, this was definitely not the case in a male-dominated profession/learning institution. Of course, by the time I went to law school, law school itself was not male-dominated, though the profession still is. We also have the luxury of admitting that maybe we want to stay home or something. Ack, I’m going on an on and hijacking my own thread. Sooo…I decided that as a woman, if I freaking want beautiful breasts, and I can figure out a way to pay for them, and it’s for me, not someone else, and it’s not to change my self-esteem or my life or anything, why shouldn’t I have them? So what? The other things I had to reconcile are that I think saving is better than spending, this is sort of a vain and shallow thing to do, kids are starving, and shouldn’t I be using this money for a down payment on a house? But I can’t say how I reconciled all those because this post will be too long. But I did. I’m very very happy with my decision. I would do it again. I’m SOOOO glad I did it. I’m delighted. Today is the first day I actually got to see them, touch them, try clothes on with them, etc., so it’s very new for me right now. Plus, I feel better today than I have yet. OK, sorry for such long posts.
It’s BOTH shooting and an ache, if you can believe that. The nipples have had shooting pain (not constant, just certain times – like when I’m getting up, when I lean over too far, if I turn around too far), and the whole breasts have ached. So, imagine that your whole breast is throbbing, you’re wearing something WAY WAY too tight around them and around your stomach, and you have shooting pain in your nipples and then you will be imagining the pain at its very worst. It was not like that always – but the first night it was like that, except for the shooting nipple pain. After the first night, they changed the tight dressing for a somewhat looser one, so maybe the first one was just too tight. And for a steady three days, I was in constant discomfort. Getting up, sitting on the toilet, reaching for anything, getting up from the toilet – it all sucked. From what I’ve read, my pain sounds worse than some. One woman said, “I didn’t notice any real pain – soreness, yeah,” and another one said, “I had guests over the next day, so there was a lot of getting up and down, so that probably was why I was so sore later,” and I’m thinking, GUESTS OVER??? You’ve got to be kidding me. I was sitting there trying not to burst into tears every other minute and just trying to figure out how to exist without causing myself more pain, and you’re having GUESTS OVER?" So mileage obviously varies.
Bobotheoptimist, as for timing, I don’t think the actual pain lasts that long – at the current moment I’m not in any, just a mild soreness, and it’s only four days later. However, if I bump my breasts on something, or when I get up from a lying-down position, it still hurts/is sore. And I think the throbbing ache can kind of come and go still in the breasts.
I’ve hardly mentioned the lipo, because it didn’t hurt nearly as much as the whole breast thing. Right now it feels like I worked out hard or something – almost a good soreness in my legs. Oh, the other painful thing was lower back pain from lying in bed in the same position – you HAVE to be on your back, no side, or course no stomach – for so long. I could sit up, which I did, and then lie back down – in fact, I constantly changed the controls on the hospital bed looking for a more comfortable position. That plus the tight dressing was just sort of torture. But it was short-lived.
No worries, I think Catfight might have said “real.” Yeah, thanks, could not ask more from the husband.
I thought you were just really metro!