Having read through all 287 posts (so far), I, a straight, white, cis male, am ready to throw in my two cents.
The bigots are using fear as a weapon. And the “them” they’re using against the entire LGBTQ+ population to stoke that fear is specifically the transwoman athlete. Why transwomen athletes? Because the bigots are stoking fears that our precious daughters will be raped in the locker room or at summer camp by some man who got in there by calling himself a woman, and the libruls are standing by and letting it happen.
Fear is a much better motivator than bigotry. Take a look next door at The Male Inequality Problem thread, where women are voicing their very legitimate fear of being alone with men they don’t know.
Are we calling those posters bigots? Of course not, we’re giving them space to vent, reassuring them.
So when we run up against someone who starts in parroting the transwoman athlete argument, let’s answer them with, “What are you REALLY afraid about?” Because it sure ain’t that a transwoman is going outrebound their daughter.
Unwind that, separate the fearful from the bigots, reassure the fearful, and then we can target our rage at the bigots and demogogues.