I would classify myself as a nonsectarian theist raised in a Judeo-Christian religious culture.
Militant anythings tend to be militant (and often obnoxious) about whatever they happen to be militant about. It goes with the game. In most cases, they have at least a Constitutional, and arguably a natural human, right to be. To go head to head does not make them meeker, only more resolute. It strikes me that Witnessing Fundies and Witnessing Atheists do their convictions a disservice by what amounts to their self-indulgence. (With more than a little self-righteousness sprinkled on top.)
I had a friend who, whenever anyone would utter common colloquialisms like “God knows” or “Omigod” or “Jesus Christ–!”, had to say immediately, “Who??”. Uh-HUH. The attentive and persistent reform of someone else’s language seems to me a sign of militance and “witnessing.”
To make casual and more-or-less meaningless reference to a religious figure in the presence of someone who doesn’t believe in that, or any, religion is not a “diss” along the lines of dropping the N-word in front of an African-American, the F-word in front of a gay person, or the C-word in front of a female. It’s almost certainly no more than a bit of excess conversational lubricant spilling out. If conversations are of value, overlooking such dribs and drabs is a necessary art.
On the other hand, “praise Jesus!” hand-grabbing and knee-falling in the course of general conversation really IS like (etc.), and such persons deserve some gentle and respectful education. Right away.
Organized prayer at public events involving a mixed crowd is gauche and offensive. But if there is no serious whiff of governmental endorsement, I think it ought to be overlooked, even if in some sense a micro-percentage of public monies allows it to happen. (I mean the sort of bland devotions typical of such public prayer: anything that looks like sectarian doctrinal teaching crosses the line and deserves rebuke.) The majority (when it’s a big one) gets to feel a little bit fulfilled when they go out in public: or we’ve made a commitment to a “culture” of atomized individualism–and few people can get behind such a tyranical puritanism. It’s a question of details and degree.
As a gay man, I could feel distressed at my heterosexual office workers discussing, eg, “families” in specifically heterosexual terms. But such distress darkens my day, so I choose not to feel it if I can. Likewise religious subjects: details and degree.
In public prayer rituals I insist on quietly exercizing my right to either not stand, or to stand with slightly bowed head as a good-natured sign of respect to others and their beliefs. It wouldn’t occur to me to be disruptive, as if other people’s beliefs and rituals automatically constitute a threat or an insult.
As to prayer before the Inauguration… I don’t exactly care for it, but the President is, after all, a person–if hse feels moved to express an element of hirs beliefs regarding religious matters in connection with assuming office, I see no inherent problem. But again, detail and degree.
Campaigns of moral rectification from either side disturb me more than modest religionism or irreligionism.