# Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 23, 2005, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551 "2005-06-23T16:55:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Amp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Amp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amp)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/1 "2005-06-23T16:55:30Z")
Yeah right! Fuck you Saint Augustine. Your pretty boy ass probably never lost. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/2 "2005-06-23T17:01:23Z")
Um… Taco. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/3 "2005-06-23T17:04:14Z")
Curious. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/4 "2005-06-23T17:04:40Z")
Small consolation to someone who has recently lost. Also, a good way to get your nose punched. ---
**Author:** ![Neurotik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/91b2a8/32.png) [@Neurotik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neurotik)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/5 "2005-06-23T17:40:31Z")
It sucks, but I wholeheartedly agree with the sentiment. ---
**Author:** ![Satchmo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/satchmo/32/4223_2.png) [@Satchmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Satchmo)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/6 "2005-06-23T18:09:18Z")
Isn’t that like saying: “Better to have driven off a cliff, than never to have been in a car.” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/7 "2005-06-23T18:30:40Z")
Someone here (can’t remember who) share this wisdom with me…: Better to have loved and lost than to have spent the rest of your life with that fucking lunatic. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/8 "2005-06-23T18:37:58Z")
Hah! ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/9 "2005-06-23T18:43:49Z")
> [@Satchmo](#): > > Isn’t that like saying: “Better to have driven off a cliff, than never to have been in a car.” > 🙂 Depends on the car. 😉 Here’s hoping **Amp** ’s ex is a Yugo. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/10 "2005-06-23T18:50:14Z")
I actually think this minor exchange from _Men in Black_ covered it pretty well. J: Well, better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, right? K: Try it. ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_Rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_Rat)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/11 "2005-06-23T19:54:53Z")
“It’s better to have loved and lost your house, a car, and half your check for 20 years than to never have loved at all” I think is the entire quote. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/12 "2005-06-23T20:04:27Z")
Bad break up or death in the family? ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/13 "2005-06-23T21:00:36Z")
My cat’s breath smells like cat ass. ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/14 "2005-06-23T21:14:29Z")
> [@Amp](#): > > Yeah right! Fuck you Saint Augustine. Your pretty boy ass probably never lost. Yes, actually, yes he did. Several times. He knew what the fuck he was talking about, believe you me. Don’t talk trash about the dude who said “Make me chaste, oh lord, but not now.” ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/15 "2005-06-23T21:17:32Z")
The man was a saint, you hear me? A _saint!!_ ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_Rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_Rat)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/16 "2005-06-23T21:21:53Z")
> [@pravnik](#): > > The man was a saint, you hear me? A _saint!!_ Nice guys finish last? Why do chicks dig bad boys? There has to be a backstory in here. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/17 "2005-06-23T21:49:53Z")
Augie didn’t like women very much–and didn’t he revile the bodily lusts or some such nonsense? Methinks he made it up to make losing sound good. Hmm–he is something of a spin doctor! ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/18 "2005-06-23T21:56:18Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > Augie didn’t like women very much–and didn’t he revile the bodily lusts or some such nonsense? > > Methinks he made it up to make losing sound good. > > Hmm–he is something of a spin doctor! As much as I would love to hijack this thread even further about the life of Augustine…aw fuck it, it’s too late. To make a long story short, Augustine was a serious player in his youth. He always had concubines, one of whom he lived with in sin for over two years. He is quite candid about the pain he felt when he had to send her away. ---
**Author:** ![fushj00mang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@fushj00mang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fushj00mang)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/19 "2005-06-23T22:56:58Z")
> [@Maeglin](#): > > He is quite candid about the pain he felt when he had to send her away. So, he wasn’t a spin doctor, he was an emo rock singer? ---
**Author:** ![fushj00mang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@fushj00mang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fushj00mang)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551/20 "2005-06-23T22:58:27Z")
Oh, and Amp, what’s the deal with the op (the rest of the story)? C’mon, we need to know so we can either console you or beat you. Please? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/better-to-have-loved-and-lost-than-to-have-never-loved-at-all/309551.md?page=2)