# At what age did you stop sucking as a person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 18, 2013, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543 "2013-10-18T01:59:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/41 "2013-10-18T18:05:35Z")
I was born awesome. Seriously though. While I’ve never been perfect, I’m pretty sure I’ve never “sucked as a person”. > [@Came in like a Wrecking Ball](#): > > I’m 28. I’m still young enough that I can’t help but act like a jackass. It’s just part of the human brain development, I guess, because at 28 a guy is still supposed to be a wild reckless devil may care jackass, good for hunting and fighting other tribes. At 28 a guys is supposed to be able to help himself to not act like a jackass. When did we as a society come to the conclusion that it was ok for grown-ass men to continue acting like spoiled, immature, mentally imbalanced teenagers well into their 30s? ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/42 "2013-10-18T18:09:25Z")
I’ve always cared about other people, so I never sucked in that sense. But I was pretty emotionally immature until around the age of 23. Incidentally, that is also the year I got married. Until that point my behavior was really influenced by my erratic emotions, so if I felt bad about my life, for example, I would just stop doing things like going to class and paying my bills. I avoided the things I didn’t want to deal with, and my excuse was that my life had been haaaard so I deserved special consideration. By the time I was 25 the world looked a lot different. I just stopped blaming other people for my problems and finally got my shit together. Now I’m 30 and feel pretty firmly grounded in the world of adult responsibilities. I still ride an emotional rollercoaster at times, but it doesn’t generally dictate my behavior. I kind of like adulthood. Life is a lot more secure and predictable now that I am the master of my own destiny. Things no longer just ‘‘happen’’ to me. I recognize my agency in this world and the power to shape my own life, for good or bad. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/43 "2013-10-18T18:28:37Z")
**Count Blucher** : \*[Edwin\* McCain](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edwin_McCain). Not John McCain. 🙂 EDIT: Oh yeah, the OP. I’m a 42-year-old female, and I feel like I’ve only just recently stopped sucking as much. Like, since I turned 40. ---
**Author:** ![GusNSpot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gusnspot/32/436_2.png) [@GusNSpot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GusNSpot)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/44 "2013-10-18T18:31:45Z")
Depends on who you ask. ---
**Author:** ![deltasigma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e5b9ba/32.png) [@deltasigma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/deltasigma)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/45 "2013-10-18T18:43:15Z")
Haven’t read the thread, but since I think reality is something we inflict on ourselves as much as something we experience, I think that I can be measured by many other parameters besides my coefficient of suckitude. I will grant you that just like certain other coefficients there are times when it may be the only one that actually matters - like say lift coefficient if you’re trying to haul ass from an unmarked airstrip in . . . I can probably just leave it at ‘unmarked airstrip’, right? What I’m trying to say is that I have it on fairly reliable authority that I have always sucked, will always suck and seem to be on a long, slow glide slope that, with luck, terminates on Angry Homeless Guy Blvd. ‘Get the fuck off my sidewalk asshole.’ But things aren’t always what they seem since it’s unusual that I’m aware of my suckitude - even after years of what I guess you could call ‘training.’ The times I think I’ve caught myself, if I bother to do a reality check, I don’t seem to nail it very often. So if you get past the appearance, which is to say past the assumption that it should be taken as a personal affront, the odds are that you, like I so often am, would find the comedic value the dominant element. Although that probably isn’t as true in the single dimensional online world, so that really is something that sucks. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/46 "2013-10-18T18:55:34Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > **Count Blucher** : \*[Edwin\* McCain](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edwin_McCain). Not John McCain. 🙂 First time I read\*\* Count Blucher\*\*'s post, I was all - wtf is he talking about?.. Why would Edwin blow the Kock brothers? Now I get it. Yeah. I’m a retard. ---
**Author:** ![Purd\_Werfect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e47c2d/32.png) [@Purd\_Werfect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Purd_Werfect)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/47 "2013-10-18T22:39:34Z")
I’m sure I’m still a jerk sometimes at 52, so I doubt I will ever completely stop sucking. However, I am much less of an asshole then I used to be. I seemed to finish my true shithead phase in my mid-40s, and now I’m ok. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2013, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/48 "2013-10-18T22:46:11Z")
Banned on the run. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/49 "2013-10-19T01:08:37Z")
Yeah, in the last thread he started I kinda felt sorry for the guy and was trying to help him out. I guess that thread is deleted now. Maybe I’m getting soft in my old age, but this guy sounded like he was on the edge, and I hope banning him doesn’t push him over; he could have used some good advice from people here. Oh, well. ---
**Author:** ![Isaacedwardleibowitz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ecb155/32.png) [@Isaacedwardleibowitz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isaacedwardleibowitz)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/50 "2013-10-19T01:14:52Z")
I was roughly 25 when I generally stopped acting selfish and immature and started acting more like an adult (although I still had, and have, moments of suckiness). Some of the things I said and did before then were so selfish and callous that I just can’t understand why I did them. The reasoning is foreign to me now. It’s like a different person did them. ---
**Author:** ![JM\_Hanes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/6a8cbe/32.png) [@JM\_Hanes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JM_Hanes)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/51 "2013-10-19T01:27:18Z")
> [@Came\_in\_like\_a\_Wrecking\_Ball](#): > > at 28 a guy is still supposed to be a wild reckless devil may care jackass, good for hunting and fighting other tribes. Back in the good old evolutionary days of huntin’ and stealin’ wimen, you’d be a _dead_ jackass by 28. ---
**Author:** ![Mander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Mander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mander)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/52 "2013-10-19T04:06:54Z")
I don’t think I ever sucked as a person but I think I really started growing up and being more responsible in my life in my late teens. I got married when I was 20 and had my first child at 23. I think I had my priorities straight and worked hard to be a good wife, mother, and person. I’m 41 now and still a work in progress but still don’t suck. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/53 "2013-10-19T06:01:56Z")
Probably when I was weaned. ---
**Author:** ![Doggo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/87869e/32.png) [@Doggo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doggo)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/54 "2013-10-19T07:09:52Z")
> [@stoplight](#): > > frontal lobe fully developed around age 34, life made sense all of a sudden I guess my frontal lobe never developed then. I still don’t understand life, the universe or women ( is it even possible for a man to understand women, ever? ). ---
**Author:** ![JBDivmstr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b4bc9f/32.png) [@JBDivmstr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JBDivmstr)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/55 "2013-10-19T08:43:11Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > A 28 year old guy?? No way. The OP is a _28 year old guy??_ I was picturing an unpleasant 15 year old girl when I read all his posts! :eek: What a relief! For a while there, I thought I was the only one with that opinion. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![bizzwire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/958977/32.png) [@bizzwire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bizzwire)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/56 "2013-10-19T15:39:46Z")
According to my ex-wife, never. ---
**Author:** ![svd678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/53a042/32.png) [@svd678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/svd678)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2013, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543/57 "2013-10-19T15:46:34Z")
When I retired at 65. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-age-did-you-stop-sucking-as-a-person/671543.md?page=2)