Please re-readbobkitty’s post - kids just don’t get “tagged” with AS. And all restless children aren’t “tagged” with ADHD.
If you’re sick, you go to the doctor, the best one you can find and afford, and pay what it costs to either get better or get advice on what to do now. Why is it different if its a psychiatrist instead of an internist or surgeon? And, since its apparent you don’t know any AS kids, since you asked the question, why would you assume we’re heading down that “path”, which is an erroneous assumption on your part?
I’ll tell you what happened with my son:
At age 3 I started taking him to pediatricians, telling them there was something wrong, I didn’t know what, but I knew there was. I kept doing that until I found one that didn’t pooh-pooh me as a paranoid, first time mom. He sent me to a child psych, who said yes, I was probably right - maybe - but maybe not, and that at his age who knew what it might be, and lets keep an eye on it.
I took him every couple of months, just to have the child psych keep an eye on him. Meanwhile, it was becoming very apparent that there was something different about my child.
At 4 or so, we went to the neuropsych, who did all the brain work - scans, EEGs, specialised tests, etc. Still no hard diagnoses of AS, but this is where we picked up PDD - which, as explained to me at the time, means “there’s something amiss here, but the child is to young to say exactly what it might be.” Incidentally, I’ve seen my son’s EEGs, and the comparison to neurotypical kids, and frankly its very different.
This is when we started the after school classes, teaching him to just be a person in the world around him - eye contact, personal space, how to say hello and ask to play, how to recognise if someone is really your friend or they are making fun of you, all that.
To cut a long post short, he didn’t get the offical AS diagnoses until about 9 years old, even though I knew and his doctors knew that he probably did have it. He’s still got PDD hanging around his charts at 11, along with a (mis)diagnoses due to his “hearing voices”. This turned out to be the TV in the other room - AS kids have trouble tuning out outside noises sometimes - but that turned out to be a problem. I’m very wary now of accepting any new diagnoses, because if its wrong it takes forever for it to go away in a paperwork sense. If I have any complaing about psychiatrists, this is it.
I’m not sure how you equate this, and other experiences like it, to “tagging” a “socially awkward” child with AS. Its anecdotal of course, but so are the stories of “zombie” children drugged by Ritalin (a stimulant that has the opposite effect in kids who are’t ADHD), and yet those are accepted wholesale.
Cheers,
G