# Being strongly encouraged to get a non-girly drink **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 17, 2017, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532 "2017-07-17T21:21:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/21 "2017-07-17T22:16:42Z")
I hardly ever drink hard alcohol, maybe once or twice a year, but I understand the OP’s desire to fit in a bit. You could try a [Jack Rose](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Rose_(cocktail)), although it’s hard to find a bar that stocks applejack. If they can make it, you might like it; it’s fruity and slightly tart. If they can’t make it, tell your friend that you tried. And either way you’ll be undeniably old school. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/22 "2017-07-17T22:20:06Z")
> [@sevenwood](#): > > Southern Comfort. Technically, it’s a bourbon, but in reality it’s candy alcohol. It’s not technically a bourbon in any way. It’s a sweet liqueur that is made mostly with neutral spirits and whiskey flavoring thrown in. Supposedly, they may actually put some [whiskey in it soon](https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/08/dining/southern-comfort-whiskey.html?_r=1), but even that wouldn’t make it a bourbon. Drink what you want, it’s your birthday! If you like “girly” drinks, just own it. If you want to try drinks that might fulfill the sweet part of your tastes and not quite come off as “girly”, try a gin (or vodka) gimlet. The standard one is fairly sweet & sour, with a gin kick. There’s also the tried-and-true gin-and-tonic. A sidecar might also be a good choice (cointreau [orange liqueur], lemon, and cognac.) ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/23 "2017-07-17T22:33:50Z")
> [@blondebear](#): > > Order a scotch and coke – it will probably taste awful but you can say you wanted to try John Lennon’s favorite cocktail. Or a Jack and coke (Jack Daniels). The JD, which is essentially bourbon (technically a Tennessee whisky) is a bit sweeter and goes fine with coke. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/24 "2017-07-17T22:38:17Z")
Oh, and also, in case you for some reason do decide that a gimlet is up your alley, it’s pronounced with a “hard g,” like in “get,” not a “soft g,” like in “gin.” ---
**Author:** ![Wednesday\_Evening](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b2d939/32.png) [@Wednesday\_Evening](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wednesday_Evening)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/25 "2017-07-17T23:00:53Z")
I don’t know what age has to do with it. If you have a sweet tooth, you have a sweet tooth. I am in my mid 40s and still choose “girly” cocktails. BUT, I completely understand not wanting to rock the boat with your friend. My standard traditional cocktail is a whiskey sour, which is a bit sweet, and it would probably be sophisticated enough for your friend. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/26 "2017-07-17T23:01:40Z")
> [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](#): > > How about an Old Fashioned? On the one hand, it’s sugar and fruit; but on the other, it’s enough bourbon that Frank Sinatra would’ve knocked back a couple. And Don Draper drinks them. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/27 "2017-07-17T23:21:59Z")
Whatever you order, order it with your friend sitting there. Tell the bartender, “my friend tells me I shouldn’t order a girly drink, so can I have a whiskey sour [or whatever] with a finger?” When the bartender asks you what you mean, say, "I have the finger. " Give your friend the finger and enjoy your drink. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/28 "2017-07-17T23:23:04Z")
I like whiskey sours. My first husband had a bear of a sweet tooth. His drinks of choice were screwdrivers and cosmos (the latter of which got him some ribbing). ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/29 "2017-07-17T23:25:06Z")
Boulevardier: Campari, Bourbon, Sweet Vermouth Negroni: Campari, Gin or Vodka, Sweet Vermouth Americano: Campari, Sweet Vermouth Ask for extra Sweet Vermouth if you want it on the sweeter side. Very refreshing. Perfect summer drink. Cheers to you on your b-day! Many happy returns. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/30 "2017-07-17T23:27:45Z")
**Real Men** drink Anti-freeze with a shot of Diesel fuel. And not that pussy greens stuff, either! ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/31 "2017-07-17T23:37:53Z")
Thanks for the recommendations (and the happy birthdays). I think I’m going to take **Tamerlane’s** advice and order whatever my friend recommends. If I absolutely hate it, I’ll order a glass of wine. You can’t get any more sophisticated than that. ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/32 "2017-07-17T23:48:42Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > **Real Men** drink Anti-freeze with a shot of Diesel fuel. > > And not that pussy greens stuff, either! “Gimme a MILKSHAKE! With SOUR MILK!” - Shemp Howard ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/33 "2017-07-17T23:51:12Z")
- Daiquiri rocks (not the blended and frozen kind, the kind that Hemingway drank. If Hemingway drank it, it is by definition not a girly drink.) - Sidecar - Old Fashioned - French 75 (which does look girly, but it’s a classic) ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/34 "2017-07-18T02:32:25Z")
It’s hot out, so enjoy a Tom Collins. It’s a very tall glass of fizzy lemonade with some gin in it. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/35 "2017-07-18T02:35:10Z")
The whiskey sour is also a great suggestion. It’s a Tom Collins with whiskey instead of gin and no fizzy water. Philip Marlowe and Moose Malloy drank them all through _Farewell, My Lovely_, and if you called Moose “girly” he would crush your head between a forefinger and thumb like a pistachio. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/36 "2017-07-18T02:41:27Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > **Real Men** drink Anti-freeze with a shot of Diesel fuel. > > And not that pussy greens stuff, either! Close! I was going to suggest the Sulfuric Acid Straight, but yeah, a shot of Diesel mixed in could definitely make it go down smoother. Or, see: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=830900](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=830900) ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/37 "2017-07-18T02:42:06Z")
Obligatory link to **Kids in the Hall** sketch. [![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/8C4TGGtPzBU/hqdefault.jpg "Kids in the Hall - Girl Drink Drunk") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8C4TGGtPzBU) ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/38 "2017-07-18T02:44:46Z")
First, your friend is an asshole. Think about trading her up. It won’t be hard to trade up from that. What about rum? Mixes with coke well and there’s a variety of things that go well with it. Rum Runner - rum - both light and dark, pineapple juice, orange juice, blackberry liquor, banana liquor, grenadine, loads of ice. That’ll be sweet enough for you. Dark and Stormy - dark rum, ginger beer, slice of lime, on the rocks Or, again, just order a rum and coke and tell the bartender how much of each you want in it. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/39 "2017-07-18T02:50:35Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Mead, drunk from the hollowed skull of your vanquished foe. There’s a lot to recommend, here. And anyone who says mead-drinkers are girly needs to read up on what bastard killers drank mead. There are a number of good sweet berry-based wines in you’re into it. Raspberry, blueberry, even blackberry and lemon and such. Some of those are very good - but there are sweet. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2017, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532/40 "2017-07-18T02:52:16Z")
A note vote for an amaretto sour or whiskey sour. Very sweet drink. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-strongly-encouraged-to-get-a-non-girly-drink/791532.md?page=3)