# Being stood up on a date -- Why?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 20, 2009, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594 "2009-07-20T05:21:12Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\
**Post date:** [January 14, 2013, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594/41 "2013-01-14T20:36:31Z")

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> [@Slithy\_Tove](#):
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> …or has been sitting there for 3 years, pulling the lamp chain on and off, listening to _Madam Butterfly_

… quietly boiling bunny rabbits. ☹

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**Author:** ![Quimby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/22d042/32.png) [@Quimby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quimby)\
**Post date:** [January 14, 2013, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594/42 "2013-01-14T20:52:43Z")

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Never did it but many (most?) people would rather avoid an uncomfortable situation with a white lie than confront the situation head on. It’s hurtful and selfish but there you go.

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**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594/43 "2013-01-15T20:10:45Z")

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I had it happen to me last week. Was supposed to meet someone from an online dating site in person for coffee as a first meeting. I confirmed it via e-mail 3 hours before the time and she said she would be there. Never showed up, never came back later with an excuse. Still see her profile on the site and it is marked “active within 24 hours”.

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**Author:** ![ReticulatingSplines](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e274bd/32.png) [@ReticulatingSplines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReticulatingSplines)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594/44 "2013-01-15T21:05:30Z")

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Damn, that’s cold.

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**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\
**Post date:** [January 16, 2013, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-stood-up-on-a-date-why/503594/45 "2013-01-16T02:06:26Z")

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> [@YourAdHere](#):
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> I was finally ready to leave when she showed up and explained that, basically, she was on another date at the "Hillel House " or something and had lost track of time.

“If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?”

I guess the answer to that is “when I show up for our date: eye-ee _NEVER!_ Ha ha!”

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