# Best lines for "picking up" women

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-lines-for-picking-up-women/279043>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [December 10, 2004, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-lines-for-picking-up-women/279043 "2004-12-10T00:56:01Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [January 21, 2005, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-lines-for-picking-up-women/279043/61 "2005-01-21T03:33:15Z")

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> [@sjc](#):
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> I’m a socially inept guy and I would love to follow your advice on just talking with a girl, but one of the problems I have is interpreting visual cues. I mean no one’s eyes really glaze over. I realize that it would be good to learn those cues, but I don’t what they are. You could tell them to me, but I don’t think they’d just sink in.
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> Actually, I _am_ aware of visual cues. I can often get a sense that someone is getting bored (I think I’m maybe not as good at it as a lot of people, but I am not completely hopeless). What often happens is that when it looks like the person I am talking to is getting bored I get flustered. I have a hard time changing topics smoothly (I never know what to change it to).

Ok, I understand it’s difficult. Do you have female friends? Chat with them, watch them for visual cues.

I hate small talk, too, it drives me batty. I also have a hard time changing topics with people I don’t know very well because I really hate to offend. Confident I am, I doubt this will ever go away. the only other thing I can tell you is: there are lots of fish in the sea. If you don’t catch this one, there are others.

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**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\
**Post date:** [January 21, 2005, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-lines-for-picking-up-women/279043/62 "2005-01-21T03:42:13Z")

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> [@sjc](#):
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> (bolding mine)
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> I’m a socially inept guy and I would love to follow your advice on just talking with a girl, but one of the problems I have is interpreting visual cues. I mean no one’s eyes really glaze over. I realize that it would be good to learn those cues, but I don’t what they are. You could tell them to me, but I don’t think they’d just sink in.
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> Actually, I _am_ aware of visual cues. I can often get a sense that someone is getting bored (I think I’m maybe not as good at it as a lot of people, but I am not completely hopeless). What often happens is that when it looks like the person I am talking to is getting bored I get flustered. I have a hard time changing topics smoothly (I never know what to change it to).

I’m better at reading visual cues women give, though unfortunately I think a certain degree of it is trial-and-error; I can tell you some subtleties, but ultimately you are going to have to observe what woman ‘A’ did right before she kicked you in the balls, and what woman ‘B’ did right before she took you back to her apartment 😉 . Once you figure that out, it gets a little easier, and you start to feel more confident, because you have a better handle on how she is reacting to you, and there is less guesswork/hand wringing about it.

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