# Best girlfriend reaction to: drunk woman starts hitting on boyfriend **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 19, 2013, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686 "2013-01-19T03:26:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2013, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/21 "2013-01-19T16:39:56Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > I think we discussed this here before, but I never notice if my boobs brush against someone in a crowd situation. Someone would have to come at me palms open or tweak a nipple before I’d notice the difference between backpacks, jackets, books, or body parts. > > But I was listening to a group of boys at college a couple years ago discuss how much they enjoy the increase in enrollment because they get lots more boob on the elevators and in the stairwells. I was surprised to hear that they a) made a game of touching as much surreptitious boob as possible between classes and sharing the details including targeting certain busty or “good” girls leaving the Bible classes and b) were certain the girls were in on it and “getting off” on the contact. > > I’m pretty sure I can refrain from resting my breasts on a colleage’s shoulder as he works, though. Sheesh. That’s pretty forward… That was my response, pretty much. Sometimes if you’re in a crowded space, squeezing past, you don’t notice that much. It’s sort of the same as your bum brushing someone. But some of his descriptions are definitely a little more than that. 😉 Anyway, so long as he is not uncomfortable with it, it doesn’t bother me. ETA: He actually made me sit in a desk chair and demonstrated what his boss does. It was especially funny as he obviously has no boobs and had to really lean in. Haha! But that pretty much made it clear that she is doing it on purpose… ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2013, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/22 "2013-01-19T18:44:09Z")
I’d take the Ceasar approach: No talk, no touch, no eye contact. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2013, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/23 "2013-01-20T08:25:18Z")
Ya’ know, sometimes you ladies think women are hitting on your man when they really weren’t. (Yeah, I know, guys think that too.) I can recall a handful of occassions where my (then) SO would say something to the effect of: “I can’t believe she was hitting on you right in front of me.” When, in fact, there was no ‘hitting on’ anyone. That said, I just start talking about my (at the time) GF when ever this happens. Usually tends to work. When I was in my 20’s I had a couple of GFs that were into the whole threesome thing. But whenever that happened ,it was the GF’s job to set that deal up. If I tried to initiate that shit myself, I’d be in a heap of trouble. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2013, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/24 "2013-01-20T10:52:40Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Ya’ know, sometimes you ladies think women are hitting on your man when they really weren’t. (Yeah, I know, guys think that too.) True. OTOH, how many threads have we had where men have admitted they can’t tell when someone is interested in/flirting with/hitting on them? Lots. Sometimes it’s more obvious to an observer than to the hittee. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2013, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/26 "2013-01-20T21:14:10Z")
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**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2013, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/27 "2013-01-20T23:32:44Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Ya’ know, sometimes you ladies think women are hitting on your man when they really weren’t. (Yeah, I know, guys think that too.) Women typically don’t just talk to random guys in a bar unless there is some level of interest. > [@WhyNot](#): > > True. OTOH, how many threads have we had where men have admitted they can’t tell when someone is interested in/flirting with/hitting on them? Lots. Sometimes it’s more obvious to an observer than to the hittee. The truth is a lot of men (at least on this board) appear to be socially clueless. That is to say, they don’t know how to read a situation, nor do they know how they should react to it. The appropriate response is your SO should come over and make her presence known to you (the guy). You (the guy) should then introduce her as “this is my SO [whoever].” Then the two of you can politely excuse yourself if the situation is uncomfortible. Or the guy can simply be like “excuse me, I have to talk to my SO”. ---
**Author:** ![thelurkinghorror](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@thelurkinghorror](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thelurkinghorror)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/28 "2013-01-21T01:19:03Z")
Jesus Chars? Is he Johnny Storm-Christ? Are the chars of Jesus: 74, 101, 115, 117, 115? ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/29 "2013-01-21T02:13:30Z")
> [@Frosted\_Glass](#): > > I would immediately dump any girlfriend that did this. Just because a girl hits on me doesn’t mean I was asking for it. Nothing in the OP implies that he is “playing along”. It just states that the guy should be a gentleman about the situation. Being a gentleman does not mean he has to allow someone to “start acting brazenly inappropriate toward the guy, trying to exchange phone numbers, smirking at the girlfriend, etc. and continue ramping up the belligerence.” This is disrespectful and I can’t see how anyone would tolerate it. You wouldn’t tolerate it if someone were directly insulting you, so why would you allow someone to openly smirk at your girlfriend? Being a gentleman does not mean that one passively allows others to be belligerent. Both with this case and the other thread, it’s really easy for the person being approached to simply not respond and shoot them down. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/30 "2013-01-21T02:32:01Z")
> [@jesuschars87](#): > > Vasectomy is best way to get a free sex. > What do you think friend? > Are you agreeing with me? Man, that haiku is fucked up. ---
**Author:** ![Biotop](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biotop/32/321_2.png) [@Biotop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biotop)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/31 "2013-01-21T02:42:27Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > Man, that haiku is fucked up. Vasectomy is (are you agreeing with me?) not best friend free sex ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/32 "2013-01-21T02:45:52Z")
Burma [del]Shave[/del]Vasectomy. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2013, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686/33 "2013-01-21T02:47:46Z")
> [@LC\_Strawhouse](#): > > Inspired by that other thread and true events! > > Suppose a guy and his girlfriend are attending a wedding, and a drunk female guest (imagine a Rielle Hunter wannabe) starts acting brazenly inappropriate toward the guy, trying to exchange phone numbers, smirking at the girlfriend, etc. and continues ramping up the belligerence. Obviously the guy needs to laugh it off and be a gentleman, but that can only go so far. Should the girlfriend also step in and tell the pest to get lost? Being a gentleman only goes so far. The guy needs to tell the drunk broad to buzz off. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-girlfriend-reaction-to-drunk-woman-starts-hitting-on-boyfriend/647686.md?page=1)