# Being surprised early for your birthday/wedding anniversary - pleased or angered?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 11, 2018, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008 "2018-05-11T19:55:47Z")\
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**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\
**Post date:** [June 1, 2018, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008/21 "2018-06-01T14:21:55Z")

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I am pleased to be recognized and loved on any date, at any time, in any fashion.

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**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\
**Post date:** [June 1, 2018, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008/22 "2018-06-01T14:54:52Z")

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> [@TimeWinder](#):
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> What sort of psychopath would be ANGERED by friends doing something nice for them? And why would you ever do so again?

Let’s see; between your post & mine we have some people who replied that they don’t like being the center of attention, some people who aren’t big on birthdays in general, & some people who have plans, whether that’s to do something specific or just chill after a long day/week & you’ve just shot them all to Hell.

> [@Northern\_Piper](#):
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> If you’ve told friends not to do something and they do it anyway.

> [@TimeWinder](#):
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> The OP says nothing of the sort, though.

I’d assume that anyone throwing you a party is more than just a casual acquaintance & would know what you do/don’t like. If you’re going to throw someone a surprise party, you should know them well enough to know whether it’s their thing or not; otherwise, you’re really throwing the party for you, not them.

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**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\
**Post date:** [June 1, 2018, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008/23 "2018-06-01T15:02:13Z")

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Precisely.

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**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\
**Post date:** [June 1, 2018, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/being-surprised-early-for-your-birthday-wedding-anniversary-pleased-or-angered/814008/24 "2018-06-01T15:42:09Z")

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The actual day of my birthday/anniversary doesn’t mean much to me, it’s the celebrating with friends and family that’s important. So I’d be pleased.

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