# Assholes don't belong there! They belong here! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 5, 2000, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214 "2000-08-05T05:40:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Feynn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecb155/32.png) [@Feynn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feynn)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/41 "2000-08-06T17:46:07Z")
This entire thread is classic Pit material don’t you think? ---
**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/42 "2000-08-06T18:07:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FreakFreely \* > \*\ ***Duckgoo, achoo, and Feigned-** It’s good to know you’ll all be there to kiss her ass anytime she needs you. Or perhaps you’re just looking to get laid? Hey wait, there’s another gullible bitch over in GQ who wants an ego boost! **D.A.F.** to the rescue! \*\* Ooh, that’s ME, ME, do me next–oh, wait, I’m on the team…Hey, **aha,** gimme a boost, **Freak** says I’m next… (and I was looking to get laid, actually, but I’d have to check with the Better Half first–I don’t know how he feels about threesomes. Amazing how little you can know about a person after 26 years…) ---
**Author:** ![aha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eada6e/32.png) [@aha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aha)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/43 "2000-08-06T18:36:59Z")
Ok Duck here is your boost. You are soooo coool. 🙂 > [@](#): > > Duckgoo, achoo, and Feigned- It’s good to know you’ll all be there to kiss her ass anytime she needs you. Or perhaps you’re just looking to get laid? Yep, well I feel confident that if I didn’t have a wife and two kids, ultress would be happy to lay me. Until then we have to be content just being pals. As far as kissing her ass? Hell mark the spot! ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/44 "2000-08-06T19:11:42Z")
**CnoteChris** - I’m going to try to explain this _one last time._ If you don’t get it this time, I’m giving up on you. When I named her, it was _as an instance._ No more, no less. And when I continued to talk about her it was because I was defending what I’d said. And when I read what she said in that thread, I thought it was out-of-line. If I was wrong, well, I was wrong. It’s not the first time that’s happened. > [@](#): > > So your whole point of this thread is trash talking in MPSIMS? Get a Fucking clue. People do it all over these boards. And in my opinion, they shouldn’t. But I’m not going to pretend that my word is law. And if you disagree with me, fine. Just say so. But don’t try to defend it by saying “lots of people do it”. That’s not a justification. Hell, lots of people smoke crack, does that mean they should? I **know** lots of people do it. I wouldn’t have started a thread about it if they didn’t. > [@](#): > > Your one arrogant Fuck if you can join the same time I did and somehow now decide you now know what’s best for this board and how they should be used. Am I arrogant? Probably. But I don’t need to be here for a long time to know how things work, it’s the same as anywhere else: You sleep in A. You eat in B. You shit in C. (credit given where credit’s due, this is Lenny Bruce’s little tidbit of wisdom) The problem is when someone comes along and shits in B. I mean, this is pretty obvious, isn’t it? You don’t shit on the dining room table, and you don’t eat off the toilet. We need a special place to shit, because if we don’t have one, then we’ll start shitting anywhere. That’s why they came up with toilets. And I’m pretty sure that’s also why they came up with The Pit. As it says in the main page of SDMB “The BBQ Pit: If you gotta flame, do it here.” Perhaps I’m misinterpreting this. > [@](#): > > People were here long before you showed up. Their understanding of the board is far more meaningful to me and others than your tenuous understanding and personal belief. Ah, so the newer someone is, the more full of shit they are? So, does that apply to you as well? I guess you’ve just put yourself in the same boat as me. No wonder it’s sinking. > [@](#): > > Since your so Hell bent on creating a fight hear I wasn’t, and I’m still not. The only reason it became one is because **she** flamed **me**. Not the other way around. > [@](#): > > and your fondness for line by line criticism (it must make the issue easier for you to understand ::snort::snicker:: ) Ah, so when **Coldfire** does it, and when you do it, and when **aha** does it, it’s fine. When I do it, it’s because I’m simple minded. Thanks for clearing that up for me. Now if only you could clear up my acne too. > [@](#): > > While not directed at me, I have never been more offended by a post on this board. Great! Now you know how I felt when I read her comment to Anniz. So, by the same reasoning, were you offended when **ultress** flamed **me**? No? I wonder why. Perhaps because you’re biased? More after this commercial break. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/45 "2000-08-06T19:37:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Content: 3 (nothing really worth reading) Well, as you said “If you don’t like it, don’t read it.” > [@](#): > > Originality: 0 Well then, your flame must have been in the negatives, because “butthead” ain’t exactly original, nor is calling someone a “festering boil”, or saying that “people don’t like you”. > [@](#): > > (I’ve been called a bitch by better than him) If people keep calling you a bitch, how many times is it going to take before you get the hint? If one person calls you a bitch, well, that’s their opinion. When it starts to get into the triple digits, one begins to think that maybe you **are** a bitch. > [@](#): > > References: 0 (made up I’m sure, any poster that has any merit here would have the guts to email me if they had a problem with me) Well, she named herself now (yes, Falcon was the woman I was talking about), does that raise my score? Now if only he, and the other woman who just agreed with me this morning would make themselves known… Actually, **she** probably won’t step up, she doesn’t like confrontation. And I think naming her would be an invasion of privacy. But I’m sure **he’ll** make himself known, I don’t think he’s adverse to confrontation. In fact, I bet he would’ve replied earlier if he could have. But I guess we’ll soon find out. > [@](#): > > He’ll get himself banned quick enough on his own. They’ve had plenty of time to ban me. Why haven’t they done so? Perhaps because the mods don’t feel the same way as you do. > [@](#): > > I think it’s time to send the little boy to conventry. Oh no! You mean I won’t have to see you in my threada any more? I’m hurt, truly, I am.:rolleyes: Once again, more after this. ---
**Author:** ![Byzantine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/dfb087/32.png) [@Byzantine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Byzantine)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/46 "2000-08-06T20:02:02Z")
Since my name seems to be coming up let me clear a few things up: I do not have a problem with ultress. I do not have a problem with Freak. There are only three posters at the moment that I hate beyond reason. Apparently, there was some kind of a joke going on over there in MPSIMS and I was not privy to it. But even it there wasn’t a joke, I still don’t think ultress’ post was overly nasty or harsh. In fact, before I posted my own comment there, her’s didn’t even so much as blip my “asshole” radar. My own comment in there could be considered rude or mean but I meant it as a joke. All I can tell you Freak is that there are a lot of “inside” jokes between two or more posters. For three days I went around the board posting one of my own about Satan’s 3000 posts. A lot of posters called me stupid since, at the time, he had almost 4000. I let that slide because they didn’t know the joke. If someone started up a Pit thread about how stupid I was over that I would probably just gently inform them about the joke. Or, maybe I would have verbally ripped their head off and then metaphorically shit down the stump. I guess it would depend on the level of attack. In your OP you made it sound like you had quite a few examples. The only one posted so far (that I had to link for you) was ultress’. I guess all you can do is either provide the links or back off. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/47 "2000-08-06T20:10:29Z")
> [@](#): > > Look I’ve read the “offending post” that ultress is supposed to have been so rude in. She was obviously kidding. Wasn’t obvious to me, wasn’t obvious to others, but that must be **our** faults for not getting it, not hers for failing to make her intentions clear.:rolleyes: Look, If she had just used a winking smile at the end of her jab, it **would** have been obvious. And this thread wouldn’t have been hijacked. And I wish she had, because I’m starting to regret that I ever named her as an instance of this happening. > [@](#): > > If the poster would have put in a disclaimer ie sorry but english is my second or third language, then ultress would never had said anything at all. I don’t think **ultress** should have said what she said either way. But I guess our opinions differ on that. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > Guess what, flaming is fun! > > Really? You don’t seem to like it all that much when it’s aimed at you. Point made. Point taken. You’re right on that count. I apologize, again. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > And it’s not the first time she’s said something like that, and I’m not the only person who’s noticed it. > > …If so, give us references. Any person anywhere has the right to face their accuser. Yes, and people also have a right to privacy. > [@](#): > > I can’t speak for ultress, I can only defend her has a truly nice and intelligent poster. But if I where her, I would tell you to take your tips and roll them in a cylindrical fashion, sit on them and rotate 365 degrees. Heehee! I have to admit, that one had me laughing. Well said. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > And if you didn’t mean it as an insult, I’m sorry > > Those kinds of statements are admired here on the SDMB. Good place to stop typing. Too bad you didn’t. Yes, and **she** could have stopped at saying “It was a joke. I didn’t mean it as an insult.” And I would have just apologized. Instead, she said that in the midst of an **extremely** insulting flame. Am I wrong for responding in kind? Granted, two wrongs don’t make a right. But how can I be wrong for doing something, and she be right for doing the same thing? That said, I really am sorry. I had no idea that criticizing **ultress** would cause such a furor. Had I known this, I probably would have named some other instance of this kind of thing happening. But she was just the one that came to mind, because her insult (at least, that’s the way **I** saw it) was the latest one I’d seen in MPSIMS. Now, with **that** said, I’m also sorry about the cheap shot I took at you, **Duck** and **Feynn**. That was uncalled for. I apologize yet again. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/48 "2000-08-06T20:50:59Z")
I agree. I didn’t feel one way or the other about her until she flamed me. However, now I **do** feel rather strongly about her. And I don’t think that should be surprising. That said, I did provide another link way back there, it was this one: [“Fat Guy, Ugly Face”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=32905). And that thread was a joke (an extremely mean joke that I think belonged in the Pit, but a joke nonetheless) in response to this one: [Plain girl, great chest](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=32785). A thread which I don’t think even warranted the responding thread. And then there was that rash of **Jebus** threads, which got no end of flame responses. Responses which I think should have been posted in the Pit. And I’m sorry, but I’m not gonna track down every instance I’ve seen of this kind of thing happening, there’s just too many to link. One instance was when **Falcon** responded in a rather mean way to my chat thread, here: [Chat](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=32336). But she apologized, and I respect her because she did. **Ultress** could’ve done the same, and explained where she was coming from, and I probably would’ve admitted that I was over the line. > [@](#): > > My own comment in there could be considered rude or mean but I meant it as a joke. Actually, I didn’t think it was rude **or** mean. But, while I could have been wrong about **Ultress’** comment to that thread, at least three other people thought it was mean as well. And probably many others who didn’t want a confrontation. Now, she didn’t mean it as an insult, that’s been established. But in that case, I think she should have made it more clear that it wasn’t an insult, with a winking smile or an “I’m just kidding”, or follow your example by saying :TWEAK!:, or something along those lines. > [@](#): > > \*\*(1)\*\*If someone started up a Pit thread about how stupid I was over that I would probably just gently inform them about the joke. \*\*(2)\*\*Or, maybe I would have verbally ripped their head off and then metaphorically shit down the stump. \*\*(3)\*\*I guess it would depend on the level of attack. 1. This thread, as I’ve said before, wasn’t aimed at her. 2. That’s what she tried to do. 3. What I said wasn’t intended to be an attack, and I’m sorry if it was perceived as such. It was intended to be a minor criticism. I’ve said mean things in MPSIMS before, but I’ve changed my ways. Now I restrict all that stuff to the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/49 "2000-08-06T21:53:22Z")
> [@](#): > > Ah, so the newer someone is, the more full of shit they are? So, does that apply to you as well? I guess you’ve just put yourself in the same boat as me. No wonder it’s sinking. It’s sinking because you decided to bring three times as much shit along as I did. Look at your count. Look at mine, once you stop looking at my ass. > [@](#): > > Ah, so when Coldfire does it (line by line argumentation), and when you do it, and when ahadoes it, it’s fine. When I do it, it’s because I’m simple minded. Thanks for clearing that up for me. Now if only you could clear up my acne too. I did it so you could concentrate on my points better. You do seem to have undying admiration for those posters. Too bad you can’t emulate anything else they do too. Like a memory, for one. I believe you called me simpleminded for not understanding your initial post. A post and follow-ups that led everyone to _single_ thread. > [@](#): > > And I’m sorry, but I’m not gonna track down every instance I’ve seen of this kind of thing happening, there’s just too many to link. If there are so many you should have no problem picking out a couple from the massive field. Nice cop-out. ---
**Author:** ![Sneevil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@Sneevil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sneevil)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/50 "2000-08-06T22:19:55Z")
…it’s your turn in the barrel!! **BBBWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH** :wally ---
**Author:** ![aha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eada6e/32.png) [@aha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aha)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2000, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/51 "2000-08-06T23:11:30Z")
> [@](#): > > Now, with that said, I’m also sorry about the cheap shot I took at you, Duck and Feynn. That was uncalled for. I apologize yet again. FWIW with that statement, you just took a big step in earning my respect on this board. Whether you even need it or not is something only you will decide. Sure, there are always two sides to any situation and I realize that you are trying to defend yours but next time you post in the pit with a particular poster in mind ( especially a veteran poster) use the old carpenter’s rule. _Measure twice, cut once._ Ultress is one of those verteran posters and you should have known you were going to draw plenty of opposition when you named her. So the way I look at it freak is this way. This thread was a learning thread for you. You are now a wiser poster for it. If so compelled, I will participate in your future theads with no ill will towards you and I hope that you and Ultress will gain mutual respect for each other in the future. Meanwhile I would let this thread die a natural death. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/52 "2000-08-07T01:13:43Z")
I am not taking sides in the original argument here, mainly because I have not seen the thread in question, and I refuse to take sides on an issue I wasn’t around for. However, I just had to point out these two quotes from FreakFreely. > [@](#): > > But don’t try to defend it by saying “lots of people do it”. > [@](#): > > If people keep calling you a bitch, how many times is it going to take before you get the hint? If one person calls you a bitch, well, that’s their opinion. When it starts to get into the triple digits, one begins to think that maybe you are a bitch. You’re trying to defend calling ultress a bitch by claiming that “lots of people do it,” Freak, but when someone does the same thing against you, THEY’RE wrong. Maybe you should start taking your own advice, and stop thinking that you are the only person around with all the answers. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/53 "2000-08-07T01:40:51Z")
> [@](#): > > Look at your count. WTF does my post count have to do with **anything?** It seems like this is always the last ditch effort of someone who can’t think of any real point to make. They either attack a person’s post count for being too low, or they attack it for being too high. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t, eh? Well I suppose I should take that as a compliment. Apparently my argument is so iron-clad that it’s the best you can come up with. You truly are lame. > [@](#): > > I did it (line by line arguments) so you could concentrate on my points better. And that’s exactly the reason I did it. > [@](#): > > You do seem to have undying admiration for those posters. For Coldfire, yes. I don’t have the same admiration for aha, simply because I haven’t seen as much of what he’s said. But so far I’ve only seen reasons to like him, so he’s definitely moving up in my book. And my respect for someone is never undying, they can always fuck up so bad that I lose all respect for them. For instance, at one point in time, I had respect for you. > [@](#): > > Too bad you can’t emulate anything else they do too. Like a memory, for one. I believe you called me simpleminded for not understanding your initial post. A post and follow-ups that led everyone to single thread. 1. Apparently your memory ain’t so great either, because I never called you simple-minded. I called you **narrow** -minded, because you refuse to look at the issue from any other perspective than your own. 2. The reason I reposted that link was because she apparently didn’t see it the first time. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > And I’m sorry, but I’m not gonna track down every instance I’ve seen of this kind of thing happening, there’s just too many to link. > > If there are so many you should have no problem picking out a couple from the massive field. Nice cop-out. Yeah, you’re right. It was a cop-out. I didn’t want to name any more names because I’m getting **really** sick of this whole fucking thing. And if I named anyone else, I would soon be hearing from them. In fact, I didn’t want to name names in the first place. I thought the OP was broad enough and that enough people had seen this sort of thing happening that I wouldn’t **have** to. I thought I could make my point without having to back it up with links, therefore making my point and not offending anyone in particular. But now I suppose you’re gonna call that a cop-out too. Well, fuck you. I don’t care anymore. I’ve wasted enough time on you. You are completely hopeless, arguing with you is like arguing with a brick wall. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/54 "2000-08-07T02:13:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Yes, and people also have a right to privacy. Yeah, and people shouldn’t open their gossipy mouths unless they are willing to stand accountable for their words. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/55 "2000-08-07T02:56:24Z")
Aha- > [@](#): > > but next time you post in the pit with a particular poster in mind That’s just it, I really didn’t have her in mind when I started this thread. The OP was intended to be generalized. It was intended to be a rant from the soap box. Hell, it was intended to be funny. I wish I had refused to give any links. Of course, if I had, assholes like Cnote would’ve criticized me for it. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t. I guess I’m just plain damned. ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/56 "2000-08-07T03:00:53Z")
You know Freak. I find it interesting that of all the people who posted to your thread, your focussing much of your time and effort on me. This isn’t because of my Napster, Stealing MP3, Bill H, debacle is it? Find the apparent weak link in the chain and go after it. Flame me to get some last fleeting ounce of credibility in a loser thread? You are so transparent it’s funny. You ride on the bootstraps of other’s and think their your best buds. You’ve referred to any number of ‘respected’ people who feel just like you do. I find it intriguing that none of your ‘admired and respected’ posters so hasn’t jumped in here in to save your ass. Veiled hyperbole to me. But I digress. On to your latest points. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > From Cnote: > > Look at your count. > > From Freak: > WTF does my post count have to do with anything? It seems like this is always the last ditch effort of someone who can’t think of any real point to make. They either attack a person’s post count for being too low, or they attack it for being too high. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t, eh? Well I suppose I should take that as a compliment. Apparently my argument is so iron-clad that it’s the best you can come up with. You truly are lame. Lame, huh. Apparently your refering what I you said to you on page one. You might want to include the _entire_ quote your refering to. > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > From Freak: > > Ah, so the newer someone is, the more full of shit they are? So, does that apply to you as well? I guess you’ve just put yourself in the same boat as me. No wonder it’s sinking. > > From Cnote: > It’s sinking because you decided to bring three times as much shit along as I did. Look at your count. Look at mine, once you stop looking at my ass. If it isn’t obvious to you by now, I was referring to the sinking boat analogy you mentioned. You have three times the amount, compared to me, of baggage on the sinking boat. Get it? > [@](#): > > From Freak: > Apparently your memory ain’t so great either, because I never called you simple-minded. I called you narrow-minded, because you refuse to look at the issue from any other perspective than your own. I looked at from the perspective that _you_ Fucking gave me! You give us one thread to look at initially. You bitch at her for being mean. You then switch the argument to say ‘well, I never intended to go after her’. Interesting post right after you accused her of being mean and flaming an ‘innocent’ poster. Then the scope widdens, ‘It’s more than just her, it’s everyone in MPSIMS’. You then provide one meaningless lousy link. How the fuck else am I suppose to look at it Freak? If it’s narrow minded it’s because it reflects your narrow thread. Finally, and this is my favorite, you decide to cop-out and not piss anyone else off and give us the line ‘there’s just too many to post here to list’. Give me a break. Like I said, transparent. ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/57 "2000-08-07T03:08:04Z")
You Fucking dolt. _I_ never asked you for the fucking link to begin with. Byzantine did. I came onboard only after she requested and posted the link that _you_ referred her to. I never would have responded to this stupid ass thread had it not been for your referral to that post. I had read it earlier in the evening and immediately got that it was meant in jest. That’s why I responded freak. ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/58 "2000-08-07T03:11:37Z")
> [@](#): > > You’re trying to defend calling ultress a bitch by claiming that “lots of people do it,” Freak, but when someone does the same thing against you, THEY’RE wrong. I wasn’t justifying calling her a bitch. I didn’t need any justification, my opinion is my own. I was pissed. I wasn’t trying to make a point, I was trying to offend her as much or more than she offended me. > [@](#): > > Maybe you should start taking your own advice, and stop thinking that you are the only person around with all the answers. How can you say that when I’ve consistently apologized? If she had just came in and told me her side of it without flaming me I probably would have apologized to her as well. But instead she set out to piss me off. And she succeeded. As it stands now, I’m **never** going to apologize to her, unless she apologizes to me. Which she’s made quite clear that she **isn’t** going to do. Why is it okay for her to flame me, but not the other way around? Besides, I’ve tried to meet people half way. I’ve tried to see it from other people’s perspectives. I’ve even admitted _several times_ that I might be wrong. What more do you want from me? ---
**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/59 "2000-08-07T03:17:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Diane \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > Yes, and people also have a right to privacy. > > Yeah, and people shouldn’t open their gossipy mouths unless they are willing to stand accountable for their words. \*\* Absolutely true. But it’s not my place to _make_ them stand accountable. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2000, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214/60 "2000-08-07T03:25:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FreakFreely \* > **Actually, she probably won’t step up, she doesn’t like confrontation.** It’s true, I don’t like confrontation. However, I do agree that the comment made by Ultress in the dream guy thread was uncalled for. I thought so the minute I read it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/assholes-dont-belong-there-they-belong-here/28214.md?page=4)