# BF keeping the "little black book" **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 21, 2009, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214 "2009-08-21T16:49:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214/21 "2009-08-21T20:34:33Z")
The LBB is quite like an insurance policy; both are accessed after their respective catastrophe(s). Therefore, store it in a lock box or in a vault at the bank, like you would with other important papers, and only access it when you have to. ---
**Author:** ![lexi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lexi/32/6806_2.png) [@lexi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lexi)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214/22 "2009-08-21T21:31:33Z")
I’m female & I think the LBB can be kept for however long anyone wants to keep it, as long as it is kept closed if and when the relationship becomes exclusive. But honestly, in this day, how do people really keep a LBB, is it just a Facebook list, or some sort of phonelist on your cell or what? ---
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214/23 "2009-08-21T23:14:12Z")
Whether it’s a LBB or a prenup what you’re saying is “I’m going into this with the expectation that there is a reasonable chance of failure.” You could amend this question by saying “When should I take my profile off a dating website?” However I guess you have to look at it overall. For instance, does the LBB serve a purpose. It’s like is the guy also saving all his birthday and Christmas cards he has received over the years from his ex-girlfriends? As for me, if I loved someone enough and wanted to keep my LBB, I’d be honest and if my partner wanted me to give it up, I would. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214/24 "2009-08-21T23:32:21Z")
> [@Kalypso](#): > > I’ve had men tell me they have been made to get rid of keepsakes, photos, contact information, porn, all sorts of things. I just don’t get it, if my love has any of those things tucked away somewhere I’m not threatened by them. Flaunting them at me would offend me though, except the porn, we share porn. +1 Heck, I don’t mind if mrAru hits the occasional strip club after work with the guys. He actually doesn’t now he is out of the navy, but when he was still in they would occasionally hit some club or another. I used to like going to the e-club at the Amphib base in Norfolk, they had 25 cent beer and 10 cent wings along with the strippers. More people went there for the beer and wings than the strippers. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214/25 "2009-08-22T03:00:01Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > People actually _have_ little black books? I thought they were something out of _Archie_ comics. How is it different from a regular address book? Just contacts of women (or your preferred gender), or are there stars and notes and things? > > I would find it odd if my SO kept his if only because I’d feel the need to point out that computers are like big books where you never run out of ink. I guess the equivalent is… staying Facbook friends with exes and past flings? That was my thought too, it’s like something out of an I Dream of Jeanie episode. She should dump him for being a huge cliche. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bf-keeping-the-little-black-book/507214.md?page=1)