# Atre Bikinis Appropriate for Backyard pool Parties? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 13, 2003, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489 "2003-04-13T20:01:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![peepthis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9d8465/32.png) [@peepthis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peepthis)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/21 "2003-04-14T11:42:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Audrey Levins \* > \*\*Buy a Playboy. That way you don’t know _any_ of 'em. \*\* Speak for yourself, my girlfriend’s neighbor was a Playmate last year! ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/22 "2003-04-14T12:13:06Z")
**don’t ask** : That’s the way I heard it. Of course Speedos tend to bunch everything up, so it would probably be potato-shaped instead of sausage shaped once everything was packed in there. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/23 "2003-04-14T12:17:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Scylla \* > \*\*The best way is to have a teenage or college age daughter, and let her have the party. > > My friend with just such a daughter appoints himself lifeguard and enjoys the sights. \*\* Another vote for the :seppuku: smiley, here. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/24 "2003-04-14T13:35:57Z")
I second Johnny’s original suggestion – say something like “show off your best swimsuit”; maybe add something like “be ready to get down and get wet”, but stop right there. Really. Just hope for the best, any attempt to deliberately incite scant clothing will fail… besides I know a few ladies who can take my breath away in conservative swimwear. [OT] Scylla’s suggestion brought to mind a (Shel Silverstein?) verse that went _Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife nor the ox her husband bought her; but the Lord does nowhere say you sha’n’t covet thy neighbor’s daughter._ But since it does squick many among us (y’know, all that thinning of the skin may have something to do with the ozone… maybe the skimpy bikinis are not such a good idea), I hereby take a page from the Drug Policy ads and propose the Moral Loophole for DOM’s: Scratch anything about daughters. _Rent a room in your house to coeds from a nearby college_, and then have THEM throw the party with yourself appointed lifeguard/chaperone. They may even think it’s cute the “old man” is looking after them! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/25 "2003-04-14T18:47:57Z")
Audrey, I know you were trying to say something in your post, but everytime I got to the part about “teenaged friends’ scantily clad asses” my thought processes derailed. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/26 "2003-04-14T18:55:34Z")
You can’t specify what guests should wear, and in fact mentioning anything about swimsuits in the invite is a bit creepy and may cause women to reconsider wearing the fine new two-piece they just got. My suggestion: Say nothing about attire in the invite, then provide lots and lots of liquor. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/27 "2003-04-14T18:58:06Z")
**Nemo** , I’m still stuck at “pool party” and “bakini.” ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/28 "2003-04-14T19:07:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DoctorJ \* > \*\*Make it a patriotic thing. \*\* “If you wear a one-piece, you’re swimming with Bin Laden!” Ew. I’m going to vote for combining several of the above suggestions. An invitation reading: Let’s get the summer off to a good start! Wear your best suit! Free beer! would get people looking their best, and probably of legal drinking age. ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/29 "2003-04-14T20:13:02Z")
Why not just cut to the chase with a nudist pool party. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/30 "2003-04-14T20:35:43Z")
Eh, don’t say anything about attire. Be a good host, hand out alcohol and have a lot of fun. ---
**Author:** ![Gundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b782af/32.png) [@Gundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gundy)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/31 "2003-04-14T20:59:35Z")
Buddy, there’s no way on earth I would wear a skimpy bathing suit to a pool party when it was solicited because I would KNOW that I was being leered at. Somehow, that’s worse than only suspecting it. Yuck. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/32 "2003-04-15T03:37:55Z")
Oh ick. On the other hand, I say go for it. It’s better that they’re WARNED. Then they know to stay away. **Scylla** , your friend is a sicko. ---
**Author:** ![Tripler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripler/32/21807_2.png) [@Tripler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tripler)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/33 "2003-04-15T03:46:10Z")
Quick question: Can I come along? I’ll bring three kegs. . . I’ve got my own tap. . . Tripler I’ll build you a new bar. . . ---
**Author:** ![torben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5daacb/32.png) [@torben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/torben)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 10:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/34 "2003-04-15T10:34:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gundy \* > \*\*Buddy, there’s no way on earth I would wear a skimpy bathing suit to a pool party when it was solicited because I would KNOW that I was being leered at. Somehow, that’s worse than only suspecting it. Yuck. \*\* Yes, because enjoying the physical beauty of others is totally unheard of and wrong. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![torben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5daacb/32.png) [@torben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/torben)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/35 "2003-04-15T10:39:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > \*\*Oh ick. > > On the other hand, I say go for it. It’s better that they’re WARNED. Then they know to stay away. > > **Scylla** , your friend is a sicko. \*\* You mean he is a man and enjoys looking at younger women?! :eek: Seriously, I don’t see the harm in looking as long as he’s not doing anything else. ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/36 "2003-04-15T10:51:20Z")
**Torben,** there was a man at my bar once who mentioned to my (male) coworker that when his teenage daughter throws pool parties, he likes to look out from his upstairs window and watch them. And that every once in awhile he forgets which ones are which, and gets a little too interested in the sight of his own daughter’s backside, before he realizes it’s _her._ He chuckled about this as if it were mildly amusing, i.e., “Yep, sometimes I gotta remember which one I’m lookin’ at!” And it is this memory, and the look on this guy’s face, that springs to mind when I hear of Scylla’s friend “hosting” pool parties for his young daughter’s friends. This. Is. Pervy. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 11:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/37 "2003-04-15T11:15:11Z")
Well, let me put it this way. Say, you’re a guy, you’re 50 years old, and your daughter is 20. She’s having a pool party, and fifteen 20 year old girls show up. They’re all in good shape, and wear sexy bikinis. Now, let’s not fool ourselves: the 50 year old guy is going to notice these girls. He’s a guy! And personally, if he just happened to venture out into the yard and think, “Wow, that one girl really looks attractive”, then there’s noting inherently wrong with that. Mind you, I’m assuming he’s just casually looking over, and noticing her beauty. Obviously, hitting on those girls would be flat out wrong, even if the man is single. But noticing the beauty of an adult woman if she’s walking through your back yard in a bikini? No big deal. However, appointing yourself “life guard” sounds like the guy just set up his beach chair and beer cooler to ogle the girls. That’s definitely out of line, and I’m sure the daughter would object. I’m not even going to go into the notion of not even noticing it’s your own daughter your leering at. That’s just sick. **Johnny LA** , are you familiar with **Kevin Bloody Wilson**? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 11:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/38 "2003-04-15T11:24:53Z")
**Coldfire,** I see your point, and in theory you are correct…but the scenario has gone from teenage girls with a dad who sets up camp in the backyard and “enjoys the sights” to a group of 20-year-old women and a dad who happens to wander into his own backyard and briefly, casually admire them. Maybe I’m just still too creeped out by the memory of the vacuous grin on that guy’s face to really rationalize this scenario. All I know is I was totally grossed out. _hopes never to see said father again_ Ugh! ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/39 "2003-04-15T12:27:42Z")
> [@](#): > > **Johnny LA** , are you familiar with **Kevin Bloody Wilson**? No. Who is he? ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2003, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489/40 "2003-04-15T12:57:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by David B \* > \*\*[Moderator Hat: ON] > > This is **not** a Great Debate. I’m moving it to MPSIMS. > > * * * > > David B, SDMB Great Debates Moderator > > [Moderator Hat: OFF] \*\* What, don’t you guys have Moderator Bikinis? Or thongs? Why must it always be a hat? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/atre-bikinis-appropriate-for-backyard-pool-parties/168489.md?page=3)