I’m 20, and people constantly tell me I look 15 or 16. My brother is 32, but looks 25. It’s weird, because my sister is 33 and looks 35. Maybe the both of us just won the gene lottery.
And it’s not annoying or embarassing; hell, it’s flattering. I like the idea of being able to fool all the young’uns when I hit 40.
I was out this weekend and got carded. I told the barmaid that at my age I take it as a compliment. She looked at my ID and almost did a double take; she commented that I looked really young. Not that I’m that old, I turn 30 about a week from now. People always peg me as being in my early 20’s.
My dad is 8 months older than my mom. He is 13 years older than his wife. My dad and stepmom look about the same age. My mom, despite dyeing her gray, looks much older. Being a son, I think I will take after my dad. Also, my mom has unhealthier habits, which might be a factor.
Sun, yup. Fat, oh yeah. Caffeine, if that makes any difference, you betcha.
Oh, well, I like to think it gives me gravitas. Yeah, that’s it, gravitas. Dignity. A statesman-like presence. I radiate trustworthiness and experience. Who are you going to trust, the old guy or some kid who looks fresh out of high school? I could tell you stories…
Oh, screw it. I’m 59 and look it.
I was never carded, even in my early 20’s. When I was 21 people thought I was 30, but I think that was more attitude than actual appearance.
Roddy
I think that once you hit 40 or so, skinny may look good on your body but not your face. I think that heavier people look younger because their faces fill out the wrinkles. Case in point. My Dad is 65 and has turned into a real health nut. He’s lost quite a bit of weight and his face looks haggard to the point that people have asked if he’s ill. On a personal note, when I’m the weight I think I should be, I have dimples in my cheeks that are usually not noticeable and I am complimented on my jawline (which, obviously, is good, but I think some may see it my face as looking “drawn.”) Sorry I’m not making much sense of this!
I have a good friend I have known since grade school. I sort of talked him into being an actor and he is still very successful in the theater world.
To make a long story short, he always looked like a “boy”, even when we were both in our mid 20’s. Even today, if I put my arm on his shoulder, I feel like a pedophile. Decades later, he looks like he is about 25 years younger than I am and I know he has not had any work done on his face.
A mutual friend (a woman he used to date) and I think he is Dorian Gray.
I am 32, but look about eight-ten years younger. I have never stopped being carded for booze, haven’t been carded for smokes in a couple years. If I am with my husband (38), I am less likely to be carded, if I am with my younger sister (30 yo) we both get carded. My sister owns her own business and is very successful, but if she meets a client for the first time, they always mistake her for one of her college interns or the secretary. When I told a friend of mine that knew my sister that she was turning 30, they didn’t believe me, they thought she was much younger.
A few years ago my husband and I went to a housewarming party for a friend. Husband was probably 35 at the time, so I was about 29. A relative of the homeowner and I got into a conversation and basically she thought I was high-school aged. She really must have thought my husband was trolling the high schools for dates before I told her how old I actually was.
It seems the shorter I wear my hair, the younger I look. Also, I think weight is a factor. I have always been thin, but when I went off birth control, I put on 10 lbs. People who hadn’t seen me in a while commented that it made me look older.
FWIW, my grandmother has always looked young. She is over 80 now and still has very few grey hairs. We were convinced after she had chemo and radiation after cancer that her hair would grow in grey and much thinner, but her hair is still very thick and black. I think Dad carried those genes and gave them to my sister and I.
Not necessarily. I am 26 and frequently get asked if I am getting ready to graduate high school this year. I am pretty plump so my weight doesn’t have much to do with how old I look, though I admit that I do take pretty good care of myself otherwise. I don’t smoke or drink and I get plenty of aerobic activity in my daily life and I think that has an impact on my youthful look as well. Though there are some people who gain weight and you can tell gravity is working against them, so it might depend more on your body type than your weight.
My boyfriend actually started going grey and losing his hair at about 18 or so and looks much older than his 27 years and is frequently mistaken for 35 or older. A few weeks ago we were waiting on line for theater tickets and this guy came up and started asking my boyfriend if he remembered some song from the late 60’s (putting him in a bit of a mood because then this man obviously assumed he had to be at least 50 to remember back that far) and I looked at him and said, “Hehe…that guy thinks you are 50 and everyone thinks I am 17. I bet they either think you are a wealthy old man or that I am your daughter!” He didn’t think that was too funny.
Actually, I find that being overweight and staying overweight keeps you looking younger, like pbbth said. Not to say that it keeps you living longer, tho.
I know a few folks who lost a lot of weight in their 50s and to be honest they look teeeerrrrible. Basically their skin wasn’t as resilient as it would have been 30 years ago.
My mom is 57 and, although she has been dying her hair since she was 16, she looks fantastic. I’d say definitely in her 40s. Her face barely has any wrinkles. I attribute it to staying out of the sun, not smoking and losing the “battle of the bulge.”
I’m only 29 and I’m fat, I look quite young. I get carded a lot.
As long as you live a healthy lifestyle I’d bet you’ll stay young looking. Stay out of the sun, don’t drink to excess, don’t smoke. Try to keep stress to a minimum. And no meth!
I’m 40 and get carded. Interestingly I also smoke heavily and have not had a healthy lifestyle. I do have graying hair, but I suspect that keeping it in a mohawk probably drops a few years off me. Prior to his death from colon cancer my father never looked his age either. At 60 he easily passed for 40
My father, who is in his 50s, has maintained a beard since his early 20s because he looks like a teenage choirboy without it. He is finally starting to gray, juuuuust a little (in the beard only!)… but other than that? He looks about 30. When we go out as a family, people mistake me for his wife and/or have been known to ask my mother (who doesn’t look THAT old, but DOES look old enough to be my parent) if we’re “both hers.”
This has been going on since I was little. It’s rather scary, but dad (and mom, bless her) gets a kick out of it.
My wife looks about 10 years younger than she is. I’m four years younger than her and people think the age difference is the opposite way. People usually guess about 4–5 years low on me too, so it’s not like I look like an old dude. I looked my age or older a couple of years back when I was fat, so anecdotally being in shape does help a lot.
It’s a family thing. Her sister is 40 now, has had a kid, and would be judged as being someone in her late 20s, early 30s. Her dad is 65 and looks maybe 50, her mom is 61 (doesn’t look it of course) and has a boyfriend in his late 30s :eek:
I just turned 43 (today) and the carding shit still happens (as in buying $100 worth of groceries and getting carded for the bottle of wine. WTF? :dubious:)
Used to irritate the hell out of me (like when DH and I would be going to a club with a group of same-aged frends and the bouncer would single ME out and demand an ID…I decided maybe I just looked like a cop or something :D)
I even had to get my FIL to buy me cigs one time, as I didn’t have an ID on me and despite me being 30 something, they refused to sell them to me. Was sort of funy, this 70 something yr old man going in and saying, “you gonna card ME?”
I have and still do get it a lot…the OMG, no WAY are you that old!!!:eek:
A coworker of mine once said, when my DH drove me to work, “who was that guy?” and I told her and she didn’t believe me (DH always seemed older than he was, only a few yrs older than me. He was buying beer and cigs at 14 with no problem, lol) She went on to demand to know my age and I told her and she didin’t believe me.
Now, I don’t mind it so much, but at 25 or 35 it was a pain.
Now, not sure that it will hold out as the years pass…it may all catch up to me overnight for all I know. But for now, I can happily pass for 10 or more yrs younger and am not complaining.
Want to add that I have, overaall, not lived that healthy of a life (my aforementioned coworker said, “wow, you must have taken really good care of yourself!” and I said, “No, not really.” :rolleyes:
Have drunk heavily for about a decade of my life, Did my share of other drugs, smoked for decades, had more unprotected sun exposure than I care to recall, eaten fairly well (vegetarian for 13 yrs or so), but overall, I should look like Keith Richards:p
And my weight (currently about 20 lbs above ideal) doesn’t seem to matter, though I know it can, making age more apparent as a rule. I got carded when I was very thin and when I was pudgy, both.
But a lot is genetics, I think. I have a rather olive complexion, and seldom burn, and that means fewer wrinkles as one ages. My granny lived to be 100 and was very active and healthy well into her 90s. (despite being a redhead with very fair skin, she looked much younger than her years)
Hey, Johnny Depp was a “baby face” at 30. Look at him now…he pulls off 44 VERY well:)
At 25 I usually got taken for 18. At 40 I get taken for 32. I’ve had to show ID to people who thought I was pulling their leg re my age.
Mom is 68; she gets mistaken for mid-50s.
My grandparents are 95 and 94. For the last 3 years, people have been mistaking them for early 80s. I have a picture from 4 years ago where they can easily pass for mid60s; I’ve had coworkers who were in their 50s and looked older than my then-late-80s grandparents.
I’m due to turn 30 next year and people frequently guess I’m in my early 20s, generally not past 25. As others have said I think not smoking/drinking help a lot, as does staying out of the sun (I’m closer to the albino end of the spectrum so doesn’t work for me) and drinking lots of water. Since I’ve lost best part of 30lb this year people have also remarked how much older I looked in photos from the start of the year, so I agree weight really doesn’t help.