# Attitudes toward and Experiences with Casual Sex: A Survey **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 10, 2013, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551 "2013-11-10T03:50:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/21 "2013-11-11T18:39:48Z")
This thread seems suspiciously oriented toward “promiscuity males”. ---
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/22 "2013-11-11T19:06:04Z")
> [@bump](#): > > This thread seems suspiciously oriented toward “promiscuity males”. I was afraid this would happen, since women may not be as comfortable giving out this sort of information. But I figured the SDMB was fairly liberal so I’d have more feedback from women but maybe not… In any case, I encourage more women to fill out the survey. Please? ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/23 "2013-11-11T19:28:16Z")
> [@bump](#): > > This thread seems suspiciously oriented toward “promiscuity males”. I’d have said rather the opposite, Considering the posts from **Ethilrist** , **BigT** , **Trinopus** and myself (and by extension, **dracoi** ). ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/24 "2013-11-11T20:34:54Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > I’d have said rather the opposite, Considering the posts from **Ethilrist** , **BigT** , **Trinopus** and myself (and by extension, **dracoi** ). “Virginity males”? ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/25 "2013-11-11T20:40:54Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > “Virginity males”? There’s a middle ground, too, it just doesn’t lend itself to a catchy label. ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/26 "2013-11-11T20:43:37Z")
**Gender:** female **Sexual Orientation:** pure hetero **Relationship Status:** Married, 13 years **Age:** 37 \*\*Location: \*\*Minneapolis - says so right up there, upper right, so it’d be weird to be cagey about it here. 🙂 \*\*Experiences: \*\*No - married my high school sweetheart (after I’d graduated college) \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\*Not now; I value my marriage far too highly for that. If something happens to my marriage or husband? Maybe; depends on the circumstances and guy. **Attitude in regard to others:** Be safe, and be good to yourself. Other than that, who’m I to say what works for you? ---
**Author:** ![jools](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b3f665/32.png) [@jools](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jools)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/27 "2013-11-11T21:51:38Z")
**Gender** : female **Sexual Orientation** : hetero **Relationship Status** : Single now and forever **Age** : 49 **Location** : Montreal. **Experiences** : Way way too many to list and a lot to be forgotten anyways **Attitude in regard to self** : Not really interested anymore in casual sex. **Attitude in regard to others** : Respect yourself, have fun and be safe… who am I to judge anybody out there! ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/28 "2013-11-11T21:56:40Z")
Gender: male Sexual Orientation: hetero Relationship Status: married Age: 35 Location: Indiana Experiences: None–all my sex has been in the context of a serious relationship Attitude in regard to self: No moral qualms, but I’m mr. awkward in every conceivable way when it comes to social interaction with strangers so I can’t even imagine a pleasant casual sex experience taking place were I to actually try to have one. Plus. A condom would be a necessity, and I’m of course _that_ guy who has great distaste for the feeling of sex with a condom. Attitude in regard to others: I can’t imagine what is supposed to be wrong with casual sex. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/29 "2013-11-11T22:08:46Z")
> [@Frylock](#): > > I’m of course _that_ guy who has great distaste for the feeling of sex with a condom. Dude, that’s every guy. They aren’t worn for fun. ETA: Well, they’re worn for fun to be _had_, they’re no fun in and of themselves. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/30 "2013-11-11T22:23:07Z")
\*\*Gender: \*\*F **Sexual Orientation:** Straight \*\*Relationship Status:\*\*Single, but would prefer to find an SO. **Age:** 54 **Location:** Colorado **Experiences:** There have been a few one night stands, but they were not my intention. I would have preferred it to be the start of something, but was the victim of a hit and run instead…that kind of thing. The vast majority of my sexual experiences (and the most fun, and pleasurable sex) has been within a LTCR. \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\*Avoid it like the plague. Once I figured out (didn’t take more than a couple of them) who was just trying to get laid), I made sure to the best of my abilities that to avoid those types. **Attitude in regard to others:** Kind of bothers me a bit how it seems to be the preferred goal. The more it’s accepted as the Holy Grail of sexuality by seemingly everyone, the less others (who would like to find a relationship) have a chance. And it’s also kind of annoying to be on the receiving end of the whole “what? what’s wrong with me?” PUA pressure tactics. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/31 "2013-11-11T22:28:09Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > “Virginity males”? Band name. A really bad band name but band name nonetheless. ---
**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/32 "2013-11-11T23:33:42Z")
I suppose this was my attitude before, not now that I’m 50 with a 10-year old daughter: **Gender:** male **Sexual Orientation:** hetero **Relationship Status:** WHILE single \*\*Age: \*\*18-36 (married late) **Location:** Catholic Philippines **Experiences:** ONS with a married woman, short party flings, a few take-homes from a bar, several eyeballs on the internet. Interesting the last one: they were sex-eyeballs, a meeting just for sex with no likely follow-through. \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\* basically a late bloomer wondering where my youth had gone **Attitude in regard to others:** you have them (decent but willing women) everywhere. I cannot for the life of me understand porn, rape, and all forms of lechery. Prostitution, I can dig. ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/33 "2013-11-11T23:42:28Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Dude, that’s every guy. They aren’t worn for fun. > ETA: Well, they’re worn for fun to be _had_, they’re no fun in and of themselves. 😉 I sometimes wonder if they’re “worse” for me than for most people, because seriously, I’d rather have no sex than sex with a condom. But we’re getting into TMI territory here… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/34 "2013-11-12T02:22:52Z")
**Ambivalid** , do you have anything to actually contribute to this thread, or are you just here to snark on those who do? ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/35 "2013-11-12T02:42:42Z")
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Married Age: 41 Location: Hoboken, NJ Experiences: A fair number of random hookups in my college days and 20s. Attitude in regard to self: Well, I’m married now, which I take seriously. But if I wasn’t, the first think I would do is sign up for those phone apps the 20-something single guys at work use. Attitude in regard to others: People can do what they please. Although I do have a bit of disdain for women who hook up for the purpose of self-validation or men who hook up like they are trying to punish someone. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > > [@Frylock](#): > > > > I’m of course that guy who has great distaste for the feeling of sex with a condom. > > Dude, that’s every guy. They aren’t worn for fun. They are if you turn the “ribbed for her pleasure” ones inside out.😉 ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/36 "2013-11-12T03:43:22Z")
Here’s mine: Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Married Age: 41 Location: Dallas, TX Experiences: One internet hookup, one confused NYE adventure. Attitude in regard to self: Married, so no real desire or time anymore for that kind of thing. If I was single, I’d be all over it. Sometimes you just want to get laid, you know, and without all the baggage that comes with a relationship. Attitude in regard to others: Never had a problem with it; actually found the more… willing girls more attractive as long as they weren’t desperate self-esteem cases, since the willing and non-desperate ones aren’t playing games and seem to know what they want, which is sexy with a capital “S”. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/37 "2013-11-12T05:39:38Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > **Ambivalid** , do you have anything to actually contribute to this thread, or are you just here to snark on those who do? Am I offending you? 😕 And I wouldn’t call my posts here “snark” exactly. Pretty weak snark if so. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/38 "2013-11-12T05:45:33Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Am I offending you? 😕 I’m not offended, but you aren’t really adding anything to the thread, either. Are you offended? You responses seem to be looking for things to take people to task for. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/39 "2013-11-12T05:51:47Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > I’m not offended, but you aren’t really adding anything to the thread, either. > > Are you offended? You responses seem to be looking for things to take people to task for. Huh? I don’t even know what to say to that. Show me an example of how I’ve “taken someone to task” in this thread. Very odd. I believe I’ve made three posts in this thread, prior to this one. One was just a question of clarification, nothing more; one was a fucking _joke_ and the last one was me saying how no guy likes to wear a condom. WTF is your problem? 😕 Anyway, I’ll end this unfortunate hijack. Sorry folks. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/40 "2013-11-12T06:01:21Z")
Asking **Antinor01** if he plans to cheat on his marriage, and implying that every guy who’s not promiscuous is a virgin seem to have a certain amount of snark to them. And very little else. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551.md?page=3)