Isn’t it more like the other mods corrected you? I really doubt all the other mods agreed with you, but you decided on your own to rescind the note. Well good, because the mod note was a bad call. Should we offer you high praise for doing part of the right thing? Because the other part is an apology to the person you wronged, not the board in general.
Over a mod note and your refusal to consider his complaint as legitimate when he pointed out that you were wrong. Which you were, and you admitted you were. So yes, it’s because of your unfamiliarity with the norms of the forum you were moderating that caused him to leave. Nice try framing it as a respite, tho.
Is it written down? No. Is it normal human behavior to apologize when you accuse someone of something they didn’t do? Yes, it is. Since I assume you don’t have him on speed dial, writing him a note is the best way for you to contact him. You could have wrote him five notes in the time it took you to write your post.
I’m poking fun at you because you use a word that means nothing to most of the board. Do a search on it once, 95% of the returns are from you, with a couple from Australians. One who said that the word was obsolete in 2003. If you are going to give mod instructions on an American centric board, use words that people don’t have to guess the meaning from context. You seem to be on a one person crusade to bring it back.
Why do mods always think criticism of their calls is hostile? There is no hostility involved. I just think when you break something, you should fix it. In this case, the breaking is all on you. It would cost you nothing to reach out to UltraVires and explain what happened, yet you would rather scold me for disagreeing with you than to apologize. If I can reach out, and What_Exit can do the same, why can’t you?
As I said above, this is the second long term poster we lost in the last couple of weeks directly because of mod interaction. You have a chance to reverse one of them with a simple PM, but for some reason you won’t do it.