# Baby shower traditions in Germany? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 2, 2006, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912 "2006-10-02T01:40:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Campion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Campion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Campion)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/1 "2006-10-02T01:40:19Z")
My SIL is German, and pregnant. We (her American siblings) want to throw her a baby shower, which she’s declined, saying she’d prefer to wait until after the baby is born. That’s all fine, but we’d like to be able to incorporate some of her traditions into the shower if we can. And, of course, we’d like to do it without alerting her that we’re going to do it. Any thoughts from any of our German dopers? ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/2 "2006-10-02T15:38:05Z")
Baby and childhood pictures of the mum and dad placed around for folks to look at is one I saw at a German/American shower. Can you get some of her baby pics from her parents? ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/3 "2006-10-02T15:44:21Z")
There may not be any, here in Spain there isn’t such a thing as baby showers (you bring the presents when you’re going to meet the baby). No bridal showers either, for that matter. Do you know any other germans you could ask? Preferably ones not related to her. ---
**Author:** ![kellner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c2a13f/32.png) [@kellner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellner)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/4 "2006-10-02T16:14:56Z")
We don’t really have a tradition of baby showers. Apparently there are a few people who do it but it’s definitely unusual. Normally people give their presents when the baby is born. At the moment I can’t think of any special traditions. ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/5 "2006-10-02T18:24:55Z")
A German baby shower? Wear a slicker. ---
**Author:** ![Mops](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mops/32/16494_2.png) [@Mops](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mops)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/6 "2006-10-02T19:59:14Z")
I had to look up what a baby shower is - never heard of a similar tradition in Germany, FWIW. BTW I can understand your German SIL’s attitude of preferring to wait until the baby is born - it is my impression that we Germans tend to avoid _tempting fate_. Another example of this is that if a birthday party cannot be scheduled on the birthday it’s generally held later rather than sooner, in order not to tempt fate (beginning some time before midnight seems to be regarded as safe enough, though). ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2006, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/7 "2006-10-02T20:14:46Z")
Not quite a baby shower tradition, but I was walking in Nuremberg once when I was accosted[sup]\*[/sup] by a group of women who told me (after some difficulty with the language) that one of them was getting married the next day and it was a tradition for me to give her 50 cents and pound a nail into a piece of wood. No one I have told about this has ever heard of such a thing. - “Accosted” is too strong a word, but the whole thing was kinda strange. ---
**Author:** ![Campion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Campion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Campion)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2006, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baby-shower-traditions-in-germany/374912/8 "2006-10-04T03:03:00Z")
[QUOTE=tschild] BTW I can understand your German SIL’s attitude of preferring to wait until the baby is born - it is my impression that we Germans tend to avoid _tempting fate_. [/QUOTE] That describes her perfectly, and given all that she has had to give up to be here, it seems the least we can do is honor her wishes. So I’ll call her and confirm she wants to wait, and see if she even wants a shower. If there’s no such tradition in Germany, then maybe she’ll want to skip it altogether. (Although it might be fun to show her some baby shower games… 🙂 ) > [@Robot Arm](#): > > I was walking in Nuremberg once when I was accosted\* by a group of women who told me (after some difficulty with the language) that one of them was getting married the next day and it was a tradition for me to give her 50 cents and pound a nail into a piece of wood. I’ll ask her about this, and if she’s heard of it, I’ll post.