# Attitudes toward and Experiences with Casual Sex: A Survey **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 10, 2013, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551 "2013-11-10T03:50:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/41 "2013-11-12T06:20:30Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Asking **Antinor01** if he plans to cheat on his marriage, and implying that every guy who’s not promiscuous is a virgin seem to have a certain amount of snark to them. And very little else. Wow. Just wow. I did **nothing** of the sort. I asked **Antinor01** if his upcoming marriage to his longtime SO is, _as it appeared to be by his post_, going to be an open marriage. And, _surprise!_, it is!! I just wanted to be sure I was reading his post correctly. As far as “virginity males”, dude, it was a joke in the theme of the OP in response to your post claiming you felt this thread had taken the _opposite_ tone of that of “Promiscuity Males”. What IS the opposite of a “promiscuity male” if not a “virginity male”? Would you have felt better if I had said “Celibacy Males”? :dubious: ETA: If you feel the need to continue this, do everyone a favor and do it through PM. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/42 "2013-11-12T06:26:26Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > What IS the opposite of a “promiscuity male”…? Non-promiscuous males. > [@](#): > > ETA: If you feel the need to continue this, do everyone a favor and do it through PM. It’s rather disingenuous of you to ask questions in public, then declare the hijack over or to continue in private. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 7:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/43 "2013-11-12T07:15:04Z")
**Gender:** Male **Sexual Orientation:** Straight **Relationship Status:** Single \*\*Age: \*\* 31 **Location:** Hampton Roads, Virginia, U.S. **Experiences:** No experience with casual sex. Still 1/3 of a virgin. (The important part). All sexual activity (what little there has been) has thus far been reserved for committed partner. \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\* I would not engage in casual sex. I was taught to save myself for marriage, and I tend to alternate between being ashamed that I did _anything_ with that long-ago girlfriend, and being fond of the memory. In any event, if I’m having sex, it’s with someone with whom I have a long-term relationship. **Attitude in regard to others:** I find one-night stands very morally questionable, but I don’t assume that just because one feels differently, they’re a bad person. If you’re looking for a one-night stand with _me,_ look elsewhere. (Not that women react to me in that manner anyway). This came off as a little more bitter than I meant it to. ---
**Author:** ![Azeotrope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/0ea827/32.png) [@Azeotrope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azeotrope)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/44 "2013-11-12T14:09:28Z")
> [@Grey\_area](#): > > In any case, I encourage more women to fill out the survey. Please? Ooh, the begging I like… 😃 **Gender:** female **Sexual Orientation:** straight **Relationship Status:** single \*\*Age: \*\*37 **Location:** PA **Experiences:** none \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\* If I had sex it would likely be part of a committed relationship. I’m not a spontaneous kind of person in any other respect so I can’t see myself acting any differently regarding sex. **Attitude in regard to others:** Their lives, their business. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/45 "2013-11-12T15:11:31Z")
**Gender:** male **Sexual Orientation:** heterosexual **Relationship Status:** divorced. In a committed, long term relationship \*\*Age: \*\* 55 **Location:** rural western PA \*\*Experiences: \*\* yes. Oh, yes. \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\* Have sown my wild oats, mostly nonGMO. \*\*Attitude in regard to others: \*\* as long as you aren’t in my kitchen, do whatever you want ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/46 "2013-11-12T16:06:02Z")
**Gender:** (Self-explanatory) _For most of you folks, it’s self-explanatory, perhaps. Genderqueer, subtype Gender Invert. (Male girl, essentially). No dysphoria (I’m not in the “wrong body”, I just don’t have the gender you expect for the body I’ve got; adjust your expectations)._ **Sexual Orientation:** (Self-explanatory) _Towards female-bodied people_ **Relationship Status:** E.g. married, single, in a committed relationship, in a casual relationship, etc. _polyamorous, in 3 ongoing relationships with partners with addl partners of their own_ \*\*Age: \*\*(Self-explanatory) _54_ **Location:** _Long Island NY; stone’s throw from Queens._ **Experiences:** _I’ve done casual sex (i.e., with strangers) a few times, didn’t do much for me; have also done the “friends with benefits” / sex wtih people who aren’t strangers but with whom I’m not in an ongoing romantic relationship with._ \*\*Attitude in regard to self: \*\* _I’d do the second variety again (and probably will), not much interest in sex with strangers (not prudish, but I think I’m too self-conscious about it to enjoy that)_ **Attitude in regard to others:** \*I see nothing at all wrong with casual sex. I think people who never have sex in the context of strong emotional connections are missing out, but that’s a different matter. \* ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/47 "2013-11-12T17:07:55Z")
_Gender_: F _Sexual Orientation_: primarily hetero, dabbled in F-F & 3-ways _Relationship Status_: recently widowed, but that changes nothing significant _Age_: thirty-mumblety _Location_: TX state, DFW area _Experiences_: FWB turned into marriage _Attitude in regard to self:_ safe sex is awesome! _Attitude in regard to others:_ safe sex is awesome! I gotta go check/delete my PMs now… ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551/48 "2013-11-12T17:09:03Z")
**Gender:** female **Sexual Orientation:** 90+% straight **Relationship Status:** single \*\*Age: \*\*45 **Location:** variable; currently in my native Spain **Experiences:** a couple of hookups with friends \*\*Attitude: \*\* 1) Wear a condom damnit. 2) So long as everybody knows what the game is, game on (this applies to casual sex, to romance, to courtship with an eye to marriage… step one, make sure we’re all dancing the same dance; step two, either dance or leave the floor). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/attitudes-toward-and-experiences-with-casual-sex-a-survey/673551.md?page=2)