# Attention Lesbian Mommies (and Gay Daddies, too) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 30, 2001, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445 "2001-01-30T20:24:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2001, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/21 "2001-02-01T20:07:54Z")
My friend’s husband is a reporter, and she just pointed me to an interesting series in their local paper called “Living Gay.” There is at least one article about gay parents raising a child. Maybe that would help you out, although it’s not the same thing as direct quotes, of course. Perhaps a little background material? [http://www.roanoke.com/roatimes/livinggay/](http://www.roanoke.com/roatimes/livinggay/) ---
**Author:** ![Birdie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/71e660/32.png) [@Birdie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdie)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2001, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/22 "2001-02-02T02:15:00Z")
Thanks, Cranky! That link is very helpful. I do, of course, need lots of sources other than primary ones, and this one is perfect. ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2001, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/23 "2001-02-02T02:46:39Z")
I have two female cousins (sisters) who were raised by two women… one of them is now happily (and heterosexually) married, and one is bi and in a serious relationship with a woman, who happens to have edited a book called _Out of the Ordinary_ about growing up with gay/lesbian/transgendered parents, and which I thus highly recommend. (You should be able to find it for sale on the web easily enough) ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2001, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/24 "2001-02-02T02:54:07Z")
sorry for the slight redundancy of information, but here’s a link that might be interesting [http://www.stonewallinn.com/Features/OOOEx4.html](http://www.stonewallinn.com/Features/OOOEx4.html) ---
**Author:** ![Birdie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/71e660/32.png) [@Birdie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdie)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/25 "2001-02-22T03:50:22Z")
Thanks for all your replies so far. Continuing on… for those of you raised by homosexual or bisexual parents, how did you deal with the attacks of religious groups (if you did) and how did this affect your view of religion? Were you afraid of peer rejection? Do you consider your family to be that much different from typical families? ---
**Author:** ![Birdie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/71e660/32.png) [@Birdie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdie)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/26 "2001-02-22T03:53:11Z")
BTW… **MaxTheVool** , that book is great! I’m reading it now. Not only is it perfect for my research paper, but it’s fascinating and impossible to put down. Thanks so much for recommending it! ---
**Author:** ![Morrison\_s\_Lament](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Morrison\_s\_Lament](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morrison_s_Lament)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/27 "2001-02-22T14:08:44Z")
I was raised by lesbians, does that count or am I too late? — G. Raven ---
**Author:** ![Birdie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/71e660/32.png) [@Birdie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdie)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/28 "2001-02-22T18:10:21Z")
of course that counts 🙂 anything you had to say on the subject would be great help. Basically, now i’m trying to prove in my paper that alternative families work at least just as well as nuclear families. My main point is that homosexual adoption should be legal in Florida, and i am trying to disprove the myths surrounding alternative families, such as 1) homosexuals cannot provide good role models for their children, 2) children who are raised by lesbian or gay parents will be subjected to harassment and will be rejected by their peers, and 3)children raised by lesbians and gay men will be brought up in an “immoral” environment. please, feel free to share what you will on the subject. ---
**Author:** ![RonA](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/73ab20/32.png) [@RonA](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RonA)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/29 "2001-02-22T20:56:17Z")
I’m a gay guy. My SO and I would like to have kids. But not only would the kid have to deal with having gay parents, he’d have to deal with having interracial parents (SO’s black, I’m white). Would this pose any additional difficulties for our child? **Birdie** , I don’t know if you want to deal with this aspect or not. If this is too much of a hijack, let me know and I’ll start another thread. ---
**Author:** ![Birdie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/71e660/32.png) [@Birdie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Birdie)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2001, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/30 "2001-02-22T22:35:25Z")
RonA, i dn’t consider it too much of a hijack. if you did open it up as another thread, i would prolly want to quote much of what people are saying about it. From what i’ve read, i don’t think it would pose much of an additional problem. One woman in a book i’m reading makes an excellent point – Any child of a minority will most likely face prejudice and ignorance. Does this mean that minorities shouldn’t have children? Of course not. Any child will be picked on for something. I think as long as you instill pride and values into the child early on, he will turn out all right. Many of the couples in the research i am reading are interracial, and they don’t seem to have any more trouble than the other families. Just to soothe any initial anxieties, the ACLU states: > [@](#): > > All of the research to date has reached the same unequivocal conclusion about gay parenting: the children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as successfully as the children of heterosexual parents. In fact, not a single study has found the children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged because of their parents’ sexual orientation. Other key findings include: > > There is no evidence to suggest that lesbians and gay men are unfit to be parents. > > Home environments with lesbian and gay parents are as likely to successfully support a child’s development as those with heterosexual parents. > > Good parenting is not influenced by sexual orientation. Rather, it is influenced most profoundly by a parent’s ability to create a loving and nurturing home – an ability that does not depend on whether a parent is gay or straight. > > There is no evidence to suggest that the children of lesbian and gay parents are less intelligent, suffer from more problems, are less popular, or have lower self-esteem than children of heterosexual parents. > > The children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as happy, healthy and well-adjusted as the children of heterosexual parents. I recommend reading the wealth of resources available on this topic. There are a lot more books and resources out there than you may think. ---
**Author:** ![jane\_says](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jane\_says](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jane_says)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2001, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445/31 "2001-02-23T01:06:17Z")
Birdie, I am a bisexual mother of two. I don’t feel comfortable posting intimate details here on the board (I sometimes post from work), but I would be glad to answer any questions you may have by email. Good luck! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attention-lesbian-mommies-and-gay-daddies-too/52445.md?page=1)