Oh, sorry Ficer. I’ll try for a really brief explanation of Einsteinian gravity, to clear up any misconceptions you might have, since part of what you say is right and part is not as right.
As you have grasped, what the Big Bang tells us is that space is expanding. As you have also grasped, if there’s sufficient things gravitating, space will stop expanding, start collapsing, and we’ll have a Big Crunch instead. Current indiciations are that this is not what will happen, but it’s a theoretical possibility.
The part that’s confusing you a bit is that you seem to be thinking of the Big Bang rather like an explosion, and so assigning it a center. This isn’t so true.
There’s an old analogy, which likens the fabric of space to the surface of a balloon. As we blow up the balloon, the surface expands, distance between two dots you’ve drawn on the surface gets bigger. Every point is getting farther away from every other point, simultaneously, and hence, one can’t define a center to the universe.
Matter tends NOT to expand in the same way, because gravity holds it together. So the expansion of space is making the Earth get farther from distant galaxies and the like, but isn’t making the Earth get bigger.
As to why there wasn’t a black hole style singularity to prevent the expansion taking place, there’s one important part of the Big Bang story we have deemphasized somewhat which will perhaps make this a little more palatable to you, and that’s inflation. The idea behind inflation is that the universe got really really tremendously huge really really tremendously fast, before Einsteinian gravity took over.
On an unrelated note, erl, I swear I really will try to come up with something about the breaking of time reversal symmetry, but I’m still at home and most of my references are in the infamous office.