# At what point are you "cheating" on your SO?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-point-are-you-cheating-on-your-so/25884>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 17, 2000, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-point-are-you-cheating-on-your-so/25884 "2000-07-17T20:35:32Z")\
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**Post date:** [July 26, 2000, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/at-what-point-are-you-cheating-on-your-so/25884/41 "2000-07-26T20:39:20Z")

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> \*Originally posted by kunilou \*  
> \*\*…What do you do with the example of an extremely jealous SO?
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> When I married my first wife, I had several woman friends… Do you think it was within my wife’s rights to insist? Would I have been cheating if I continued contact on the side?  
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**kunilou** , she had the right to insist anything she wanted to. You, however, had the right to say no to her.

Would you have been cheating if you had continued the friendships? In my mind, no, as long as you told her about it, but I’m not so sure she would agree.

I agree with the general trend of things here - if you wouldn’t do it with your SO in the room, then you shouldn’t be doing it when they are not in the room. If you have to wonder whether they would be okay with it, then don’t do it. Cheating is defined within a relationship, not by an individual.

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