# At what age did you stop sucking as a person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 18, 2013, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543 "2013-10-18T01:59:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/21 "2013-10-18T03:51:09Z")
> [@Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](#): > > I’ll be better when I’m older. > > Just like Edwin McCain. But its kinda old Now. Besides, I’d never say you broke under torture, threw real heroes under the bus to let them die, and possibly blew both Koch brothers tandem-style for each re election dollar. You might have integrity somewhere and not be a political whore. Call me an optimist, but I think so… ---
**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/22 "2013-10-18T03:52:58Z")
He’s 28??? Uh-oh, too late… ---
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/23 "2013-10-18T04:21:18Z")
> [@Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](#): > > I’m 28. I’m still young enough that I can’t help but act like a jackass. It’s just part of the human brain development, I guess, because at 28 a guy is still supposed to be a wild reckless devil may care jackass, good for hunting and fighting other tribes. No. No, he’s not. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/24 "2013-10-18T04:23:59Z")
Tomorrow ---
**Author:** ![Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f1d935/32.png) [@Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Came_in_like_a_Wrecking_Ball)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/25 "2013-10-18T04:31:00Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > I stopped sucking as a person in 2001. So, I was 30. This just begs a story. What happened in 2001? 3,000 people getting killed on 9/11 woke you up? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/26 "2013-10-18T04:36:29Z")
> [@Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](#): > > This just begs a story. What happened in 2001? 3,000 people getting killed on 9/11 woke you up? Actually, yes. I said, “Wait, they just got killed in the name of God? All those people? And God did nothing?” The Problem of Evil, which I had avoided thinking about my entire life until then ended my tenuous religious belief and destroyed my Just World thinking. I then realized that there were no rewards in the afterlife for people who get screwed over in this one, that I wasn’t going to be judged by God on my religious thoughts but by humanity on my good actions, that every problem in the world is on us to fix, and that life is short and precious and finite. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/27 "2013-10-18T05:46:55Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > I’m sorry to break it to you, but 28 isn’t that young. It’s young enough to get away with some stuff (like wearing clothes meant for teenagers and pigging out at Denny’s at 3:30AM.) But your average 28-year-old typically “knows better”. This is why a 28-year-old jackass is treated the same way as a 35-year-old jackass in the court of law. This ^. And, I will add that I know plenty of people (male and female) much younger than the OP who do not act like jackasses. One that comes to mind is my boyfriend’s 21 year old son, he’s an absolute pleasure to be around. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/28 "2013-10-18T05:55:51Z")
A 28 year old guy?? No way. The OP is a _28 year old guy??_ I was picturing an unpleasant 15 year old girl when I read all his posts! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 9:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/29 "2013-10-18T09:12:01Z")
53 for me. I’m now 56. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/30 "2013-10-18T09:20:20Z")
> [@stoplight](#): > > frontal lobe fully developed around age 34, life made sense all of a sudden Me, too. Just a shame that it was too late to go back and fix everything I’d screwed up. But it was a major “oh, shit!” moment. ---
**Author:** ![Nancarrow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@Nancarrow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nancarrow)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/31 "2013-10-18T09:25:43Z")
> [@Trinopus](#): > > Grin! I’m less of a stinker than I was in the past. Every year, I get a little better. I think that’s true of most people. No one ever actually attains wisdom, or even sanity. We just keep working to improve. This. Like. +1. Word. Seconded. Unsuckitude as a function of time is a logistic curve, not a Heaviside function. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 9:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/32 "2013-10-18T09:36:13Z")
I’d say not until my late-twenties. In my early twenties, I was still an angsty teenager. I didn’t take personal responsibility for many things, and if I was moody about something, I made it clear to other people. By my mid-twenties, I started to learn that other people really don’t care about your shit and you should just suck it up and deal with it yourself, rather than bringing other people down with you. But then I did have another epiphany when I was in my early thirties, which was to stop giving a shit about my work. I was WAY too emotionally invested in my job and cared WAY too much about whether the things we were doing were the right things to do or the wrong things to do. I took a big step back when I changed jobs, took the attitude that I would do what was asked of me, be proactive when I thought things could be done better or differently, but to not get upset if management didn’t listen or care. Since then, I’ve made great progression in my work and have gained increasingly senior roles, and I have much better work-life balance. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/33 "2013-10-18T10:02:04Z")
I am still as much of a jackass as I was in my twenties, I am just more circumspect about it. After about age 30 (when I became a father) I internalized my jack-assedness, so I still think most people are stupid and deserve to be taken advantage of, but I no longer act upon those thought. Much. I’m in my early 50s now. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 11:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/34 "2013-10-18T11:40:58Z")
It was about the time I realized the world didn’t revolve around me and so I stopped asking self-indulgent questions for the sake of attention. So what, like highschool? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/35 "2013-10-18T11:47:16Z")
1. ---
**Author:** ![Llama\_Llogophile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@Llama\_Llogophile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Llama_Llogophile)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/36 "2013-10-18T12:04:46Z")
Around 21 when I made the decision to begin reading and learning again. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb9ed0/32.png) [@Sparky812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky812)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/37 "2013-10-18T12:15:15Z")
I’d say there’s were more than one instance when I smartened up. 14 - I was a problem child in grade 8 but grew out of it. I realized being defiant and pissed-off at everyone wasn’t worth it and made conscious effort to be friendly to everyone I met…ended up becoming extremely popular in high school. 27 - Started working full-time and being responsible. 35 - Got married, bought house, had first son, quit smoking, shut down the drinking, promotion at work, etc… It was also around this time that I had the epiphany that I really wanted to be an active participant in my community. So I began working with Scouts, Little League, Minor Hockey, and our community association. ---
**Author:** ![cwthree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@cwthree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cwthree)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/38 "2013-10-18T16:20:01Z")
Didn’t really stop sucking as a person until I was 37 or 38. That’s when I got my depression under control (better living through chemistry!) AND got into a job I actually enjoyed instead of just enduring AND just kind of finished maturing, mentally. ---
**Author:** ![Turpentine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Turpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turpentine)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/39 "2013-10-18T17:18:25Z")
I acted like a teenager until I was about 26. And I’m very embarrassed by it. At the time I thought I was 100% correct, 100% of the time. Fortunately, what I’ve heard is that it’s a mark of maturity to look back upon your younger self and be embarrassed over it (but not constantly consumed with shame). Also, I’ve always disliked people who are self-proclaimed assholes, seemingly proud of it. As if they’re trying to absolve themselves from all past and future offenses. “I can’t help it, it’s just the way I am…” ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/40 "2013-10-18T17:44:21Z")
Two [Cracked](http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-changing-perspectives-that-show-youve-become-adult/) [column](http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-excuses-that-prevent-us-from-growing-up/)s that may offer [some insight.](http://www.cracked.com/members/John+Cheese/) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543.md?page=3)