# Baking for others **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 21, 2011, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619 "2011-11-21T08:02:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Shniru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Shniru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shniru)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/1 "2011-11-21T08:02:29Z")
So, I give myself credit for being a very naive person, which is why I bring this question to the humble folks at IMHO. . . I like to bake, usually pie or banana bread, and when I bake, I naturally bake too much and don’t want it in the house or else I will eat all of it. Or my boyfriend will. And that’s the problem. I have (had, now, since I’ve moved) quite a few guy friends, so I will save a slice of bread or whatnot for them when they ask for it . . . but my boyfriend has a huge problem with this. I have the feeling it’s more about jealousy than him wanting to eat all of it – but I’m not sure. So I guess the question is, guys, how would you feel if your girlfriend/wife/S.O. was giving her guy friends (be it coworkers or friends at school) something she baked/cooked? And if you have a problem with it–why? Is there some connection with brownies and vaginas that I’m unaware of?! ---
**Author:** ![Cap\_n\_Obvious](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e56c9b/32.png) [@Cap\_n\_Obvious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap_n_Obvious)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/2 "2011-11-21T11:06:39Z")
I wouldn’t have a problem with my girlfriend giving fresh baked goodies to other guys. Seems kind of weird to me that he would. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/3 "2011-11-21T11:09:19Z")
If I was a guy, I wouldn’t care at all. My ex frequently told me I should make things that I’d made for him and share them with coworkers and friends. ---
**Author:** ![Sophistry\_and\_Illusion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Sophistry\_and\_Illusion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sophistry_and_Illusion)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/4 "2011-11-21T12:31:31Z")
Tell your dude to lighten up. There is a woman at work who knows I love her pistachio cake and always brings me some when she makes it. Her boyfriend doesn’t mind, and my wife doesn’t mind. Sometimes friends sharing food is just friends sharing food. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/5 "2011-11-21T12:47:06Z")
Also (correct me if I’m wrong) it seems that you are wrapping up portions “specially” and hand delivering them. If you only did that with men, I might find it a little odd. No so much in a jealous way, but a “why does she act so differently around men than women?” way. If you share with coworkers/friends of both genders, it would not strike me as odd in any way. ---
**Author:** ![Quercus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/7ab992/32.png) [@Quercus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quercus)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2011, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/baking-for-others/603619/6 "2011-11-21T15:34:08Z")
> [@Shniru](#): > > I have the feeling it’s more about jealousy than him wanting to eat all of it – but I’m not sure. You know, one of the standard replies to almost any relationship question is “Just ask him (/her)”. Why don’t you find out from him what his issue really is, before asking us about it? I mean, for all we know, he upset that you keep giving away nice plates (with brownies on them), and never get the plates back. Ask him.