# Being called out is a bitch, innit?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-called-out-is-a-bitch-innit/220031>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [December 19, 2003, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-called-out-is-a-bitch-innit/220031 "2003-12-19T19:41:03Z")\
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**Author:** ![Acco40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/58956e/32.png) [@Acco40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acco40)\
**Post date:** [December 20, 2003, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-called-out-is-a-bitch-innit/220031/21 "2003-12-20T22:21:02Z")

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**Fish** :

Wake up and _smell the glove_.

Anyway, yes I see what you mean. I was thinking the same thing after having re-read my OP, and no this is the only post on this subject; there is no back story.

The problem lies in the fact that I told her I was attracted to her. That complicated things on my part. I know she’s attracted to me. I can sense it, and her friends tell me the same. She’s not happy in her current relationship. So I went for it, and failed.

This complicates the matter because I don’t want to be her friend really. I want to be her boyfriend. There is a point of no return. I can’t go back to just pretending it never happened. In essence we can’t just be friends again.

I’ve decided not to pretend to hate her, because I don’t. I was just angry because **she got angry**.

I opened myself up, and she took it as an opportunity to gut me - all because I refuse to hang out with her _and her boyfriend_ together. It is uncomfortable. And I feel taken advantage of.

So I refused to do it, and will continue to refuse to do it. The sour grapes are sour indeed I admit, but one day hopefully it will all just be water under the bridge.

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